Asking for a handhold - DH in ICU

[peachgreen]

DH was taken into hospital last night with breathing difficulties. It was pretty minor, the paramedics weren't even going to take him in but we insisted. He's now in an induced coma on a ventilator. He's had 2 negative Covid tests so they don't think it's that but they don't know what it is.

I'm falling apart. He's my whole life. We have a 2 year old who is a complete Daddy's girl. I need him so much. I can't even be with him now because of COVID.

You and your family are very much in my thoughts, OP.

Op, my brother in laws 94 year old mother was in hospital with heart failure recently. She bounced back. She's hoping to go and visit her sister in a few weeks.

I know things look really horrific right now but try and keep a little bit of hope in sight. He's in the right place getting the best place right now. He's got a lot to fight for too. Keep that in mind.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Gather your support around you and be his advocate. Where there is life there is hope, so do not give up. x

Thinking of you OP, I like the story above about the 94-year-old bouncing back from heart failure. That gives lots of hope.

Oh OP I'm so sorry, how terrifying for you. I have everything crossed that your DH improves

Sorry to hear that, OP. It sounds like a shock. They'll explain things but, as a PP has said, please don't think heart failure = the end. It means there's a problem rather than always meaning there is no treatment available.

Good luck.

So sorry OP. He is in the right place. I hope you have people around who can support you as well as your DH.

I'm so sorry, keeping you all in my thoughts and hoping for the best

And I’m 66 years old so considerably older than your poor DH, but even so can do virtually everything I could pre heart failure except for long distance walks, 3 miles is my limit.
It did take a few months to come to terms with everything, and to learn to live with it. I don’t actually think much about it on a day to day basis now x

I'm so sorry op

So sorry for what you’re going through OP, hope you hubby recovers! xx

Oh OP. So sorry. Hoping for the best.

This must be very scary for you OP. Do you have a bit of paper and a pen to hand , if not one of the nurses will be able to give you one. Have a think about the questions you want to ask and write a little list. I have found in the past in extremely stressful situations like these that half the questions I wanted to ask disappear from my head the minute anyone asks 'do you have any questions?'

Keep talking to us if it helps, OP. x

I am sorry this is happening to your family. Your DH is in the best place and is being taken care of.

Do look after yourself. Get some rest and don't forget to eat and drink.

Thinking of you hope there is positive news soon.

OP I'm so sorry for what you and your family are going through I can't even begin to imagine. What have the hospital said? Thinking of you all

Hope you’re getting good info and support, another handhold here 💐

Do they know what has caused this, OP? “Failure” sounds like such a no-hope sort of word but it really isn’t these days, there are many treatment options with some fantastic drugs. Don’t lose hope, he can come through this. Is he at a district general hospital/ big city hospital? Hang on in there , sending hugs xx

Oh god OP, sending you strength and hope

Oh my goodness, thinking of you and your family. What an enormous shock. So sorry. X

Friend with heart failure at 34, with drugs and diet she is still going and working full time. Keep praying as we all will for you @peachgreen

So sorry to read this. I hope they have better news on treatment

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this