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ADs are braving the wind and the rain

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CruCru · 30/10/2020 09:12

Hi all

I couldn’t find the new thread so here is one I set up. It’s windy out there! Glad I weeded my flowerbeds a couple of days ago.

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NannyGythaOgg · 01/11/2020 20:17

hiding topics - down arrow to the right of 'Talk' options and you can choose to hide. BUT as @Sonicthehedgehogg said it's all over every where else because however much they want to tell you to follow the rules they don't even know how to use the site properly. I have the teachers thread hidden too but of course some of them are far too important to stay on there and anyway want to tell the rest of us how hard done to they are

Curlygirl06 · 01/11/2020 20:26

@MercyBooth

Any childless/childfree couples on this thread?

Re support bubbles this seems to be the group that are stuffed. If i was single i could be a support bubble with another household Im married so i cant , No kids so dont need childcare. Any journos fancy writing a piece on this?

Hi I'm child free in so much as all our kids are grown up, 3 with children of their own. I do a day of school run/ looking after a baby for one of my daughters but she's got her mil doing another day as she works. I can't do the day that her mil does as I'm at work, mil can't do my day so what is my daughter supposed to do? She's doing the sensible thing and carrying on as before, good girl! I've got dh here, hopefully he won't be furloughed although he was first time round. We get on great but I do like my own time. My best friend is widowed but I can't bubble with her as her eldest lives with her but he's not much company as he's got a different lifestyle ( cars and crap music!) We go out every week shopping as she can't drive so what can she do? Again, sensible answer, carry on as usual, tho she'll be in the back of the car with a mask on now. Ridiculous really as we've been shopping together again since the end of lockdown and we're in a very low area for covid.
MercyBooth · 01/11/2020 20:34

@AcornAutumn Ta. Reading the other board in the first lockdown didnt help and the Gov guidance wasnt that clear during lockdown one. Plus all the chopping and changing they keep doing.

Dowser · 01/11/2020 20:39

We are carrying on as usual until stopped
Just like we did before

Littlebelina · 01/11/2020 20:41

It's a bit like someone has left the gate open at the dickhead farm across the boards today.

MercyBooth · 01/11/2020 20:49

Exactly @Curlygirl06 Its the ridiculousness that is getting to me And many others.

AcornAutumn · 01/11/2020 20:50

[quote MercyBooth]@AcornAutumn Ta. Reading the other board in the first lockdown didnt help and the Gov guidance wasnt that clear during lockdown one. Plus all the chopping and changing they keep doing.[/quote]
Yes, I guess it’s more straightforward for me as mum is widowed and lives alone.

I’m rather annoyed that the media seem to be emphasising childcare but not elder care. I get the impression some elderly are expected to manage with no company. One of my neighbours did food shopping for elderly but tbh I think some of them could have ordered online, they understandably wanted a chat with a real person when food is dropped off. Again, that will be harder in poor weather.

TheOrchidKiller · 01/11/2020 20:51

"I think they said about sitting in a bench with a sandwich as an example or something yesterday (gov)"

Ooh, a sandwich! Careful now!
I like the hip-flask idea.

Have had a breakthrough with very anxious DM. She is still worried about a woman she saw coughing in the Co-op, but she is now on board with meeting one friend at a time "for exercise" (ie walking in the park). She now thinks lockdown has gone too far, & agrees with DF who has refused to shield again if asked to do so.

We also had a chat on the phone about how we feel we've become domestic drudges. Pre-covid we rattled through the chores, we weren't at home a lot so the house stayed cleaner for longer. It was easier to ignore housework because there were other things to do outside of the home.

Now there are people at home all the time, they make a mess. It's hard to hoover when someone else is in a zoom meeting. There's less places to go to escape the mess so we clean it up, partly to relieve the boredom. Then there's the making sure that there's enough food just in case. It doesn't matter how domesticated the rest of the household is, the bulk of the chores fall to us. We both married men who are blind to untidyness, & who make more mess when they clean up. Neither of us do extra cleaning because of covid- well, she wipes the shopping.

zigaziga · 01/11/2020 20:53

@Whoooootaminute

Is it possible to hide whole topics?

I find myself drawn to the coronaviris threads even though I know I'll get riled up.

Same!

I hate them all but I can’t help it. The teachers ones ... but then also the one today saying do you hug your friends? The OP hadn’t met up socially with her friend since March (!) so surely if you believe the whole narrative that if only people had stayed at home a little more then we’d be free of COVID (because that’s how viruses work - as we all know, if you pick up the common cold it’s your own damn fault Hmm) then she is doing her part more than most! But still “I can’t believe you’d even ask that” etc.

I am curious though because everyone on these threads makes out that when they meet friends socially they social distance at all times .. I never really see people doing this? No one that I have come across since March has made an attempt to social distance from me- e.g. passing me a cup of tea directly into my hand or opening a door for me.. So they haven’t passed anyone a cup of tea or anything for 7.5 months?

I am worried about this lockdown. As crap as the first one was (and I’ve never been pro full lockdown) there was something weirdly friendly about it at the start when the BBC added loads of box sets onto iPlayer for instance and kids put rainbows in their windows. I never really took part in the Thursday (was it Thursday?) claps but again it was all kind of jolly and you felt like you were really in your community. This one feels very, very dark. It’s like this weird pause during the eye of the storm where we know what’s coming next - job losses and people losing their homes and late cancer diagnosis and all the rest of it - but no one can just stick their heads in the sand and make the most of it this time in the sun because the weather is shit and we’re all just acutely aware of what comes next.

