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I am your mil

190 replies

TTC45 · 05/10/2020 05:13

OK ok

So I've seen a few of these before and they proper cracked me up.

I thought of it randomly today and decided to start one.

I promise that you that it is all entirely lighthearted and that I know that not all mil are bad ;)

So go on, ask me or tell me something?

For I am your mil.

OP posts:
AuditAngel · 05/10/2020 07:58

You did you son no favours at all running around behind him throughout his childhood. Between you, your sister and his older cousin, you taught him to be bone idle.

He hid this well early on in our relationship, but now he does fuck all and I am sick of it.

He has no idea that I earn 5 times what he does, and if he doesn’t shape up, he knows where the door is.

However, you have at least, acknowledged this to me!

TitsOutForHarambe · 05/10/2020 08:16

What you did at my wedding wasn't actually OK, I just said it was to keep the peace. I hope to got you don't do the same thing at your daughter's wedding.

STOP BLOODY INTERFERING

cafenoirbiscuit · 05/10/2020 08:17

We are NC with you because you nag, criticise and tell off your 50 yr old son all the time and never have anything positive to say. And then you sent in the flying monkeys to say FIL was terminally ill so he’d rush up to see you. He wasn’t,
Your DS made this decision on his own. He wasn’t co-erced by me.

NotQuiteUsual · 05/10/2020 08:19

Your roast potatoes used to be so good. But they're rubbish now. What happened?? I loved those potatoes and you never did tell me how to make them, I don't want them to be lost forever.

peakygal · 05/10/2020 08:20

Dear MIl
You should know that still, almost 5 years later, no one believed your false tears when your son died unexpectedly. Especially given you could turn them on and off on cue. You were a dreadful mother to DH and he so desperately wanted your love. You're an even worse GM. Your grandchildren did nothing for you to go randomly NC but they don't miss out on you as really you were never there really. I hope the guilt of being a shit parent for no good reason eats you up for the rest of your life and no matter how much you post on FB about your dead son it won't change anything.

SylvanianFrenemies · 05/10/2020 08:24

Thanks for being so nice ❤

Lockdownhairdontcare · 05/10/2020 08:27

Throughout your 18mths of operations, radio therapy and chemotherapy we have taken you everywhere, ran after Fil, did your shopping, had you for birthdays, Christmas etc...
Yet, all we hear is how wonderful your other son is. How he calls you once a week and got you the nicest gifts. He has done fuck all for you both ever, he resents his dad, he has visited for 18hrs throughout this entire time and ten of those were spent sleeping!

SquishySquirmy · 05/10/2020 08:32

You're lovely and your son is a wonderful man.
Sometimes I think you are not always heard by other in laws but I think you have interesting insight and your views are valid.

FinallyHere · 05/10/2020 08:37

So. Thirty years ago when we first met, I had a few goes at pronouncing your (very straightforward / in no way unusual) name and couldn't get my tongue round it. I'm still go good at it, despite seeing it written in Christmas cards, wedding invitations etc. so shall call you something else.

Starts with the same letter, getting someone's name right is sooo last century.

And refer to you as The Duchess in everyday speech.

OllyBJolly · 05/10/2020 08:50

Thank you for raising such a kind and caring son who has helped create such a loving and supportive family for my DCs and DGC. One of his most attractive qualities is how much he cares about his family and treats everyone with respect (despite not always approving or agreeing with their beliefs/actions).

tywysoges · 05/10/2020 08:50

Dear MIL, I wish I had met you. You sound like such a wonderful woman and everyone speaks very highly of you. Your son is the most amazing man and I feel lucky every day. I am told your granddaughter is just like you! I don’t really believe in life after death but I wish there was one just so we could meet. Yours sincerely, tywysoges

OrangeCinnamon1 · 05/10/2020 08:57

@NotQuiteUsual

Your roast potatoes used to be so good. But they're rubbish now. What happened?? I loved those potatoes and you never did tell me how to make them, I don't want them to be lost forever.
Grin
TravellingSpoon · 05/10/2020 08:59

Why do you spend your life comparing my DS1 to people who are not even related to him, and always unfavourably? You are a snob and you have alienated him now that he is old enough to see how you are.

ChickensMightFly · 05/10/2020 09:01

You're one of the most poisonous judgemental people I've ever met, dressed up as a Pillar Of The Community. The daughter who can do no wrong has picked a partner who is a poor father to his existing children, so exalting him to the same status as can-do-no-wrong is poor judgement on your part. Your own yep grandchildren are delightful good human beings so it wouldn't kill you to throw them a crumb of positive recognition occasionally.
By the way

PopsicleHustler · 05/10/2020 09:03

I love you so much and all the wonderful things about you. I think about you all the time.

HavelockVetinari · 05/10/2020 09:07

Why did you buy me a large plastic lizard on a large plastic rock for Christmas? I have never expressed a liking for reptiles of any kind. Confused

CrappleUmble · 05/10/2020 09:11

Hiya, how is it on the other side? I hope it it what you believed it would be. Want a G and T?

TrickyD · 05/10/2020 09:16

I am a MIL in RL, except that they are not actually married.
To DS1’s DP
“You are a fantastic mum and you bring out the best in my DS”.
To DS2’s DP
“ We think you are great and hope your relationship becomes permanent”.

Marylou62 · 05/10/2020 09:18

You've been dead now for 27 years next week..Do you know I often talk to you and say that I've made your son very happy (and him me)..We just celebrated 30 years!

That we (MIL and I) had a rocky start but maybe we could of been friends..It still hurts that you didn't come to our wedding but it was your loss..

You would have adored our 3rd child who you never met because he's soooo like his dad..
Our first child still talks about his Nanny..
And our DD who was a little baby when you died has the only cardigan that you knitted for her on her teddy still..

Oh and that bitching you did because I always sent the 'best' photos to my mum who lived 5 hours away when you saw your GS daily..that really really hurt.

Oh and another thing..you taught me how NOT to be a MIL..Jealousy destroyed our relationship..

But most of all I hope we came to understand each other in the end because I was the only one in your whole family to actually look after you when the end came.. care for you, clean you, cook for you, arrange Drs, Mcmillan nurse and finally hospice care..I also supported your DSon who was heartbroken..

(That was cathartic!)

ChickensMightFly · 05/10/2020 09:20

Awwww, that's lovelyTrickyD
I would give anything for a relationship like that with my mil. 😍

Laurapb88 · 05/10/2020 09:24

How could you hurt your son so much to look at our longed for ivf miracle say hes cute then say I've got to go I have spaghetti on the hob 😡 do you hate me that much you don't love your own grandchild?

slipperywhensparticus · 05/10/2020 09:28

The reason you don't see your grandchildren is your son NOT ME the kids miss you and your husband but you broke my heart giving me back the pictures of your grandchildren they are you only biological grandchildren they are fantastic why don't you love them?

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 05/10/2020 09:31

Stop gossiping ffs! I don't know half of the people you are telling me stories about, and its bloody depressing being given a list of who's in hospital and who's died everytime I see you.

FortunesFave · 05/10/2020 09:31

I LOVE you but that rice dish you always make stinks...it literally STINKS and I never eat it. Nobody else does. We always put it on our plates but then just push it around...because it REEKS of...something bad.

differentnameforthis · 05/10/2020 09:34

Why didn't you help me with your son, when I told you he was struggling after his father's passing?

He now has alcoholic tendencies, and is abusive. I know this isn't your fault, but you told him he didn't need help, and instead elevated him to "man of the family" status.

And I am so angry about it.

Now I am leaving him. Will you help us then?