I am 90% sure my friend's DD is not her DH's

[SpaceOP]

I have a good friend who I've known for a long time. I love her and consider her a very close friend, but she's also someone who seems all super open on the surface but there's all kinds of stuff going on below.

I have long had my suspicions about her DD. Since she was really very small, I kept being struck by how much she looks like a friend of ours. My friend and her DH are very close to this man, and have been for as long as I've known them. Recently, the man posted a picture of HIS DD who is about 5 years older than my friend's DD and I almost dropped my phone in shock. I showed DH and when looking at the picture, after a few seconds he said, "is that friend's DD from a few years ago?"

I think it's entirely possible she had an affair. I think it's possible her DH knows and has forgiven her EXCEPT that he is still very close with this man which seems odd. So my new theory is that for whatever reason, they asked him to donate sperm.

Obviously, if she wanted me to know, she'd have told me and I'm certainly not going to ask her. Ditto, I would never ever say anything to any mutual friends or even just anyone in real life in case they ever met her/her DH. So I came on here!

Any other ideas on how this might have happened? Affair (known or not) and sperm donation are my main ones. I guess it's possible they used to do threesomes back in the day too (the other man was single until a few years ago but is very attractive).

My friend’s wife has posted back to school photos of her DS. So many comments of how much he looks like his Dad, and he does (I’ve known his Dad most of his life) but I happen to know he was born with donated sperm.

Mind your own business.

None of your business and nothing whatsoever to be gained (by anyone) in making it your business.

People look alike sometimes. Or they could be distantly related.

Stay out of it.

I think OP is getting a hard time- I think it would be natural to be curious but I would definitely agree do not mention it to anyone in real life!

It may also be that they just look alike. Me and my childhood best friend were superficially very similar facially- similar face shapes, eye shapes, colouring. I looked more like her than my actual sister who had a totally diffferent face shape and blue eyes compared to my hazel. I think what does run more in families is build- my sister and I ( and my mum) have similar shapes to our bodies, including leg shape, shouldrs waist etc and we have similar teeth whereas these were all different to my friend.

@TheNavigator

You sound like the sort of loser who watches Jeremy Kyle. Keep your prurient, judgey, bosom-hoiking, curtain-twitching, pearl-clutching, lip-pursing neb out of your 'friend's' family, you ghoul.

Are you the friend?

hmm..

i would say... its 100% none of your fucking business!

Don't believe for one second this is a serious post. But it is the kind of prurient shit that's lapped up by the tabloid media.

On the slim chance that it's genuine, I hope the 'friend' happens to see it and never speaks to you again.

As someone who doesn't know the people involved, this is totally fascinating. I guess there are loads of possibilities including a one-night stand?

Stop gossiping!

How is this gossiping? A person none of us knows posts about a possible situation relating to another person none of us know! She's not standing at the school gates saying it!

Who knows? Who cares?

Don't worry about it. I get why you're fascinated but even if you find out it's the truth, what would you do with it?

It could just be a coincidence, my adopted daughter is a spitting image of my youngest daughter! And she is most definitely not my Dh as he had the snip when youngest birth daughter was 7 mths old!

Mind your own business..
!!!

Hmm, I would be of the view that the friend donated sperm, and was done out on the open.

Thing is, when there are affairs, there is usually an atmosphere, at least that my experience as I can't recall one instance of someone having an affair where they acted normal around each other.

Everyone's right, it's not your business... but I definitely would want to know too

What has this got to do with you. What gives you the right to post about someone else’s private business. You’re a pretty terrible friend if this is the way you behave.

I know people have said the same about whether I am my dad's daughter. My mum did have affairs and they split up when I was a baby.
As far as I'm concerned, my dad is my dad. He must have heard the rumours too and maybe had his suspicions but as far as he is concerned I am his daughter. It is not something we have ever discussed.
Keep your nose out.

Some things are better left unsaid.

Any other ideas on how this might have happened?

Toilet seat

Seriously have a good look at yourself. Your friend deserves better friends. You have already told or heavily implied your thoughts about your friends very personal business to your dh, it won't be long before someone lets something slip.

@IhateBoswell

You nosey bleeder! I bet your curtains are constantly twitching.

What does it matter. It's her business.

Oh FGS, stop being nasty you lot.

OP, don't open that can of worms. Its not worth it and you really don't want me be in on a big secret like that.

Oh god, don't even go there.

Of course it's gossip. It doesn't matter that none of us knows any of these people. People gossip about the `Royal Family, actors. It's gossip.she is a gossip. It not an attractive trait.

You come across as a very shallow 'friend'!?
Probably why she would never tell you.