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Control your fucking dogs

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:16

I’m so angry. Yet again someone can’t control their dog and my dc is even more afraid due to some massive dog leaping up at their face and mouthing at them (very young, but big dog).

If they have no recall and keep jumping up at people (and are at the mouthing people stage still) don’t fucking let them be able to get out of control.

Dog ran away from owners, out of the garden and my child ran towards the road. I’m so 😡. Why did I come away feeling like my son was to blame for running and shouting (yes it excites the dog, no I can’t stop him doing it when he’s scared and the dog is chasing him). Yes the dog was playing. No, it makes no difference to my child when the dog can jump higher than he is tall.

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:17

(My son is 11, so they seem to think he should be ok with it, but on hind legs, the dog was jumping towards my face)

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Drogonssmile · 25/08/2020 19:18

I understand OP my DS is 6.5 and terrified of dogs now for this reason. Even my mums daft old lab which makes visiting her practically impossible.

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:19

And yes, the dog was friendly (I grew up with dogs and his body language was clear), but my son hasn’t and it makes no difference whether it was a puppy nip or aggressive to him.

I’m really starting to hate dogs and I’m really a dog lover.

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custardbear · 25/08/2020 19:21

Some dog owners put their dogs before literally everyone else ...

tmh88 · 25/08/2020 19:22

I get it op, probably about a year ago I was walking to work after getting off the bus and a massive dog jumped all over me! I had to go to work covered in muddy footprints while the owner exclaimed “he’s friendly” I don’t give a shit if he’s friendly, I don’t wanna sit all day covered in mud!

Chottie · 25/08/2020 19:22

I hate this too.

I passed a woman with a dog on a long lead with my GSs. We gave them a very wide berth, but as the dog was on a long lead, it still was able to jump up at us. The woman was ineffectively bleating at her dog to stop it.............

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:26

Yes, we both have mud and saliva from the dog on us. I keep having a panic that a car had come. We are relatively new to the area and really wanted to make a good impression, but this is twice now the dog has jumped all over us (my son ran out of fear this time and the dog chased him - was a game to the dog, not so my son). Yet he got the blame for running and exciting the dog Angry Yes, that may be so, but the dog shouldn’t be able to chase anyway. (The garden is surrounded by bushes - full of gaps, so a clear boundary for humans, but not so for dogs).

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:40

My 'd'h thinks I’m overreacting and should just smile and be nice and be friendly with the neighbours. I think they should be able to control their dog and actually be vaguely apologetic Angry

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AdriannaP · 25/08/2020 19:43

This happens to us 9 times out of 10 we go to the park. I am so so sick of it. Most dogs don’t listen to their owners and my DD is so scared of them now. Never has an owner apologised - they always minimise it. (Dog is friendly/dog is young/dog likes to play)
Why can’t people keep their dogs on a lead??

QuentinInQuarantino · 25/08/2020 19:46

I love dogs.

It is dog owners that are selfish shits. A dog stole our entire picnic once in a non-dog park. Took ds sandwich out of his hand leaving its slobber everywhere. Owner sauntered on by refusing to apologise. DC also quite nervous now.

Also the poo, that they don't pick up because it's on the grassy bit next to the pavement and not the pavement itself. Or worse, lightly covered with sand on the beach and then dc end up putting hands in it when building sandcastles.

I'd say there should be rules, like dogs on leads, but there are and they're ignored by the owners.

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:51

My son has to pass their house to and from school Sad

It makes me so mad, because I’d be apologising profusely and organising fence to be built. They just blame my son for running and making the dog think it’s fun to run after him (yes, a dog will see it like that, but that’s why the dog needs to be trained). My son wasn’t born scared of dogs.

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heartsonacake · 25/08/2020 19:53

They were out of order; they should have controlled their dog. It’s irrelevant how friendly the dog is, they shouldn’t be jumping up at or chasing anyone.

However, what are you doing to combat your sons dog phobia? How are you addressing it?

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 19:57

@heartsonacake

They were out of order; they should have controlled their dog. It’s irrelevant how friendly the dog is, they shouldn’t be jumping up at or chasing anyone.

However, what are you doing to combat your sons dog phobia? How are you addressing it?

I’m addressing it well, thank you until fucking idiot owners think they don’t need to control their fucking dogs.

As long as he knows the dog won’t jump all over him, he loves them. He knows how to handle them and treats them with respect (he would never reach over the top of a small dog, for example, but would get down to their level and let them come to him).

What he can’t do is control his reaction and clamp down on his fear (or control the flight reflex) when a large dog comes bounding over and jumps up at him.

