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Today was our last normal day for a while.

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bloodywhitecat · 09/10/2020 21:12

We woke up as usual to the sounds of the babies in their cot. DP got up, got washed and dressed,, went downstairs and made his lunch for work then came back up with a bottle for smallest baby and a cup of milk for slightly bigger baby. Then DP headed for work. I spent the day with the babies and the dog doing all our usual stuff. Today was DP's last day at work. On Monday we all go into isolation for two weeks. On Monday 26th Oct DP goes into hospital to have one third of his pancreas, his duodenum, his bile ducts and part of his stomach removed. He has pancreatic cancer and this op is his only chance of seeing Christmas 2021.

I have no idea what our future holds and I am scared.

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Theredjellybean · 09/10/2020 21:14

That is so tough... I hope you are having as normal a Friday night as you can.

OneEpisode · 09/10/2020 21:15

Flowers for you. I hope the two weeks are a chance to spend time in the warm with the little ones. Take lots of photos.

ohidoliketobe · 09/10/2020 21:16

I have nothing constructive to say, but couldn't read and not comment. Hugs and love to you and your lovely family Flowers I genuinely hope there is some light at the end of this journey for you all

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Findahouse21 · 09/10/2020 21:16

Best wishes to you all

converseandjeans · 09/10/2020 21:20

Oh golly that sounds tough. Hope he gets better after the op Thanks

Shadow01 · 09/10/2020 21:20

I don’t know what to say but I can offer a handhold and Flowers sending you all my strength x

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 09/10/2020 21:31

I wish you huge hope and love. It’s an incredibly scary time and I hope you’ve people to hold you.

A very close member of my family was diagnosed with life limiting cancer coming up to three years ago. He is much older than your beloved husband and he’s still here.

I’m not saying this to denigrate your grief or anxiety. Not even to suggest hope. More that, we very much prepared for the worst (and still do) but life continues to prove us wrong.

One day. One breath. One step in front of the other. There will be tears. There will be searingly honest conversations. There will be lots of laughter (dark as well as ‘normal’).

Keep posting. It helps.

bearlyactive · 09/10/2020 21:32

I'm so sorry and I hope the operation goes as well as possible Flowers

Coriandersucks · 09/10/2020 21:37

Jesus op that is tough Flowers.

Sometimes the mundane is the sublime.

Dillo10 · 09/10/2020 21:42

I will pray for you and your family OP Flowers

mrshonda · 09/10/2020 21:43

Love to you all x

tempnamechange98765 · 09/10/2020 21:46

Positive thoughts, wishes and love to you all OP Thanks

justgeton · 09/10/2020 21:46

I've nothing helpful to say, other than my heart breaks for you.

I know that may seem extreme, but I have experienced fear and grief enough to know.

There are no words. Xx

Minimumstandard · 09/10/2020 21:47

I am so sorry to hear what you are all going through. All best wishes and I am thinking of you and hoping for the best possible outcome.

peachgreen · 09/10/2020 21:49

Oh OP, what a lot for you all to be dealing with. It's not the same but DH was recently hospitalised and diagnosed with a life limiting condition and I can empathise with that feeling of life suddenly being entirely uncertain and upside down and alien. It's horrible. Sending you and your family lots of love and strength.

Napqueen1234 · 09/10/2020 21:49

Thinking of you and your family and sending love and hope for the future Flowers

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 09/10/2020 21:50

Oh cat Flowers I read your other threads .

I am on one hand gobsmacked with respect and admiration for your DH , he seems to be very focused and powering through things but I also read that he was tired , losing weight and it has been a huge push on your part to get him to this point .
The next two weeks with him isolating are going to be so tough . Does his work give him the focus he needs to get through the day ?
Even though he really really sounds like he needs to rest completely .

I can totally get you are shit scared . Wishing on you the patience of a Saint and the strength of a Lion.

Flibbitygibbit · 09/10/2020 21:50

🙏 and 💐 For you and yours Op

AutumnSummersBuffysCousin · 09/10/2020 21:52

You poor thing, hugs and best wishes to you allFlowers

DramaAlpaca · 09/10/2020 21:52

A handhold from me and a . That all sounds very tough and I'm sending you love and strength Flowers

monkeytennis97 · 09/10/2020 21:53

Thinking of you and your family. So tough. Praying for you all.

TOFO1965 · 09/10/2020 21:53

My father had something very similar to this op, it was tough but he did very well and this year saw off Covid. Good luck to you all, one day at a time 💚

MrsPatrickDempsey · 09/10/2020 21:55

I understand about the fear and uncertainty that you are feeling. Any control is taken from you and you feel sick all the time. It's hideous.
I hope you have some support from friends or family. This will be important. Please check in here when you can. I really care about you.

pickingdaisies · 09/10/2020 21:56

Wish I could give you a hug. Sending my love to you all Flowers

BogRollBOGOF · 09/10/2020 21:56

I wish your family all the best Flowers