Should I push to find the truth about who smashed it or accept it was an accident?

[SuspiciousSmasher]

Name changed as quite outing and will try to be brief.

I own my house - a few months before, I had replaced something broken in the house. It had been broken for around 9 months and it took this long for me to save to get a new one (around £1k).

I had to be away from home for 3 weeks. In week one, dp allowed his son (age 21) to stay there with his friends (dp was with me). 2nd week dp went back for 2 days and a night and the same with the 3rd week.

I came back on Saturday. Didn't use said item till Sunday but when I did, I noticed there was a massive crack in it and a clear dent - it's obvious someone dropped something v heavy on it and has broken it. It's unlikely to be able to be repaired.

Everyone is claiming they know nothing about it. I don't believe for a second that you would not know you had dropped something on it but if it was someone else who did the dropping (not you), you wouldn't notice till you used it.

I just want someone to say 'sorry I did it'. Dp says as no one is saying that I need to accept it was an accident - which I'm sure it was - but there are no children involved so these are all adults and I'm really pissed off no one is man enough to admit it.

Just claim on the insurance. And don't spend so much next time on something that could get broken so easily?

@StarUtopia - it was a hob, not a delicate vase.

And op has the right to spend her money on what she wants and to expect it not to be smashed!

Your partner did it and is refusing to own up. You need to just tell him you know he did it, it’s unacceptable that he’s lying to you and that you need the money for a replacement.

Has anyone owned up, or paid up, OP?

Dp says as no one is saying that I need to accept it was an accident - which I'm sure it was - but there are no children involved so these are all adults and I'm really pissed off no one is man enough to admit it.

This tells me he knows what happened, whether it was him or his son/son's friends.

And just because it was an accident, it doesn't absolve him/his son from paying to repair/replace. They were responsible after all.

Maybe accidentally dispose of £1000 worth of your DPS clothes or equipment and not mention it. Don't apologise and don't offer to repay.

See what he says then.

I think I’d be reconsidering the whole relationship.......zero respect for you from the lot of them

It is disrespectful.

It’s like the guy knows the truth and has told the lads “don’t worry I’ll sort this out, boys will be boys”, type thing. Like he’s the good guy and she’s the bad guy. Them and us.

You are bonkers to let a 21 year old and three of his friends use your house. Totally bonkers.

If you claim on your insurance, you’ll have to explain how it was broken, pay excess & your premium will go up next year.

You have a liar in the camp. Someone knows how it was broken don’t let it go.

I agree with the pp who have questioned if the hob is faulty.

Hobs should be pretty robust, for it to crack so easily sounds like it isn’t fit for purpose. I can’t imagine having a 1k hob you have to treat like glass in case it smashes.

I’d at least give the company a call- have you checked reviews to see if others have been damaged so easily?