Today was our last normal day for a while.

[bloodywhitecat]

We woke up as usual to the sounds of the babies in their cot. DP got up, got washed and dressed,, went downstairs and made his lunch for work then came back up with a bottle for smallest baby and a cup of milk for slightly bigger baby. Then DP headed for work. I spent the day with the babies and the dog doing all our usual stuff. Today was DP's last day at work. On Monday we all go into isolation for two weeks. On Monday 26th Oct DP goes into hospital to have one third of his pancreas, his duodenum, his bile ducts and part of his stomach removed. He has pancreatic cancer and this op is his only chance of seeing Christmas 2021.

I have no idea what our future holds and I am scared.

So sorry to read this. Pancreatic cancer is scary, not least as Diagnosis so often comes from out of the blue. The fact it is operable is such great news OP. One day at a time and best wishes for many more christmases to come.

I hope you all have many Christmases to come.

Sounds very tough. I know someone who has just had this procedure done and making a really good recovery quickly, so try to stay positive. I hope your dh has a quick recovery too and you can get back to normal soon.

Can you plan some nice things for the next two weeks? Watch some TV series and enjoy some nice food/drinks.

Genuinely wishing your family the best. 💐💐💐

Wishing you all the best.

My FIL had this surgery when he was 75. It was a long recovery process but he made a full recovery and he lived for another 15 years. He died of something entirely unrelated.

OP, awful thing to face at any time, but 2 weeks of isolation will be tough to get through. Sending good thoughts your way.

I'm so very sorry
Love and strength to you all

I will pray for you and your family ❤️

Handhold, darling.
Find your nearest Maggies centre, and also contact Macmillan cancer charity. Both provide wonderful, free information advice and support to patient and families.

A very wise woman (my mother) once said to me

You dont have to battle it (its not a fight because you are not going to win or loose)

You dont have to give in to it (ignoring or pretending it isnt happening is not useful either)

You just have to live ALONG SIDE it.

I found it very helpful. I hope you can find some comfort in her words too. She was a nurse who helped hundreds of people with their fear, dread, pain, hope, love and laughter

hugs

Hugs, fingers crossed for you all

@bloodywhitecat

Very best wishes to you all. No idea what you must be going through. It's ok to cry/scream/be angry/happy whatever and whenever. Lean on friends, family and vent on here if you need to do or just come on and say hi and update if you feel up to it.

Like the other PP's just sending and wishing your DP, you and your babies all the best.

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

Sending you strength and courage and hope 💐 x

Sending hugs and best wishes to you all.

. No words can really help but stay strong and whatever the time of day or night, here you will find support. I'm pleased they can operate, he has a chance

I’m so sorry OP. I can’t imagine how terrible this time must be and how scared you must feel. Please reach out to people either friends or family and post on here for some more support. Take care of yourself. I have found a journal during particularly difficult times to be helpful and hopefully in years to come you can look back at it as a stressful period that you came through

Sending you all my love xx

x

My DH's grandmother had the Whipple procedure, not sure if that is what your DP is having, for pancreatic cancer, she survived at least 20 years after having the surgery and it was old age that she died from not the cancer.

Please look after your self too.

I wish you and your family all the best, OP.

Joining so so many others in sending you and your family the very best and warmest thoughts. I'm sorry OP, I hope all treatment goes as well as it can and that you're able to find time and space with everything that's going on to look after yourself.

I've seen a few of your posts on various threads. I saw one saying you had a date, but not what it was.

Two weeks in isolation won't be easy, but try to do anything you'll both enjoy as much as possible & lots of family hug-ins

I'll be thinking of you 🌷

Thinking of you and your family