To be mortified by this

[mortifiedmam]

Dd has free school meals. She's off school (half term has finished here) because she was in contact with a teacher who has tested positive but because she sits at the back of the classroom she was more than 2m away so doesn't have to self isolate but they are being taught by zoom lessons as precaution.

We have just had a letter through the door with a voucher to cover the cost of her lunches for the week. I am so embarrassed that the school felt it necessary to come and hand deliver it to us. At least they didn't knock on the door!

If you are not embarrassed by the free school meals but happy to accept them, why would you be embarrassed by the school trying to maintain the scheme?

Are you for real? Are you blaming a school for trying to help you?

My understanding of the OP was that she was embarrassed that they came out, not of the vouchers themselves. Personally, I hate it when I think people are making a fuss of me and might be putting themselves out so I too might have been a little bashful. Hope you get some bargains @mortifiedmam

You'd think people would be grateful that their kids are not forgotten completely and schools or local authorities trying to maintain the level of care.

Honestly, people cannot win! The competitive offended posters are getting beyond ridiculous.

Aw I totally get the feeling overwhelmed that someone cares @mortifiedmam. (Maybe mortified is the wrong word).
The only serious boyfriend I've had since my dcs dad (sadly now also an ex) tucked me up in bed and made sure the dc were fed when I came down with a sickness bug. I was so unused to having someone do that, without having to phone my mum and ask her to pick them up. I bawled my eyes out!

Honestly there are some arseholes on here!!!
Don't be soo mean to her, a lot of people are embarrassed at taking charity.

I don't think this has anything to do with pride, actually. I'm guessing Op is feeling overwhelmed at the moment and the delivery of the vouchers has triggered all sorts of feelings, relief and gratitude for starters. If this is right then an act (hand delivering vouchers) becomes much more of kind gesture to someone not used to kind gesture s.

It's ok to feel the way you feel Op, just know that there are people and organisations out there that can offer help if you're struggling. are you having to isolate too as Dd is too young to be left? Are there other kids at home?

cuparfull yet she’s fine taking the fsm while her daughter is AT school 🤔

@mortifiedmam I get it too. You’re embarrassed that attention has been drawn to the fact that your child gets free school meals because you’re on low income. I’m sure you’re glad that your child gets free school meals (it was a help to my family that I got these at school) but it’s the sort of help that people are glad to receive in a low key way, rather than with all the effort that would have gone into buying and delivering vouchers.

There’s nothing strange or illogical about how you feel. It’s not as straightforward as saying you should just be glad that you got the voucher. Those who say that just don’t really understand what it’s like to feel that way. I understand, because I’ve experienced it myself.

Puts teamlucille on an excel spreadsheet.

That's a fucking shitty thing to say. Reporting you for sounding like a twat.
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Some really unpleasant posts on here.

OP your feelings are understandable but please try not to overthink it.

@Givemeabreak88

cuparfull yet she’s fine taking the fsm while her daughter is AT school 🤔

Read the thread, she takes packed lunches now

@HoofWankingSpangleCunt

Puts teamlucille on an excel spreadsheet.

That's a fucking shitty thing to say. Reporting you for sounding like a twat.
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Seriously?

@HoofWankingSpangleCunt

I don't think this has anything to do with pride, actually. I'm guessing Op is feeling overwhelmed at the moment and the delivery of the vouchers has triggered all sorts of feelings, relief and gratitude for starters. If this is right then an act (hand delivering vouchers) becomes much more of kind gesture to someone not used to kind gesture s.

It's ok to feel the way you feel Op, just know that there are people and organisations out there that can offer help if you're struggling. are you having to isolate too as Dd is too young to be left? Are there other kids at home?

Spot on.

OP you're not ungrateful or an arsehole or any of the other insults chucked about. You're just one person getting through a pandemic and you don't need to feel shit.

I've also reported some.

Just me and Dd

If you don't need it and you don't need free school meal entitlement you should probably stop claiming them?

mortifiedmam but you must have claimed them at some point and you said she only doesn’t get them because she doesn’t like queuing nothing about being embarrassed

You don't need to reply to anyone or justify yourself mortifiedmam particularly not to the rude ones. I'm going to try and not feed the trolls myself.

I get you, OP. You feel a bit exposed by the up-close awareness of your financial situation on the part of the school, and possibly embarrassed that you do actually need the help. MN is a nest of vipers, isn’t it?

Bloody hell, there's is a massive uproar and scandal in this country about kids NOT given the food they should have a right to, and we have a thread like this!

There are some arseholes indeed, not the ones pretended to be morally offended though.

Think of it this way mortified

You actually did the school a favour by filling out the original forms.

When universal fsm for ks1 was rolled out it really impacted schools as no one needed to fill those forms out so they lost out on funding. By filling the forms out you helped the school obtain extra funding.

Please don’t get upset. I understand how it makes you feel but it was done discreetly. Luckily, Marcus Rashford has told the country he had free school meals. I have just written to my MP to ask what his reasons were for voting against children having free school meals in the holidays. MPs get a substantial allowance for their meals. I saw an example of the menu and the prices the other day. Gourmet dining at Brewer’s Fayre prices. If I were an MP then I would be embarrassed at accepting that when Foodbanks need provisions. Hold your head up high. ❤️❤️❤️

@HoofWankingSpangleCunt

Puts teamlucille on an excel spreadsheet.

That's a fucking shitty thing to say. Reporting you for sounding like a twat.
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is an excel spreadsheet the MN equivalent of a naughty step for you or something?

If you report people for "sounding like a twat", hope you also gave your own charming username on your report post?

@MudSmudge reread my post. I said help someone feels they shouldn't need not doesn't need