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DaughterX · 25/08/2020 20:02

I have 2 kids. The 5yo has always been nervous around dogs so i put it down to a natural fear, although he has worked hard to try and overcome it. My toddler used to LOVE dogs but after one too many being allowed to jump up and yap in his face, many far bigger than him, is now terrified. Both of them hear the words "don't worry, he's friendly!" as a clear signal that they'll be jumped up at, barked at, etc with the owner doing no more than weakly shouting for the dog to "come here". it's a damn shame in my opinion that my youngest has this fear where he didn't before.

On the flip side I really, really appreciate it when dog owners put their dogs on leads or lead them on a slightly different course when they see young children. It makes all the difference.

A few weeks ago we were walking in a field where you had to go through gates with multiple very clear signs that dogs needed to be on leads, for the wildlife (cows). One couple blatantly ignored them all and the dog not only ran wild but nicked a sandwich from a young family having a picnic! They were nice about it but I was livid on their behalf - the sheer entitlement!

I grew up with dogs as pets so it's not like I hate them myself.

JoeCalFuckingZaghe · 25/08/2020 20:02

I’m a dog owner and I couldn’t agree with you more OP. I’m sorry that happened. We don’t ever let our dog off lead as he has no control. Unless your dog has 100% recall then it shouldn’t be off lead. Most of the dog owners at the park we go to are irresponsible like your neighbour, but still bleat on at us about dogs running offlead. It’s like some wanky badge they want to Lord like they’re better than you. But every single dog I’ve encountered offlead isn’t under control and it infuriates me.

I imagine the neighbours wouldn’t respond well to a discussion about their out of control dog? Looking at guidance online it would be consisted out of control

“ Out of control
Your dog is considered dangerously out of control if it:

injures someone
makes someone worried that it might injure them”

So you could report to the local council I imagine.

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 20:03

Actually ^ that question has annoyed me now.

My son did not have a phobia until selfish owners who can’t control their dogs let them chase and jump over my son. End of.

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 20:05

@ThunderSkies

Actually ^ that question has annoyed me now.

My son did not have a phobia until selfish owners who can’t control their dogs let them chase and jump over my son. End of.

Sorry this was aimed @heartsonacake
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InFiveMins · 25/08/2020 20:07

You seem very angry OP.

It would have annoyed me but, no real damage done. The dog is young and will mature, sounds like he was just excited. Remind your child about road safety and not to run into the road etc. Maybe have a word with the dog owners to keep the dog secure behind a proper fence.

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 20:07

@JoeCalFuckingZaghe

I’m a dog owner and I couldn’t agree with you more OP. I’m sorry that happened. We don’t ever let our dog off lead as he has no control. Unless your dog has 100% recall then it shouldn’t be off lead. Most of the dog owners at the park we go to are irresponsible like your neighbour, but still bleat on at us about dogs running offlead. It’s like some wanky badge they want to Lord like they’re better than you. But every single dog I’ve encountered offlead isn’t under control and it infuriates me.

I imagine the neighbours wouldn’t respond well to a discussion about their out of control dog? Looking at guidance online it would be consisted out of control

“ Out of control
Your dog is considered dangerously out of control if it:

injures someone
makes someone worried that it might injure them”

So you could report to the local council I imagine.

The problem is it’s clearly a lovely dog - just young, but happens to be a big dog. But if they don’t control it now, it’s going to be a problem. He seems more embarrassed about it. She just acts as though it wouldn’t have happened if my son hadn’t run Angry
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heartsonacake · 25/08/2020 20:07

You’re not addressing the phobia well at all if he can only handle dogs in certain situations. They are unpredictable, even more so when selfish dog owners don’t train their animals, and you need to deal with his fear for all eventualities. Until the phobia is gone completely.

How long has he had his fear?

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ThunderSkies · 25/08/2020 20:09

@InFiveMins

You seem very angry OP.

It would have annoyed me but, no real damage done. The dog is young and will mature, sounds like he was just excited. Remind your child about road safety and not to run into the road etc. Maybe have a word with the dog owners to keep the dog secure behind a proper fence.

I am very angry.

My son is well aware of the dangers of the road, but when fight or flight takes over, thinking doesn’t come into it.

I don’t care if the dog was fucking 'just excited', they need to have control over him.

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JoeCalFuckingZaghe · 25/08/2020 20:10

No control should say no recall

CostaCosta · 25/08/2020 20:12

I hate this! We recently had a dog run up to us, terrify our ds while we were having a picnic and ate our sandwiches. The dog owner said nothing! Gave us a look like we did something wrong????

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Orangecake123 · 25/08/2020 20:15

I agree. I was walking with my younger sister and a unleashed dog started barking at her.

She was "making the dog anxious" by walking. Hmm

He's lucky I only said he should be on a leash. Angry