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Marvellous. The new window cleaner is... odd.

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 13/10/2020 21:18

He cleaned my windows for the first time today after doing my neighbour's and knocking on the off-chance. The Spidey senses started tingling a bit when I politely pointed out to him that he'd left his stepladder up in the middle of the road and cars were having to stop and wait to go past it. He'd done it on purpose apparently - something about ladders on top of his van? Confused

Then he started texting me this evening. It started off normally and then got a bit strange. He wanted to message me pretending it was time for him to come back again, 'to build his confidence'. I thought he had a new automated reminder message system he wanted to use but no, it was just him sending a text. Then he wanted to try it again.

This guy has my address and my phone number and it's only me and the kids at home. I'm a bit freaked out. Any ideas?

Marvellous. The new window cleaner is... odd.
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Wales34 · 14/10/2020 07:48

Say you don't need s window cleaner and block him . He may have a LD but that doesn't mean that potentially he could pose a risk to you and your family . This is really odd behaviour, its better to be safe than sorry.

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 14/10/2020 07:53

He kept it up overnight. I'm really not ok with this. The bit I've scrubbed out is my name.

Marvellous. The new window cleaner is... odd.
Marvellous. The new window cleaner is... odd.
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BaronessBomburst · 14/10/2020 07:55

Whoa. That is a whole new kind of odd!

yellowmaoampinball · 14/10/2020 07:56

Oh dear. That is not OK. Maybe one last message from you telling him not to contact you again and block him?

Marisishidinginmyattic · 14/10/2020 07:57

That’s crossed over even further into creepiness. “I was a good boy for you”? Run run run.

WunWun · 14/10/2020 08:00

I think your DH needs to text him and ask him not to contact you again.

Neilsfavouritechilli · 14/10/2020 08:06

Eek, I thought he sounded a bit sweet at first, trying to check his comms were okay but this is not good at all.

mintyfreshh · 14/10/2020 08:08

This is so gross and odd. Send him a text saying something really simple like 'I am not happy that you have sent me so many texts, please stop texting me. Do not come back to clean my windows again.'

OnCandyStripeLegs · 14/10/2020 08:10

That sounds like his inner wanking monologue.

My window cleaner texts the night before from an automated thing saying leave the gate open for access, reply yes or no. Then whistles loudly on approaching the house a s throughout. Then automated email to confirm direct debit payment. No creepy texts. No asking if he's been a good boy.

AgentProvocateur · 14/10/2020 08:11

LD or not (and I spent a lot of time as a support worker with LDs) that level of messaging in inappropriate and bordering on harassment. Block him and if he turns up at your door before December, make it clear that you do not want to hear from him again and that you’ll have no hesitation in speaking to the police.

Soupcon · 14/10/2020 08:13

@RobertaTheGreat

I would be very wary of this man. I thought we'd got past the point in our society of expecting females to 'be nice' to men at our expense so we don't hurt their feelings. It's one thing to be a friendly client but quite another to feel you have to put up with harassment. Your feelings matter too.
This.
Lolaloveslemonade · 14/10/2020 08:14

Just block his number.

Lolaloveslemonade · 14/10/2020 08:16

I think your DH needs to text him and ask him not to contact you again.

OP is perfectly capable of doing that surely?
Just block him OP.
If he turns up before December send him away.

Marisishidinginmyattic · 14/10/2020 08:18

@Lolaloveslemonade

I think your DH needs to text him and ask him not to contact you again.

OP is perfectly capable of doing that surely?
Just block him OP.
If he turns up before December send him away.

It’s likely you already know this and are just being facetious but many men who are crossing a line will only be scared away by a man no matter how clearly a woman says no.

OP, you need to tell him first clearly that you’re cancelling or you’ll come home one day and find him cleaning your windows and pleading innocence.

thesunwillout · 14/10/2020 08:19

Save the messages and then block.
Be interested to hear what your neighbours say.

You've been patient and nice, but enough!

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 14/10/2020 08:24

I've now been blunt and told him not to come back.

Marvellous. The new window cleaner is... odd.
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ContessaDiPulpo · 14/10/2020 08:24

This thread provides an interesting perspective on the location of the line between sweet and creepy (and how it varies wildly between posters).

I'd send a final cease and desist text, stating that you do not want him to do your windows in Dec and stating that it is because of the excessive level of unnecessary and unwanted contact. If he does have LD (unconvinced here) then that will hopefully be helpful.

Sillybilly5 · 14/10/2020 08:25

I had a colleague like this he was a little younger than me and has autism. Constantly texting me through the night, on my days off, trying to change his shifts so he would be working with me. He told another staff member he fancied me. I found out he had done it before at another shop he worked at with another woman before coming to my shop.

Maybe this guy fancies you?

ContessaDiPulpo · 14/10/2020 08:25

X-posted - that's a great one OP!

Footle · 14/10/2020 08:25

I did it by hand with a cloth?

Lolaloveslemonade · 14/10/2020 08:26

It’s likely you already know this and are just being facetious but many men who are crossing a line will only be scared away by a man no matter how clearly a woman says no.

Then we’re fucked aren’t we.

MrsCremuel · 14/10/2020 08:27

Ok, I stand corrected. That's totally inappropriate. You've every right to cancel and block!

Baboomtsk · 14/10/2020 08:27

LD or not it's gone too far. Cancel and block. If you're feeling charitable you can explain why.

mintyfreshh · 14/10/2020 08:29

OP that's great and really clear, and if he does have a LD you've written it in an accessible way.

Footle · 14/10/2020 08:30

@Lolaloveslemonade , yes we are. OP, you have his number. If you hear from him again ask your husband to ring him.