Ken1976 · 01/11/2020 21:12

I sneaked into Wales twice this weekend . Once to pick up 2 of my grandchildren to bring them to see their dad as per his court order , and again to take them home . It's a four hour round trip and I didn't get out of the car once . The teenagers were in the back seat so I don't think I've been spreading Covid about . My son hadn't seen them for months and it's really affected his daughters mental health so a visit was definitely in order .

Daydreamsinglorioustechnicolor · 01/11/2020 21:16

@zigaziga I agree, very different feel this time. Like we're all knackered but know there's worse to come

Bollss · 01/11/2020 21:18

Definitely feels darker and more hopeless this time. I think because last time we all thought it was a one off, would end much sooner that it did and Boris obviously gave us lots of false hope. There was an "all in it together vibe" to start with at least. Now, all that has gone. It's not a one off, none of us trust it'll end when they say it will, and we are definitely not all in it together anymore.

Justgivemewine · 01/11/2020 21:21

I’ve managed to avoid the corona board today, and also snoozed both my dementory fb friend (everyone is going to die because we don’t wear masks 24/7) and my conspiracy theorist friend (it’s all a plot by China to take over the world) although the contrast in their posts was quite entertaining especially when their posts popped up together.

Anyway ds2 went on a murdering spree at the local bike jump track today breathing heavily into the fresh air and having fun while he still can before he goes back to school and has to isolate because he coughed on a bit of dust.

Just glad the kids are back at school even though dh and I are both vulnerable, they need to be back.

DominaShantotto · 01/11/2020 21:23

Aaah I see the fuckwits have decided country naice walks are only for country people and you mustn't drive to walk along a deserted beach because that's a non-essential journey.

I am experiencing bursts of total DESPAIR intermingled with extreme deja vu.

expectingnumber3 · 01/11/2020 21:25

Thanks for still being an oasis of sanity, especially this weekend. I need to say off MN, it's a mad house! Have been reporting posts all day. Has anyone ventured on to the China thread? Posters there are salivating over the lock down in China, wishing we had done the same. Some posters are fighting the good fight for human rights but the message seems to be that those are for weak whingers. The mind boggles.

WouldBeGood · 01/11/2020 21:26

@DominaShantotto my most puzzling moment on that thread was when someone took a huff as they don’t have a car so can’t go out to the country... 🤔

Justgivemewine · 01/11/2020 21:26

I think it feels worse this time as we know that the gov can’t be trusted that it is only 4 weeks and also because it coming up to winter, rain, cold, dark nights etc, whereas before it was spring, the weather was good, we could go,out to exercise in the sun and believed it would all be better in a few months, now we are more cynical.

expectingnumber3 · 01/11/2020 21:27

@DominaShantotto

Aaah I see the fuckwits have decided country naice walks are only for country people and you mustn't drive to walk along a deserted beach because that's a non-essential journey.

I am experiencing bursts of total DESPAIR intermingled with extreme deja vu.

Saw that one too! Do these people really live amongst us? How do they manage day to day life? Just so, so odd.
DominaShantotto · 01/11/2020 21:28

Saw that one too! Do these people really live amongst us? How do they manage day to day life? Just so, so odd.

As they've been at utter pains to point out - no they don't live among us because we're dirty POOR urban dwellers and they own the NAICE countryside.

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SirSamuelVimes · 01/11/2020 21:36

@DominaShantotto

Saw that one too! Do these people really live amongst us? How do they manage day to day life? Just so, so odd.

As they've been at utter pains to point out - no they don't live among us because we're dirty POOR urban dwellers and they own the NAICE countryside.

My ILs were very much of this opinion in the summer. I was a tiny bit smug when they were put in tier 2 while our dirty urban (in their minds, we're semi rural really) area stayed in tier 1.
DominaShantotto · 01/11/2020 21:37

And right on cue - my phone pops up with a photos reminder from late April - of the kids doing some lockdown learning stuff I'd photographed to evidence for a Cub badge. Looks all calm, wholesome and oh look we can close schools and it's fine - but I remember how utterly dark things were getting by then and my heart rate's gone right up and the panic is rising just seeing it replay.

SirSamuelVimes · 01/11/2020 21:42

@DominaShantotto

And right on cue - my phone pops up with a photos reminder from late April - of the kids doing some lockdown learning stuff I'd photographed to evidence for a Cub badge. Looks all calm, wholesome and oh look we can close schools and it's fine - but I remember how utterly dark things were getting by then and my heart rate's gone right up and the panic is rising just seeing it replay.
Oh Dom, you poor thing. Can you get your DH to go through and delete any lockdown learning pictures you no longer need? That way you won't have to see them.
Sonicthehedgehogg · 01/11/2020 21:44

@Justgivemewine

I think it feels worse this time as we know that the gov can’t be trusted that it is only 4 weeks and also because it coming up to winter, rain, cold, dark nights etc, whereas before it was spring, the weather was good, we could go,out to exercise in the sun and believed it would all be better in a few months, now we are more cynical.
They've already started dropping the "will we? Won't we?" hints haven't they though. Makes me think of that Eddie Izzard skit where he repeatedly contradicts himself.
DominaShantotto · 01/11/2020 21:47

I won’t delete them as they’re part of the kids childhood and I think it will damage them more in the long term if they have a blank space in their life history.