Would you be offended if your dh wasn’t sure he wanted you there at a medical appointment

[Lardlizard]

Not said no just that he would think about it

It’s a back appointment so nothing too personal

Nope. His body, his appointment, his right to privacy.

Why would you want to go? He’s a grown up and is perfectly entitled to speak to a doctor privately without his partner being there. How bizarre that you’d even suggest going.

Not in the slightest. I might offer to go if was worried but he’s an adult and would cope fine without me.

Perplexed as to why you would assume it’s appropriate to be present at his appointment?

Probably not for a back appointment, no. If he had been diagnosed with some terrible disease then probably yes.

Why do you want to go with him?

Why do you want to go? I wouldn’t even consider going to my H’s appointment.

Not enough information tbh, I would never take anyone to a medical appointment so it wouldn't bother me in the slightest but I'm not you and you obviously do care or you wouldn't have asked

I'm not sure what you're expecting posters to say

No, I prefer to be alone for medical appointments as well, I feel more self conscious with multiple people there listening to me talk about my problems, even if one of those people is my partner. I’ve always been this way since I was a teenager and would ask my mum to wait outside, maybe he’s the same?

your husband is an adult so why would he need you there? How strange, it's his personal business

Why would you be offended? His body, his choice.

Actually, why would you even expect to be at what sounds like a pretty run of the mill appointment?

Not at all. My dh has had quite a lot of medical appointments over the past couple of years and hasn't always wanted me there. Just as I wouldn't always want him at mine.

I also find it very strange that you would want to go.

No, I wouldn't want DH coming to my medical appointments, and it wouldn't occur to me to want to go to his. Why do you want to go with him?

No. My DH definitely wouldn't want me there, why on earth would he? He's an autonomous adult.

You're unlikely to be able to go along unnecessarily anyway due to covid restrictions- this would not offend me in the slightest, I would only go along if I was asked for support reasons

No. To be honest I would wait to be asked. It is not something I would like.

Where I work only the patient is allowed to enter the hospital at the moment due to covid restrictions, children (obviously) and people with disabilities are allowed to bring someone or if the clinician has advised it for bad news etc

Neither of us have ever been with each other to medical appointments other than pregnancy scans so no.

It wouldn't bother me. I've also had appointments where my husband has offered to come along and I've said no thanks. It's not been an issue.

The crucial information that's missing here is why you want to go with him?

How would you act? Would you interfere? Talk for him? Talk over him?

I don't think anyone can really say without that info but of course it's his personal choice anyway.

Our practice is not allowing anyone to come in with the patient unless a minor or they require a carer. Even if there weren’t a pandemic, I wouldn’t attend with my husband unless it was something complicated/ serious and he asked me to.

Are you ok op??

No not in the slightest, but then I wouldn't suggest it.

Just what I thought, it’s actualy me that has the appointment and He said he would come and I said let me have a think about it
Now he’s offended that I don’t want him there
I never said he couldn’t come just that I’d think about it

I've never been to another adult's medical appointments and always go alone to mine.

In any case, much better for the patient to be able to speak freely to their doctor, rather than holding back because they have someone else with them.

Wouldn't cross my mind to ask if I could attend. Of course if he asked me to attend I would. Have never asked him to attend one of mine but I guess there could come a time where it might be something I would want and so would ask.