Today I properly lost my temper and feel shitty about it

[Iwonder777]

My sons 16, autistic, was playing footy in park with my other 2 teen kids,

Same age kid lays into him verbally - mocking him, squaring up to him - my autistic son starts getting distressed

This has been going on for ages

I've never been there

I've taught my kids to say nothing. Walk away. They do this.

Except I was walking nearby today.

Saw it myself.

Literally saw red.

I can't explain it but I marched over. Said to my guys to walk back home please.

Asked to have a word.

Called the kid a prick and told him if he ever fucking started on my son again, I'd make known his relentless bullying behaviour to his parents - that plus his recent drug taking habit (common knowledge where we live). I was fuming.

But he's only 16 (nearly 17).

I feel terrible.

I don't know what happened.

I literally saw red.

I'm ashamed of myself. I really bollocked him.

Good for you OP, no regrets needed.

Good for you Op. bet your dc are impressed and glad they have you on their side!

I had the same red mist a few years ago but was protecting dh not dc. Some of his “friends” were having a laugh, teasing him about his disability, only he wasn’t laughing but was getting more and more upset. They didn’t stop though, just went on and on with dh trying to explain himself.

I am not sure what happened as I am normally meek and mild but suddenly saw red and laid into all of them, in the middle of the party. My dc were completely shocked and I never raise my voice or swear and I did lots of both!

Anyway, nobody has teased him about being ill since 😁

Be proud of yourself for standing up and protecting your son, for being a lioness.....

It's a 'well done' from me.

I’ve done similar in the past a couple of times too, while they weren’t my proudest of moments, I believe there was acceptable reason for doing so. You wouldn’t have confronted him if he wasn’t behaving like such a shit. His fault, he brought it on himself.

In fact, bullies need to be directly challenged, preferably as publicly as possible, so they know that their behaviour isn’t acceptable and will not be tolerated - you may even have helped him become a better person!

100% did the right thing!

My mum never stood up for me because she couldn't deal with anything like that and I've always resented it.

One of the kids in my year at primary hated me (as did his mum, she made it more well known than him!) I don't know why as we weren't even in the same class - my mum knew this.

To this day, she will still speak to the mum nicely and have a full blown convo if she bumps in to her anywhere and it still makes my blood boil, even more so since I've had my own child.

I take my hat off to you OP - you had your kid's back and showed that nasty little prick not to less with your family!!! Give yourself a pat on the back and don't feel guilty xx

Gold Star for you OP ⭐️

Good on you. Although I'm quite the pacifist I do think it's important to make exceptions to protect others.

Look, when any of us are pushed beyond our limit, we react like tigers.

It's not nice to feel you've been pushed over the line - it's a shock. But this young guy did that.

Personally I wouldn't lower myself any more to shout at him and I'd go straight to his parents. Let them deal with him.

Well done, don't feel bad. What a little shit

100% did the right thing in my opinion.

How would you be feeling right now if you'd saw this going on with your own eyes and did nothing about it. In this instance, think how your son would have felt, that effectively no one stood up for him !

And 16 is old enough to know how to act, like a pp said he could join the army at this age, he isn't a child who doesn't know any better.

Bloody good on you I say. He might think twice but bullying kids now then, plus he'll realise everyone knows about his dirty habits.

Well done.
Like a PP I'm a big believer in bollocking other people's children if they've done something wrong. If the parents don't like it they should do something about the behaviour themselves.
I remember once seeing my 3 year old getting a battering with big soft bricks at a soft play. I'd gone to get a coffee but turned round and saw it then bellowed "Oi!" so loudly that the whole place went silent. I stormed over, only to be met half way by a member of staff who had run to beat me to it and hold me back. I wasn't planning to assault the small aggressor but I think the look on my face suggested otherwise

Well done!!!!! Your kids have a great mum!

We'll done. If my kids ever behaved like that (they wouldn't) I'd be delighted that you read the riot act. He's 16, not a child, and should know better.

Well done from me! I think you did the right thing, standing up for your child

Thanks again

Slept kind of poorly last night.

But going to take my wobbly butt out for a jog before work.

Have a good day all!