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ADs Not Flouting, Not Flaunting not even Brazenly Defying.

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RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 24/09/2020 14:11

Just trying to live a meaningful life in an increasingly bizarre world in which nothing makes sense any more.

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Seriouslymole · 30/09/2020 09:24

Just popping in for my dose of sanity. Glad to see you're all still here.

I had a call from my boss yesterday telling me as of tomorrow I'm down to three days a week. And so it begins.

BogRollBOGOF · 30/09/2020 09:28

DH found early on in lockdown that people were bored, isolated and a bit lonely and were more chatty on calls, then in the summer that tapered off. There is a bit more people can do at present, but there is still little fresh input for conversation. Colleagues haven't physically seen each other for at least 6 months, more where it's colleagues in offices across the country, but people would normally connect up across the team intermittently.

It is a folly to expect long term productivity from enforced isolation in a workplace. There is certainly a case for greater flexibility, but not just sènding people home regardless of personality and environment.

BogRollBOGOF · 30/09/2020 09:32

@NeedWineNow

Dr Hilary has just been talking on Lorraine and they were saying that Boris doesn't look or seem well. Dr Hilary said he should be listening to Chris Whitty. I think he has and that's why we're in this mess.
It's likely that he's struggling with a legacy of Covid. It hit him hard in the first place, and it's not exactly been a restful time to recuperate. It may well explain the government's increasingly dementorish stance as this has unfolded.
NothingIsWrong · 30/09/2020 09:33

I don't even know how to talk to people any more really

Thanksitsgotpockets · 30/09/2020 09:35

Bogroll, I agree.. And I said this before but I'm wondering about productivity once it hits 2/3pm and it's getting dark in our kitchens and spare rooms and our body clocks after telling us it's time to be by the fire with our slippers on winding down for the day.

Modern offices design their lighting very carefully to be more like daylight levels.

BogRollBOGOF · 30/09/2020 09:53

My productivity naturally comes in waves through the day. I can do 9-5 in a dedicated work environment with external expectation, but at home I drift and have to catch those waves of motivation.
I would not seek a job that was based from home because it really would not suit my natural patterns of working. I used to bring my teaching work home and use my early morning, late evening bursts, but I tried to keep as much as I could in school where it was easier to focus.

dkl55 · 30/09/2020 09:57

Hi all - checking in for a bit of a rant actually feel like I'm going crazy, I'm surprised more people don't crack. Got yelled at last week when I poked my head into a coffee shop to ask if we could come in for table service. The man at the counter screeched about wearing masks (to your table, after which you can remove) and yelled a long list of "rules" at us too - wish Id just left. Popped into John Lewis to get a few things - Place was echoingly vacant but staff everywhere (4 at doorways, one each at escalators) etc - all checking masks, demanding you wash hands on entry, demanding you keep 8 steps away on escalators. Huge signs everywhere to "keep you safe".... and lastly to the dentist yesterday where I had to stand in a glass cubicle whilst a staff member came out, questioned me closely, took temperature, for me to wash hands, store bag in locker and wear a mask provided by them (my own wasn't sufficient). I then had to rewash hands before going into the dentist where I could actually remove my mask. It's crazy. I'm actually considering avoiding EVERYTHING now as it's just playing to a hysterical narrative which I don't want to be part of.

Worldgonecrazy · 30/09/2020 10:07

Morning all. I think some research has been released suggesting that, despite the initial increase in productivity, home workers are now showing a decline. Of course we don’t know if the depressed mood of the nation is adding to that decline. Uncertainty about jobs and economy may be creating an environment where people find it hard to think about the future.

There is also some interesting stuff on Twitter about testing dates and release of results being out of sync. A conspiracist could be forgiven for believing that numbers are being manipulated to maximise the fear, e.g mass testing of care home residents ring planned for this week only.

Thanksitsgotpockets · 30/09/2020 10:11

dkl55 what a sequence of rubbish experiences..

After too many of those I have decided that I'm going to make a decision on the door about whether to go into somewhere or not. I'm sick of spending money on a sub par experience in an angsty atmosphere, with additional risk of being asked to quarantine for two weeks. Some places continue to manage things well and I'm going to stick to those.
We are going out for a meal tonight and I have a backup place in mind if it feels wrong at the door of the first.

Thanksitsgotpockets · 30/09/2020 10:12

Hoping the first will be good though because I need their passion fruit martinis to settle my nerves

DominaShantotto · 30/09/2020 10:19

Sat in uni yeargroup induction and I'm playing corona bullshit bingo:
New normal
Strange and challenging times
Synchronous and asynchronous teaching (our uni's current fucking obsession and they're a bastard to spell and type)
Covid secure

... losing the will to live

BogRollBOGOF · 30/09/2020 10:21

All the measures are very effective... at keeping me home!

I was going out far more in July!

I found two reciepts while sorting through bags yesterday. One from the 16th March when I went out to buy DS2's presents incase shit hit the fan... the other from early July when DS1 and I had a lovely trip to town and the local museum and all was pleasant and opromistic. No masks at that point, so it was lovely browsing around.

TheOrchidKiller · 30/09/2020 10:22

DH found early on in lockdown that people were bored, isolated and a bit lonely and were more chatty on calls, then in the summer that tapered off. There is a bit more people can do at present, but there is still little fresh input for conversation. Colleagues haven't physically seen each other for at least 6 months, more where it's colleagues in offices across the country, but people would normally connect up across the team intermittently.

I noticed this too, especially with the phone calls. People from other organisations were ringing for work purposes, explaining they were WFH, & then chatting away about all sorts. I swear it was the loneliness.

