ADs crave hotel breakfasts garnished with phallic strawberries

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Oh for the good old days of a breakfast buffet.

Back when you could make plans and reasonably expect them to happen. When you could turn up spontaneously and browse or linger at your leisure. When you could meet whoever you like and give them a hug

But until those days return, here's some more AD chat about life, the universe and phallic fruits...

How are everyone's extended family relationships fairing amid this madness?

Hmm... have elderly separated parents living alone in Scotland which is quite a challenge. Then in laws one of who is very ill and also another relative with late stage lung cancer we can't see. (but has to go for e.g. chemo on her own) So it's been really tough, emotionally, feeling guilty can't see them and support as much although is out of my hands really.

DH was saying about going to Cardiff shopping, before Christmas take it that is not an option then. Sorry to hear of the gloom Wales

@DipSwimSwoosh

How are everyone's extended family relationships fairing amid this madness? We are a family of 5, so can't officially see anyone else really. My parents and sister have always been a bit shit at making effort at the best of times. Now they have every excuse. My parents last came to visit over a year ago. My youngest is 2. I'm beginning to feel like our relationship will never recover.

I've seen my grandma-mum once (have plans to see her next week) BiL & family in August. Caught up with mother twice on holiday as we were staying relatively close. Ironically I've seen her more than usual this year!

That's been it. We're scattered and busy around anyway. But it's the principle that it's not been oractical to make plans, individual family lives are unbalanced and now it's illegal for family groups to mix.
Not seen my cousins, DB or been travelling to the main cohort of ILs.

Hello ADs! Thanks for the new thread @BogRollBOGOF

Morning.
Read the end of the old thread-Robin make sure he sticks to giving you your running time every week, not just today.

I've always liked Hallow'een. We live on a tucked-away street now, with only tiny kids around, and barely had anyone come the last few years (all the more sweets for us!) I did think last year it might be the last time we bothered.There seems to be a thought on MN that it's "grabby" but I'm always pleasantly surprised at how polite the children are. I love it when the bigger ones (recognised from the school gates from way back) knock, & say in their breaking voices, "Thank you very much, Orchidson's Mum."

DP's love it too. They ran out of sweets once & broke open a multipack of crisps because they didn't have the heart to take the pumpkin in.

DM feels she can't do it this year because of her covid anxiety. She feels very sad about it.

For the breakfast club, this morning I have been mostly eating a bagel with marmite.

"A pumpkin doesn't make you immune!" is the angry retort. Such venom over Halloween...

That's fucking hilarious . All it takes is a tiny bit of imagination to make it workable. I'm tossing up options at the moment. There's going to be a Hallowe'en fancy dress parade around our estate so all the kids get to go out on the night in their costumes, everyone is chipping in with sweets to make up individual bags for them to get at the end of the parade, and I think there's going to be a prize for best costume as well. But I still want to do trick or treating as well, going to put our pumpkins out and sort out a decoration for the front garden. Last year it was a giant spider, thinking maybe graveyard this year. Then I need to come up with a socially distanced sweet delivery mechanism. Partly for Covid, partly because our front door is broken so we can't answer it anyway. I'm currently thinking about some kind of zipline.

I am not fucking well cancelling Hallowe'en!!

I must admit that I don't really like spas, nor cooked breakfasts, but what I really, really don't like is being told what I 'should' do by anyone who keeps his/her head inserted so well into an orifice that all s/he can see is the contents of the large bowel, which informs his/her opinions.

Ibake, on the last thread you mentioned 'one of our own'. I agree. These threads have been such a vital source of support for me (wipes eyes) that I feel like a mother tiger if I see someone who's on them being attacked. I want to gather you all up into a great big hug.

Thanks for the new thread great title.

Posted this on old one but have c&P it.
RobinHobb
This is a support thread too and everyone should feel free to talk about anything they need to. Don't go near AIBU for anything. Despite there still being some supportive people on here with good advice the screaming know it all's will always put the boot in and are vicious.
Just to echo everyone else you need to bring a balance to what you and your dh do. Its not all down to you to keep everything running smoothly so he can indulge himself guilt free.
Glad you are taking time out for you. You need to.have a convo and let him know he needs to start parenting his own kids while you get some time to yourself as well as family time all together. He isnt the only one who needs to recharge.
Glad he has realised you need some me time to.

I am still planning on Halloween round here. How the hell is a bunch of kids OUTSIDE mixing households? They spend all day at school together and play outside together! I won't be licking them! I can put the sweets in bags so no rummaging in a bowl as usual. What's the big deal? I mix with so many people at work but thats ok? Talk about overkill.

My breakfast is a croissant with jam not very exciting.

Doing My first ever online food shop to tide us over till I get back to work what a faff!

I had breakfast at The Town Mill Bakery in Lyme Regis. Their halloumi and courgette fritters are amazing.

Breakfast is always much nicer when someone else has cooked it .

@sirsamuelvilmes Thank you but absolutely no help ! No obvious link on this thread & no access to past threads or chats .

@Orangeblossom7777 if you’re allowed to visit Cardiff and want to focus on shopping I’d come ASAP. It’s quiet, deals in every shop (especially if you can bring a student) and everything open except the museum. Mill lane has done a great job for evening drinks outside. Living here is grim but visiting with people you live with it’s probably the best time to visit. Drop me a private message if you want to catch up for a drink x

Aw thanks, I will see how we do... just seen what is happening here for Christmas now the market is cancelled. Seems we are allowed a mini one..

www.somersetlive.co.uk/news/somerset-news/bath-christmas-market-first-details-4567282

Orange blossom, I have ventured onto the coronavirus thread but quickly escaped. I too cannot believe the venom posted on there. There are either some wind up merchants around, or else some really nasty people, I can't decide which.
However I have inadvertently discovered how to totally take your mind off all current troubles. Chop chillies and then rub your eye. It was rather unpleasant for a bit! I'm old enough to know better, what a silly bugger. I am making a super powerful tomato, apple and onion chutney. Perfect occupation for a wet day, even though it is stinking the house out.

