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Asking for a handhold - DH in ICU

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peachgreen · 04/09/2020 10:56

DH was taken into hospital last night with breathing difficulties. It was pretty minor, the paramedics weren't even going to take him in but we insisted. He's now in an induced coma on a ventilator. He's had 2 negative Covid tests so they don't think it's that but they don't know what it is.

I'm falling apart. He's my whole life. We have a 2 year old who is a complete Daddy's girl. I need him so much. I can't even be with him now because of COVID.

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CatherinedeBourgh · 04/09/2020 11:51

So sorry this is happening. Hope you get some good news soon.

Hairyfairy01 · 04/09/2020 11:56

Is there anyone who is with you? Who can drive you to the hospital if needed, look after your dd?

WankmasterBastardDeLaShithead · 04/09/2020 11:57

A handhold from me too. The waiting must be so awful. Hope you get some answers soon.

DameFanny · 04/09/2020 12:01

I'm so sorry this is happening to you all, my fingers are crossed for the best possible outcome Flowers

DameFanny · 04/09/2020 12:02

And well done for insisting the paramedics take him in, you should be so proud of yourselves for that

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peachgreen · 04/09/2020 12:06

Thank you everyone. @Hairyfairy01 my SIL is here. DD is at nursery and we have friends nearby who can look after her.

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peachgreen · 04/09/2020 12:31

I just have no idea what hisnchances are and nobody will tell me. I'm so scared.

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Hairyfairy01 · 04/09/2020 12:35

The truth is, until the doctors know what they are dealing with, neither do they. But they will do lots of investigations and find out what is wrong. In the meantime all kinds of wonderful people, machines and medicines will keep him alive. Is he normally fit and well?

candycane222 · 04/09/2020 12:37

When my DH had to have a very dangerous operation - which luckily he survived - I found it helped me to pray, even though I am not normally remotely religious. I just focused all my love on him, from afar. Could you do that?

(Rationally I don't think it made any dfference to him, but it made a difference to me, if you see what I mean)

cakeandchampagne · 04/09/2020 12:39
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zippityzip · 04/09/2020 12:40

I can't imagine how you feel OP. Take strength from other people and don't be scared to ask for help.
I'm sending my best wishes and hope for good news for you.

Sexnotgender · 04/09/2020 12:41

I’m so sorry. Handhold from meFlowers

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peachgreen · 04/09/2020 12:41

Other than this chest issue he is fit and well - a little overweight but nothing crazy. But he is asthmatic which obviously makes chest things more dangerouals

He is such a wonderful person.

@candycane SIL and FIL are religious and I have faith but finding it hard to believe right now. But will keep trying.

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Alfiemoon1 · 04/09/2020 12:42

Thinking of you and hope you get some answers soon

Bin85 · 04/09/2020 12:43

Holding your hand x

Cocolapew · 04/09/2020 12:45
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AlternativePerspective · 04/09/2020 12:56

So sorry OP.

If it’s any consolation I have been on a ventilator in ICU twice, once for three days and the other time overnight.

They will be conducting all the tests they can as quickly as they can. They have portable xray machines for chest X-rays, they have the means to do their own blood testing and the results usually come back within about an hour.

He will have someone with him exclusively 24/7.

And most importantly he will know nothing about any of this.

And please don’t be too alarmed if you go up there. He is likely to have lines and tubes and monitors attached to him but it’s all normal and it’s all necessary so they can act fast if they have to and monitor constantly.

ICU isn’t for the faint-hearted, but it is a fantastic place. I spent three and nine days there respectively last year and three days four years ago.

If there are issues these will be picked up by them, and then he can go on to have the best treatment.

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peachgreen · 04/09/2020 13:02

@alternativeperspective thank you, that really helps. Knowing somebody has come out the other side.

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Badger2033 · 04/09/2020 13:11

Handhold. DS has ended up in ICU a couple of time’s in early infancy (in addition to NICU) obviously I was (mostly) with him.
I’m telling you now that he’s getting 1st class care. I’ve got everything crossed for you. Glad you’re going to him soon.
He’s incredibly lucky to have a wonderful wife who cares so very much about him.

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peachgreen · 04/09/2020 13:22

It's so hard because they won't tell me anything. Just say they'll talk to me when I go in at 2

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giletrouge · 04/09/2020 13:25

Everything crossed for you peachgreen.
And a big handhold.

Amber0685 · 04/09/2020 13:33

Try to have something to eat peachgreen even if it is only a banana. Good luck for 2pm, I hope you get some answers, and remember he is in the best place. He wouldn't want you falling apart so try to stay strong, great to hear you have SIL with you.

Rudolphian · 04/09/2020 13:39
Flowers Thinking of you.
MyNameWas · 04/09/2020 13:39

Keep you spirits up..no news does t always mean bad news, and he is in a hospital where he will receive the care he needs. Virtual handhold

RoseyOldCrow · 04/09/2020 13:51

Best wishes to you both Peachgreen 💐

Keep your faith, it is meaningful & worthwhile.