Today I properly lost my temper and feel shitty about it

[Iwonder777]

My sons 16, autistic, was playing footy in park with my other 2 teen kids,

Same age kid lays into him verbally - mocking him, squaring up to him - my autistic son starts getting distressed

This has been going on for ages

I've never been there

I've taught my kids to say nothing. Walk away. They do this.

Except I was walking nearby today.

Saw it myself.

Literally saw red.

I can't explain it but I marched over. Said to my guys to walk back home please.

Asked to have a word.

Called the kid a prick and told him if he ever fucking started on my son again, I'd make known his relentless bullying behaviour to his parents - that plus his recent drug taking habit (common knowledge where we live). I was fuming.

But he's only 16 (nearly 17).

I feel terrible.

I don't know what happened.

I literally saw red.

I'm ashamed of myself. I really bollocked him.

Will you have the fun get his parents knocking your door telling you you were in the wrong/ how vary dare you/he's a good kid/heart of gold/cousin has autism and he loves him to bits crap?

This is brilliant, well done. Hell hath no fury like a mum who sees her kid being bullied.

Good for you op. You never know his bullying days may be behind him now. Maybe not just your ds you have saved.

@Iwonder777

Thanks guys

Word on the street or at the park rather was that I said the f word

How ever will I live it down in this small town 😂

Respect!

You did the right thing. TBH go to his parents and tell them. I'd make it known that I wasnt afraid to do jail time for my kids especially one with a disability. I have done this. it worked a treat. the parents made the child apologise publicly.

He's 16 not 6. You did the right thing.

Well done!

Maybe that nasty little twat will think twice before he abuses people in future.

You shouldn't feel shitty. You did the right thing.

My parents always told me to 'turn the other cheek but that usually meant I got punched that side as well. One day my Dad saw one of my bullies assaulting me, quite by chance. He laid into her and she never said a cross word to me again.

All I can say is well done, OP!

Good for you. Far too much pussy footing around little shits these days

Just because the lad is from a privileged background doesn't mean his home life is not disfunctional.

Not your problem though.

You did a a great job and your ds has a wonderful mum. He needs to know that you have his back and you sure demonstrated you do. Ace

Ps. No parents at my door..... yet.

It might come. Hopefully not.

I won't swear at them if they come.

I didn't think I'd swear at their kid either to be fair

Aw, diddums got a bollocking for being a nasty bully?

Think you let him off lightly tbh, OP

And like fuck is he going to take it to his parents. He’s probably shitting it thinking you will.

It'll be interesting to see if he stops

I hope he does

Yeah, as you say, middle class doesn't mean no dysfunction. His parents seemed ok years ok when we all collected the kids from nursery before he started being a prick😂

I still can't get over the fact I called someone a prick 😱

Do not feel shitty.
Feel proud.

And pass that lioness instinct down to your children. What a fabulous trait to have.

I've just never lost my restraint like that. Or swore so publicly! Ever.

Sounds like it's long overdue. No harm in standing up for yourself, and definitely no harm in standing up for your child. I let fly with some frequency, usually when some fuckwit car driver has put me at risk. Sure, you don't want to be an aggressive arsehole, but at the same time you are allowed to be angry when someone does something shitty. You don't have to negate yourself or your feelings. He was a tosser, you called him on it.

Good for you, I'd have done exactly the same. I have an autistic son too. Don't sweat it, hopefully the nasty little shit will think twice next time. Well done Mum!

My autistic son made me laugh when he was going to bed.

Said,

I hope you're not going to hold a grudge against him mum. Everyone makes mistakes.

My son is SUCH a nice guy 👌

no grudge son but no danger am I going to back down unless bullyboy changes his tune

Good. The kid is a shitbag. He needed telling.

Teenagers need to be called on their shit behaviour, otherwise they never stop and now we have shit adults.

goodness, what a lovely young man your son is x

That actually breaks my heart a bit, what a sweetie.

I think you did the right thing. Boundaries are really important for everyone. He had crossed them. Hopefully he has learned a lesson. But your children have also learned - that you have their back when things are not OK and people are not behaving acceptably. Well done! Very few people seem to have the courage to do the right thing. It takes guts.