@amicissimma
Ibake, on the last thread you mentioned 'one of our own'. I agree. These threads have been such a vital source of support for me (wipes eyes) that I feel like a mother tiger if I see someone who's on them being attacked. I want to gather you all up into a great big hug.

Same here.

@OrangeBlossom777 I ventured on your trick or treat thread to say we're doing it.

We'll stick to houses we know are happy to have visitors, you know, like every year the way civilised people do. Weve said we'll chat with the parents of dcs in my dcs class bubbles and visit their houses, and possibly check with neighbours if they are happy for visitors.

If its OK for adults to go to the pub, its OK for my dcs to knock on their classmates door in fancy dress.

Some people really are determined to suck all the joy out of life until this is over.

[quote LivinLaVidaLoki]@amicissimma
Ibake, on the last thread you mentioned 'one of our own'. I agree. These threads have been such a vital source of support for me (wipes eyes) that I feel like a mother tiger if I see someone who's on them being attacked. I want to gather you all up into a great big hug.

Same here.[/quote]
Me too. I think you're all brilliant.

Well, I just took the bait on my friend's Facebook.
(I've a friend who works in a care home, and does domiciliary care who's on hols in a quarantine area but is trying to get out of it by having a test and then hoping to go back to work).
She posted something along the lines of people need to stop telling her to quarantine, she'll take a negative test once she gets back and she'll be fine to go back to work. She can't afford 2 weeks unpaid so people should stop being so "fucking horrible".
Cue lots of "awwww hun you deserve this break, ignore the haters"
So I just responded
"Quarantine, don't quarantine...none of my business, you're a grown woman but if you get a negative test, then go on to develop covid (it can take up to 14 days) I hope you can bloody well live with the consequences on the people you proclaim to care so much about.
Also, you can now stop posting ppe selfies "please wear your masks", "think of all of us on the frontline" and "please take this seriously" when you are willing to potentially kill these people rather than lose a holiday or take a hit in pay. You are a fucking hypocrite and a thick one to boot to post this all over Facebook.
I hope your employer does the decent thing and sends you home."

Does this mean I lose my AD badge? I'm generally quite critical of the roolz but her recklessness and fucking hypocrisy are just too much.

Funny you mentioned that about chillies Reedwarbler because i did that last night making a curry- it was so painful! Had to hold ice to it for ages, little sympathy given either....

To be fair I live in Cardiff and it's not too bad
We are still out for drinks and meals but we don't have wider family here so that restriction hasn't changed anything for us
We're back at our gym doing stuff and restart our ballroom dancing group class next week.
I'm taking DD and DS our for a meal later and we had a nice evening in our local last night.
I'm trying really hard for the sake of my sanity to cling onto some positives each day or I would go crazy
I've been running round Roath park a lot which is beautiful
I can't look too far ahead but I'm grateful that I can still do some stuff that I enjoy
And I've blocked a ton of dementors off my social media

No, not to me at any rate. You just called her out for not following her own roolz that she was happy to inflict on anyone except herself.

@LivinLaVidaLoki brilliant and no, definitely not loss of AD badge, quite the opposite I would say.

Despite what Larry the Lamb thinks of us we're blessed with excellent brains and critical thinking skills on these threads and none of us would dream of doing what your friend (probably soon ex-friend?) is proposing. Because, y'know, we give a shit?

The difference on here is we give a shit about everybody and everything but keep it all in a sense of proportion. Pls keep us updated on the responses as I suspect a lot of people cheered you on for that.

And as for the AD love in upthread. Well, yes, I feel the same xx

@livingthevidaloki
Well done! Whatever anyone's thoughts are on self-isolation after holidaying in a place on the hit-list, she's stupid to declare publically that she's not going to bother, & not expect to be called out on it.

I'm done with photos of people wearing PPE too. It's boring. Lots of us now have to wear it, whatever our jobs. It's hot & unpleasant but it doesn't make anyone an automatic hero. (Unless you are my hairdresser, in which case you rock- my recent new haircut has taken years off me).

@LivinLaVidaLoki also with you on that. The general quarantine rules make sense to me, although I can see arguments against them being applied to a whole country when parts might be ok I think it's just the risk you take when you go abroad at moment. Plus the hypocriticalness of it. Wasn't someone not quarantining properly partly responsible for the surge in cases in Bolton. For me being an AD isn't about ignoring the rules or denying covid (waves to Larry) but is about understanding people are struggling with the situation and not making up your own bs rules and being a sanctimonious arse about the whole thing. I'm pro vaccine and neutral on masks (don't mind wearing them, can see benefits in some places but don't think they are a magic bullet). Anyway mini rant over.

I love the town Mill @Worldgonecrazy although been ages since we've been to Lyme

Not decided on trick and treating yet, will see lie of land closer to time to see if we'll be welcome. Will get sweets in though as happy for disease vectors to come here

My lovely town is one of many that takes part in Window Wonderland - basically a weekend where people decorate their windows so they look lovely at night, and everyone walks around to look at them (there's usually a map and a website so you can work out a route). We're now doing it over the halloween weekend, as a way of getting some halloween spirit going, without trick or treat. Its not an ideal substitute, but hopefully it'll cheer things up a bit (and doesn't stop smaller individual streets/neighbourhood doing their own thing).