That's stopped a bit. Staff from my team pop in to the office to collect things & I make a point of chatting to them, because suppporting staff is part of my role. I'm aware of who lives alone, who has only just ventured out after shielding, who has been struggling, & who generally needs company. Usually we'd stop for a break in a bigger group & all catch up & have some light relief. Or if we were too busy for a break it didn't matter because there were enough people working in the same room to carry everyone along.

Nowadays lunch is taken at home & in cars, often alone. We don't laugh as much. We all say things like, "We miss the office."

If too many people pop in at the same time there is now the stress of some of them having to wait outside due to numbers. And now we have to wear masks too.

BogRollBOGOF · 30/09/2020 10:22

The whole fucking planet is asynchronous at the moment!

TheOrchidKiller · 30/09/2020 10:24

@DominaShantotto
Synchronous and asynchronous teaching

Say what now?

DominaShantotto · 30/09/2020 10:26

[quote TheOrchidKiller]@DominaShantotto
Synchronous and asynchronous teaching

Say what now?[/quote]
Live and recorded... but they're fucking obsessed with these terms constantly and it's doing my bloody head in already!

AgentCooper · 30/09/2020 10:27

Just heard on Women’s Hour that many thousands of women did not have access to breast screening this year due to Covid. The NHS say all screening is now fully up and running but the representative from the breast cancer charity stated firmly that it isn’t.

Another dereliction of duty of care to add to the shitlist.

Willow2017 · 30/09/2020 10:29

skeptile
Can you post that on all the damm threads bleating on about the vaccine being ready in 6 months and saving us all? Might add a bit of sanity to some of them.

💐💐 to everyone feeling down just now. My insomnia seems to be getting worse I wonder if its subconscious anger and feeling like we are in another world now?
I even forced myself to take 'Sleepeeze' 😵😝 and playing 'music to go to sleep to' but it still takes and age to go to sleep.

SirSamuelVimes · 30/09/2020 10:31

@AgentCooper

Just heard on Women’s Hour that many thousands of women did not have access to breast screening this year due to Covid. The NHS say all screening is now fully up and running but the representative from the breast cancer charity stated firmly that it isn’t.

Another dereliction of duty of care to add to the shitlist.

Also yet another way in which lockdown is disproportionately impacting women as well.

(Disclaimer - I have not researched any fall in male cancer screening; I am just going with the fact there aren't specific news stories on it)

Blobby10 · 30/09/2020 10:41

I just had to pay £50 for an online GP consultation because I CANNOT get an appointment at my surgery. Despite the long winded message you have to listen saying they are doing face to face and telephone appts, the receptionist told me they are only doing telephone appts and there wasn't anything available by 9am yesterday when I finally got through. I needed antibiotics yesterday to combat a nasty orbital cellulitis infection that by darling body woke up with. I'm lucky that I have the money available to pay and the transport to get to the pharmacy where it was done (although it does mean I have to postpone a much needed hair cut for another month) and the GP on the other end prescribed what I needed but for those who don't have this? It's definitely heading towards a two tier system of healthcare Sad.

everyonesmama · 30/09/2020 10:43

@NothingIsWrong

New thread!

Still conflicted about this bloody app. I am conditioned to want to help, but I just don't trust it...

this!
DominaShantotto · 30/09/2020 10:47

OK the endless talk of covid on this induction is starting my panic spiral already. Yes I know the totally unsung heroes of covid rehab etc etc etc...

Willow2017 · 30/09/2020 10:52

@AgentCooper

Just heard on Women’s Hour that many thousands of women did not have access to breast screening this year due to Covid. The NHS say all screening is now fully up and running but the representative from the breast cancer charity stated firmly that it isn’t.

Another dereliction of duty of care to add to the shitlist.

There is a screening unit in the car park at work. No idea if its covid or breast screening it doesn't say just 'Screening Centre It's been there weeks and I haven't seen it open once.
AgentCooper · 30/09/2020 10:56

@Blobby10

I just had to pay £50 for an online GP consultation because I CANNOT get an appointment at my surgery. Despite the long winded message you have to listen saying they are doing face to face and telephone appts, the receptionist told me they are only doing telephone appts and there wasn't anything available by 9am yesterday when I finally got through. I needed antibiotics yesterday to combat a nasty orbital cellulitis infection that by darling body woke up with. I'm lucky that I have the money available to pay and the transport to get to the pharmacy where it was done (although it does mean I have to postpone a much needed hair cut for another month) and the GP on the other end prescribed what I needed but for those who don't have this? It's definitely heading towards a two tier system of healthcare Sad.
@Blobby10 everything feels two tier right now. Healthcare being the worst, of course. My friend needed postnatal physio - it wasn’t just a whim, she needed it. It hasn’t been started again on the NHS so she ended up paying privately because she couldn’t wait any longer.

Council gyms and pools are all still shut in my area but if I had a spare 300 quid a month (ha!) I could take my toddler swimming at one of two private gyms in the area. The free toddler groups at libraries are still off, the £2 a go playgroups too, but if I wanted to pay £37 a month for a well known franchise’s classes (I don’t) that would be grand.

Blobby10 · 30/09/2020 11:03

*@AgentCooper * its really shit isn't it? I rarely use the GP (I'm lucky enough to be fit and healthy with a robust immune system) but on the rare occasions that I do try and use them, the service has deteriorated from the previous time. In this case, 6 years!

I think they should put a dozen of us from this thread in charge of the NHS - we would have it sorted within a year!!. Grin.

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