You have the first three years not to screw your children up, time out is damaging, and so is leaving little ones to cry it out

[Lardlizard]

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Totally agree with this guy

Been a parent for 13 years, and this is the first time I’ve heard an expert that agrees with all my views ! Wow

Someone on the internet agrees with you
Cool story

Keep searching the internet and you'll find someone who agrees with you on pretty well anything.

How has this guy never been on here for a web chat

I completely agree with the views about if the parent child relationship breaks down and the friends become more important than family, this is where alotnof gang problems come from
Kids joining gangs for the sense of family they are missing

People on the Internet also think the earth is flat and that 5g is spreading corona virus.

Reminds me of this:

From 1:15 for about ten seconds.

My parents didn’t raise me the same way I’m raising my DCs and yet I’m not damaged and have a great relationship with them. There are lots of different ways to do things.

You found one person on the entire of the internet who agrees with you.

Good for you 🙄

Chimps writing a manuscript innit.

Here

I agree OP. Very thought provoking video.

What did he even say? Spend time with your kids and “be present” with them? Check. I’ve got it all figured out! (Admittedly I didn’t get past 3 min bc it was too boring and I got a weird vibe from the guy.)

@Lardlizard

I completely agree with the views about if the parent child relationship breaks down and the friends become more important than family, this is where alotnof gang problems come from Kids joining gangs for the sense of family they are missing

So you'd like Captain Obvious to do a web chat and be obvious?

Nice work if he can get it.

Esp when you feel like your swimming against the tide in society a lot of the time by not doing certian things naughty step
Something my guy has always told me that’s a bad idea, see so many parents doing it so often and if it’s done too often it can create a angry child
Cause more harm than good

How sad that in this day and age parents are often still encouraged not to respond to a crying child
Even I was told by my hev with my dd to leave her to cry and only breast feed every 4 hours etc
And to put my head phones in and ignore her when she was 6 weeks old
She’s now 13 and I’m so glad I didn’t follow the advice

Yawn

I don't know what their theories are on child rearing, but I wouldn't leave my children with either of those two. That dr looks totally spaced out. I think he's been in the drug cupboard once too often

Seriously, I wonder how often or for how long either of them has ever actually looked after a child under three.

Gut not guy

Sorry excuse my typos on phone

I stupidly didn’t leave DS1 is cry it out - he didn’t sleep through until he was 3.5 and is my slightly anxious child who still has issue getting to sleep and waking in the night (at 14).
The other two i parented better and helped them to learn to self-soothe (by ignoring them when they were clearly tired). They slept beautifully from 3 months onwards and have no sleep or other issues.

Here book has good reviews, although not available on audiable

I left DD 1 to cry it out most out of my three kids. For at least the first six months, unless I was holding her in my hands and looking at her (and no, a wrap or carrier wouldn't suffice, she had to have your hands actually cradling her) every fucking minute of every fucking day or she'd scream the house down. So she got put down in another room and cried. You couldn't even hold her to sleep and then put her down because the second your hand left her body (Moses basket or cot) she'd wake and scream.

She got left to cry it out or I'd have lost it completely into insanity and done god knows what. We had to do the same at around two years old for weeks when she point blank refused to go to bed without DH or I laying down with her every single night and sneaking out . I actually think that saying one way of parenting over another, (not including actual abuse) is screwing up your kids is actually horrible. DD is almost 14 and we are extremely close. She's super sensible, happy, works hard, has lots of friends, never misbehaves and loves us. Yet she has been left to CIO. She's had time outs. She's been absolutely bollocked for misbehaving. She's even been spanked. DD and her two siblings have had the same upbringing and you will never find a happier, more loving household.

Teenagers are programmed to value their peers over parents. It's fuck all to do with good parenting; it's their brain development, which gives themthe push to become independent. Same brain development that ramps up risk taking and dials down empathy.

And just because: "I would there were no age between 16 and 23.... for there is nothing in the between but getting wenches with child, wronging the ancientry, stealing and fighting"

I totally agree with youLardlizard. Thanks for sharing the video.

Quite startling that a video telling people not to neglect their children is being likened to 5G conspiracy theory videos

I found this very affecting, actually. Thank you for sharing, OP.