Ex's grandfather put me in will.

[reducingfootprint]

This is my daughters situation.
She dated her ex from 18 to 23, ended badly and have not spoken in 4 years.
Grandfather and DD got on, she is a caring person and probably to be polite listened to all his stories etc. He lived on her route to her bus stop so would drop his newspaper etc round every morning, she says his family werent the most caring or couldnt be bothered with him. They both have an interest in nature and the environment etc, she says they were close but not overly. She viewed him as her partners grandfather and nothing more.

He has since passed and DD was contacted to say he has left her a sum of around 15k to her but not much to his own family.
WWYD?

[wendywoopywoo222]

I'd be very happy for her. She was obviously much appreciated.

[TheHouseonHauntedHill]

You cannot choose your family.
My dB whom I have not spoken too for nealry 20 years.. Had a gf... Nealry 30 years ago.. She was in our lives for about 2 years and she still means more to me than my dB ever will. She was very special.

Your dd should enjoy this behest, saying who we leave ourselves money too is one of our last freedoms.

Enjoy it! Set her up?!

Pass it on 1⃣ day...
We don't have to leave money to anyone we don't want too. Just shows a little kindness goes a long way.

[MsTSwift]

In England we have freedom of testamentary capacity as long as he had capacity he can leave his estate to whoever he chooses subject to anyone relying on him..

[HappyBumbleBee]

It was his wish for your daughter to receive this from him. He had four years to change it if he wanted to when they split up and didn’t.
Sounds like he was a lovely man and more fool his family for not giving him that bit of extra time to be kind like your daughter did.
It costs nothing to be nice and I’d say she made a huge difference in his life x

[SunshineCake]

I'd think how lovely and what a kind man and spend it on something sensible .

[S111n20]

As others have said take the money and put to good use and be proud of your daughter for been so caring taking him newspapers ect when nobody else could be bothered. He obviously thought your daughter was a lovely lady and deserved it.

[VettiyaIruken]

She should honour his wishes and accept it gracefully.

It was his money and his choice who he wanted to have it.

[diddl]

Unless the GF suddenly became very ill when your daughter & her ex split, he has had 4yrs to change his mind.

I'd accept.

Not sure it would even cross my mind not to!

[PinkAngelDelight]

He wanted her to have it!

[WhenISnappedAndFarted]

Absolutely respect his wishes, he wanted her to have it so she should have it

[MrsGulDukat]

It may not have been much but it sounds like your DD meant a lot to this man.

For people who are often left alone, a small gesture can mean the world.

Hope she enjoys his final gift to her.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Sounds like he had the measure of his family and decided to leave his money to someone who actually gave a shit about him.

[areyoubeingserviced]

Accept it.

[Queenoftheashes]

Obviously she takes it; sounds like he had a crap family and didn’t want them to receive much

[Goatinthegarden]

What a lovely gesture from the elderly man; your daughter’s kindness clearly meant a lot to him.

She should accept the money and enjoy it.

[CantGetDecentNickname]

Nothing to do; it was his wish and she deserved it by the sound of things.

[grenlei]

She should absolutely take the money and spend it wisely - house deposit or something like that. And also be proud that her small gestures of kindness really meant something to an elderly man in the last years of his life.

Agree with pp it would be a lovely gesture to use a small amount of money to do something in his memory, maybe a donation to a nature charity or tree planting in the National Forest or similar.

[OrtamLeevz]

He's bequeathed the money to someone he cared about, and who was kind to him. Take the money and remember him with fondness.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

@Goatinthegarden

What a lovely gesture from the elderly man; your daughter’s kindness clearly meant a lot to him.

She should accept the money and enjoy it.

This

[GoodbyePorpoiseSpit]

What’s worrying you OP? The family’s possible response?

[CoraPirbright]

Viques sums it up perfectly:

Be proud of your lovely daughter, be proud too that someone else has recognised her caring ,kind nature and rewarded it.

[marveloustimeruiningeverything]

Of course she can accept it in good conscience, and she should.

[pointythings]

She should honour his wishes and when the time comes and she has a house, she should plant a tree in his honour. He clearly saw her for the wonderful caring person she is, and sometimes water is thicker than blood.

[daisydukes26]

Well Done for raising a lovely, kind daughter ❤️