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I don't know where to put this but DH is sick and we are in bits. *MNHQ edit to ask posters to read update before posting*

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PandaBearBear · 06/10/2020 22:36

It has been such a shit year. DH has been so sick, numerous times I've been told he probably wouldn't make it then he seemed to make magic happen and got so much better. Now things have gone downhill really quickly and he is back in ICU on a ventilator and I am having to have the same conversations with doctors that I didn't think I would have to have again.

We have 2 DC, who are 8 and 2. I am a mess but trying to put a brave face on for them. 2yo obviously doesn't grasp exactly what is happening - just that daddy is in hospital again. 8yo is anxious and sad, much clingier but trying to be brave.

I just want to stay in bed until this is over.

How do I help my children through this? And how do I get through this?

He may well recover, I have seen him make bigger miracles happen than this. He also may not. Either way all 4 of us are still so traumatised by this year that this is a huge blow.

Just looking for some advice or even just for someone to tell me a nice thing thats happening in the world.

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DramaAlpaca · 18/01/2021 23:49

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Sending love and strength Flowers

OakSun · 18/01/2021 23:50

I’m so very very sorry x

Zlistceleb · 18/01/2021 23:52

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. Do you have much real life support?

Loveisland19 · 18/01/2021 23:52

I am so sorry for your loss Flowers xx

gavisconismyfriend · 18/01/2021 23:53

So sorry for your loss xx

ineedaholidaynow · 18/01/2021 23:54

I am so sorry Flowers

2018SoFarSoGreat · 18/01/2021 23:54

I'm so sorry to read this, Panda. I thought of you and wondered how things were. This is desperately sad. Poor you and your poor children. I hope you get some good support.

We are all here, when you need to talk. ❤️

fassbendersmistress · 18/01/2021 23:54

Im so sorry for you all. It’s not fair Flowers

GrallaceandWomit · 18/01/2021 23:55

I’m so sorry you and your children had to go through all this. It sounds desperately unfair and I can’t even begin to imagine how you must feel. My sincere condolences to you all Flowers

Dumakey · 18/01/2021 23:55

I am so sorry to hear this Flowers xx

TheRosesAreInBloom · 18/01/2021 23:56

I’m so sorry for your loss OP and children. As PP asked, Are you able to tell us about your late husband, what was he like, what did he do before he became ill. What was your relationship like?

Anything you want really, we would love to help a little, it’s just knowing how to.

Lots of love in the meantime 💐 x

Neolara · 18/01/2021 23:57

I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope you have people around you who are looking after you.

Leeds2 · 19/01/2021 00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. Much love to you and your children. x

MrsBodger · 19/01/2021 00:01

I wish I could give you some comfort. Bless you and your children xxx

peachgreen · 19/01/2021 00:01

I'm so sorry Panda. My DH passed away on 28/10 so I understand some of how you're feeling. It is the worst pain I've ever experienced and I honestly don't know how I'm still here. But we are, and we will carry on for our children. Sending you love and solidarity. x

BeforeThisThenWhat · 19/01/2021 00:03

I’m so sorry very sorry to hear this. 💐

ThePluckOfTheCoward · 19/01/2021 00:05

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers.

Anotherdates · 19/01/2021 00:05

So sorry OP Flowers Flowers thinking of you and hoping you are finding the strength. How awful, do chat with us on here if it would help in any small way x

myhobby · 19/01/2021 00:05

So sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking Sad

MadameBlobby · 19/01/2021 00:10

I’m so sorry Flowers

Fortherosesjoni70 · 19/01/2021 00:11

How sad for you all 💐Hope you are OK.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 19/01/2021 00:12

I'm so very sorryThanks

MartiniDry · 19/01/2021 00:15

I'm so very sorry for your loss Panda. My love to you and your children. Xxx

notapizzaeater · 19/01/2021 00:18

Words don't seem enough, have you bad support from your local hospice ? My DH has just passed away and they've been great support.

Renovation2021 · 19/01/2021 00:20

There are no words Flowers I’m so incredibly sorry xxxx

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