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Which child gets the second ensuite?

131 replies

Camdina · 14/10/2020 22:29

Yes, another first world problem...anyway...

DH and I have 4 DCs - DTs11, DS8, DD5. Currently in a 5-bed house with 1 ensuite and 1 family bathroom.

Need to move house for DHs job. Found a house we like and are proceeding with. 5 bedrooms again so all kiddos still get their own room. Great. Master bedroom with ensuite for DH and I. Lovely. Then 4 more bedrooms. Bedroom 2 is the largest of those and also has it's own ensuite. Bedrooms 3 and 4 are similar sized to each other, and bedroom 5 is pretty tiny. And then a very small family bathroom.

So who goes where? Who gets the large 'premium room' with it's own ensuite?! Can't even take the easy option and just give it to the oldest, since they are twins (unless you start counting the 2 minute difference in birth time..)

So what would you do and who would you put in which room?!

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Happyspud · 14/10/2020 22:30

My tidiest DD (5) got the other ensuite. The two boys (7 & 3) and younger DD (4) share the family bathroom. She's the only one that would possibly keep it clean and tidy.

Redlocks28 · 14/10/2020 22:31

Your favourite, obviously Grin.

No, seriously-that is a really tough one-I’m not sure how I’d go about that without causing problems!

Overcovid · 14/10/2020 22:34

Pick it out of a hat?

whyareyoulying · 14/10/2020 22:35

Possibly controversial but could you say if you want the best bedroom with the en-suite you have to share? Then have the tiny bedroom as a playroom/ games room/ office/ guest room?

Chocolatecake12 · 14/10/2020 22:36

Put your twins in the second bedroom together with the en-suite if they’re same sex - you didn’t say. Then turn the tiniest room into a homework room for them/ office for you.

Letsgetgoing123 · 14/10/2020 22:36


Are your twins boys, girls or one of each?

I think it’s nice for teen girls to have their own toilet for obvious reasons.

We gave our 2nd en-suite to our eldest (dd).

Alternatively draw lots?!!

IveBeenGood · 14/10/2020 22:36

Any way you could just make your own ensuite bigger, so completely remove from the other bedroom? Not sure if your ensuite backs on to the other one.

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 14/10/2020 22:37

Pull names out of a hat - seriously. I don't think pre-teens view having their own bathroom as a perk.

PinkDaffodil2 · 14/10/2020 22:37

Would any want to share and have the en suite, then you have the small room for guests / home office / playroom etc?

Makesmilingyourbesthobby · 14/10/2020 22:37

Are the twins boys/girls or boy and a girl?

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 14/10/2020 22:38

Or have DTs share and make the tiny room an office or spare room or teen den, in future.

Pumpertrumper · 14/10/2020 22:39

I agree if twins are same gender offer then the en-suite IF they share. Otherwise say it’ll go go DD as her toys are larger and require more space. Plus she’ll be in it longer realistically x

Frazzled13 · 14/10/2020 22:39

Are the twins girls, boys, one of each?
If they’re girls you could arguably give the en suite to DS (the only boy) so your (soon to be) teenage girls get a bathroom just for girls?

MimiSunshine · 14/10/2020 22:39

I have no idea but I probably wouldn’t favour one twin over the other and so I suggest giving that room to your youngest.
She’ll be at home the longest but also won’t care right now if ‘her’ Ensuite is used by everyone else when the other bathrooms are busy in a morning

FrangipaniBlue · 14/10/2020 22:41

I was going to say DTs as then that's a bathroom between the 2 of them and the other 2 get a bedroom each and share the family bathroom with box room used for something else?

That was each bathroom is shared between 2 people but the youngest while not having an en-suite get a bedroom of their own so swings and roundabouts?

Camdina · 14/10/2020 22:44

Twins are both boys - apologies for missing that bit of info out!

Huge thanks for all your replies already - so many options that we hadn't even considered.

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ivykaty44 · 14/10/2020 22:45

Twins in two equal size bedroom
Youngest in room with en-suite- they be there longest
Other child in shed or smallest room

ivykaty44 · 14/10/2020 22:46

8 and 5 year old - could they share?
It might be cold in the shed and neighbours might complain

Twillow · 14/10/2020 22:49

I think the youngest girl, as the rest are boys and (likely) messier they can share a family bathroom.
Though if this causes upset, I'd suggest the oldest instead taking turns say 6 months each.

AlwaysLatte · 14/10/2020 22:50

I was going to say something similar to @MimiSunshine . I wouldn't want to give the others their own room but expect the twins to share. As the eldest they should come first in having their own rooms, and your 5 year old probably has more bulky stuff and needs more space? (Assuming that's the largest room apart from the master). So I'd give her the en-suite. What we did with our two boys, being on the upper floor with no bathroom on that floor, was to turn the walk in wardrobe into a little WC and put a second door to it from the second bedroom so they both have access to it, Jack and Jill style (same arrangement as the bathroom between our bedroom and the guest bedroom on the floor below). So it's worth considering whether you can add access and save some arguments!

Stompythedinosaur · 14/10/2020 22:50

I'd make them take turns in the room, maybe a year each?

sunshinerays · 14/10/2020 22:50

I think the oldest child should have it

Stoic123 · 14/10/2020 22:50

I'd try and be as fair as possible. Assuming you stay a while, everyone has it for 3-4 years- For example - Twins take turns to have 2nd & 3rd beds until Sept after leave school at 18 (swap midway and draw lots who goes first). Next beds allocated by age. At that point twins (when poss go to Uni - but even if not) move into beds 4 & 5. DS8 gets largest room when he is (approx) 15-18 yrs old then DD5 has it when she is approx 15-18 yrs old.

AlwaysLatte · 14/10/2020 22:52

other child in shed

DespairingHomeowner · 14/10/2020 22:53

Why all the suggestions the twins share - they are equal people vs other siblings Hmm

Twins in the similar sized rooms, little one in small room, other son in en-suite room BUT has to give it up for guests (put bunk beds in 1 of the other rooms)

It really isn’t fair - we all had our own rooms but had 1 sibling in a tiny room... youngest obviously and got to upgrade when oldest epwen5 to university

I’d move your daughter to en-suite when she gets to high school & tell the kids that now so they know : seems like the fairest way

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