Baby been crying for 3 hours

[OhToBeASeahorse]

Any suggestions or virtual hugs desperately needed

Flick the lights on and make a coffee, OP. TV on. I find bad nights are infinitely worse when you're in semi darkness trying to fight sleep. When she's down, try co-sleeping with her.

You can
You'll hate every minute, but you can do it

I remember you, Seahorse! I think we were on a 'Why are you awake?' thread while waiting for labour? I've a five week old DS. I'm sorry you're going through such a rough patch. I second PP above, you can do it!

Are you on your own? If not can DP take out in the car ( if you have a car)?
Possibly very overtired so now finding it harder to sleep.
It gets easier but I agree with pp sitting in the dark in the middle of the night feels very lonely and makes it worse.

I remember my lovely first born doing this to me at around the same age. I fed her, winded her, changed her. She screamed and screamed. An hour passed. Still with the screaming. I tried everything. It was 3am. My husband was frantically googling and I was pacing the floor.

In the end I made her another couple of ounces of formula. I had exhausted everything else. She devoured it and settled down happily to sleep. I could not believe it! She had been regularly feeding every four hours and I was so blinded by the routine that I could not fathom that that would be the issue.

DH has taken her for a drive.

My toddler will be awake in about 4.5 hours. He was such a high needs baby. I cant do it again. I can't.

I've never felt so crap.

@FourPlatinumRings that sounds about right!

I co-sleep, but for a while she'd only fall asleep on me. Getting get to sleep would be:

• fall asleep on me lying down, wait 20 mins for deep sleep
• roll over onto side with babe on arm held close. 20 mins for deep sleep
• Extricate arm

Good luck

You can do it. You can. You’ve got this. You will keep going and you’ll keep putting one foot in front of the other and then before you know it it’ll start to get easier. You can

Hopefully getting the latch checked will see an improvement.

You can do it op. You're having a shitty night but it will end. I agree with a PP, put the TV on and a dim light so you're not spending hours in the dark, get yourself a drink, pace up and down with her, wiggle, shake, bounce, sleep with her. Whatever you think might work even if she only sleeps for a few minutes at a time. Do you have a DH or DP? Will they get up for an hour and do the pacing/bouncing so you can get an hour or two sleep?

just seen DH has taken her out. Go to sleep. When DS gets up put the telly on for him.

You can do this. Coffee and strength of will. Your DH will rise to the occasion, he already is. MN is behind you. And you're already a mum. So you can. And, coffee.

Hope you get some sleep before your other dc wakes up. I used to feed DS, hand him to DH to wear in the wrap and he would also take DD out at the same time. For some reason DS would have a really good sleep on him in the wrap which seemed to help re-set everything. And I got a blissful 1-2hrs wherever I fell after they left the building. Could you try this?

I had a colicky screamer for eight months but he was medically fragile and on oxygen-I swear it was up there with Chinese water torture. I can honestly say he woke up one day happy and smiley-beats the hell out of me to explain the how and why but it's the truth. We switched around formula until he tolerated a soy based one. Best of luck Mom and Dad

[quote OhToBeASeahorse]@FourPlatinumRings that sounds about right![/quote]
It's so nice to recognise people! I agree with PP- get some sleep now. When your DH returns her to you, lights on and TV. Co-sleep once bubs is down. Is your DH at home tomorrow? Could he have your eldest so you can sleep in with DD?

I'd never usually suggest this either, as I'm an exclusive breastfeeder as a rule, but I remember the horror that was my own DD as a newborn and can imagine the hell you're going through having a second that bad with a toddler on top. So, could you send your DH out for some pre-prepared formula? I did that when I was at my lowest ebb with DD. If she then sleeps at least you'll know hunger is the problem.

Is she crying still or just awake? No advice but for you - you are doing this
I have my 10 wk old and my 2 yr old awake at the moment - dreading tomorrow but will see my mum (support bubble) Sunday so will hope for a rest then - is there any respite you have to look forward to, to help you through? Handhold OP

Ah missed some updates - hope you’re asleep!

Big big hugs, it is totally shit and I really feel for you. My eldest was like this and I was so miserable, he had silent reflux and we found baby gaviscon from the GP helped. He was mixed fed though and had difficulty feeding

70 years ago when my sister was born my dad took her out in the car every night at about midnight to get her to drop off - usually took an hour. It became routine for them and part of his parenting (dads didn't do much parenting then!). Could you and your partner see if this is an option for a couple of weeks - it might save your sanity. 💐💐💐

2 like this cant be bad luck. I'm clearly just doing it wrong.

DH is very low today. It's all a bit shit in my house today.

You can do this. It is shit but you can. You got this.

What’s the bedtime routine like? Although maybe at 5 weeks there isn’t much of one. I can’t remember.

Ds wasn’t a crier really. Dd was. The minute I switched to formula though things improved.

The age gap is 20 months so ds was getting very clingy when I was bf and I was in a lot of pain and exhausted which all formed part of the decision to switch. It worked for us. Helped massively that dh could take a shift.

Can you try and rest today?

You have my utmost sympathy. Ds1 had colic and screamed pretty much non stop from 2-10 weeks. I remember how soul destroying it felt when I couldn’t do anything to help.

5-6 weeks is peak crying. It will only get better from here. Try to keep it in mind that it is not anything you are doing/not doing. It’s shit but it will pass.

If you need 5 mins away from the screaming, put the baby down somewhere safe and go and calm yourself down. Baby will be fine, you need to look after your own mental health at this time.

It will get better. My little red faced, furious baby is now a (mostly) delightful 3 year old. Keep going just take it one day at a time and it will gradually keep getting better. Your in the worst bit now. The only way is up.

I feel for you, I remember those days well.

You might not feel it now, but you’re an amazing mum and you’re in the right place doing all the things you can.

I’m sure they’re sent to test us to the very limit, and then tip toe over the line just because.. and then you’ll find the thing that helps, or they’ll do something particularly cute

Hang in there!

(Also, my DD would only take a certain brand of dummy, would it be worth trying a different sort? if you haven’t already ofc)