If you had a big, expensive wedding...?

[LeanishMachine]

When?

Are you still together?

Would you do it again? Or differently?

I had what my parents considered "proper". White dress, church, car, flowers, sit down meal for 100 people. TBH I wasn't particularly interested in the wedding and they organised and paid for most of it, in 1992 (I did choose the dress!). It was different times and whilst mine might have been extreme, I think parents did have far more involvement in weddings as the norm.

Which was fine at the time, I don't feel I missed out on anything and we're still together, getting married was always more important to me than the wedding day.

If I did it again (I hope I never need to!), it would be a handful of people and a picnic, not because I regret it but I just don't see what's gained by spending the money and expensive weddings seem to cause so much angst.

Yes big wedding twenty years ago - everything I wanted: well known London hotel, sit down dinner for 150, party into early hours.

I don’t know the cost. I eventually stopped counting. Wasn’t any change fro £50k for sure.

I wouldn’t spend it again, not because I regret the cost - I don’t. But because if I was to remarry (happily married to #1) I’d want to do the total opposite, but I think that’s the fact that I’m now in my 40s rather than early 20s.

My biggest memory on my dad’s side of family are their huge weddings , in the 1980’s Unfortunately it is the only time i really got to meet them.

Anyway, every single one of them got divorced :( one person kept remarrying two same guys (she get divorce, marry one guy, got divorced again and remarried her first husband, got divorced and remarried her second husband . She finally decided not remarry since then

My husband and I eloped and we have been married over 19 years