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ADs dream of 'bum' tomatoes, gin and tonic sorbet and next year's holidays

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RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 23/08/2020 18:12

New thread.

previous thread

The one with the phallic aubergines

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TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 23/08/2020 21:04

So frustrating to have to worry about small symptoms - I swear about 5 times in the last few months I've had vague cough like symptoms. Always totally psychosomatic - mild, disappeared within hours. But each time I've sat there wondering. It's not like they've struck when I've been going out so I've not got tested (and would if I was leaving the house when it happened) so at least there's that

I'm tempted by London but it sounds quite sad to be honest. Very weird without tourists. I haven't been on a train since March.

HeIenaDove · 23/08/2020 21:07

@Ghostlyglow Some of it will be because the tourists arent there but masks wont be helping either.

WouldBeGood · 23/08/2020 21:07

@cocopops in Scotland too and really hope masks do not become mandatory in schools. Surely we should see how things go first at the very least?

I was out in Glasgow today and had a spontaneous lunch out and a coffee later. Really nice to be out and the West End is pretty bustling.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/08/2020 21:13

Well the conga will definitely cause a second wave even if you have a negative test Wink

Back home from holidays in the morning. It's been a good week. We decided that we couldn't be bothered with booking swimming. The DCs wouldn't be interested in enough activities to justify the cost of the entertainment passes. We like outdoor swimming, but it's been brisk sea breezes too. We've definitely missed the spontenaity and lack of pleasurable indoor options. DH will quietly tolerate a mask for upto an hour but drew the line for the tank museum. I'd have stayed in the caravan for that one!
But the change of scenery, and sea air has been good. The DCs are happy with digging away on a beach and we often have UK holidays anyway. A change of area was refreshing and it's felt more normal than all of us being home all the time.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/08/2020 21:15

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair

So frustrating to have to worry about small symptoms - I swear about 5 times in the last few months I've had vague cough like symptoms. Always totally psychosomatic - mild, disappeared within hours. But each time I've sat there wondering. It's not like they've struck when I've been going out so I've not got tested (and would if I was leaving the house when it happened) so at least there's that

I'm tempted by London but it sounds quite sad to be honest. Very weird without tourists. I haven't been on a train since March.

DH starts spluttering when he goes out, bloody hayfever. He's fine indoors! Plus he has a full man-sized sneeze 🙄
DominaShantotto · 23/08/2020 21:15

Mine are back from grandparents and are much the better for the change of scenery and having had the space to play. Mum is now still terrified of the virus though and can't quite compute that I'm not.

Taswama · 23/08/2020 21:19

Thanks for the new thread.
I too am dreading the idea of masks being compulsory at secondary.
Our kids lockdown bad habit (or at least DS1's) is bad table manners. I was mostly home edding during the day, then working until 7pm so DP did the kids' tea and the housework (and sometimes work too) in the evening. So they mostly had food put in front of them and were left to fet on with it. DS1 thinks eating fish and chips with your fingers is fine. He's 13. Hmm

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RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 23/08/2020 21:24

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair

I have had a suicide plan in place for the last 35 years, since I was 30. Daft as it seems, it is my safety net when things are crap, which isn't all the time but often enough.

Knowing what I can do and how I can do it makes it easier to put it off for one more day. This isn't the answer for everyone - many are shocked when I tell them (and I don't tell most people) but it has helped me.

Whilst I am in no rush, I do need to update my plans as I have no intention of becoming incapable for physical or dementia reasons and (1) having to exist in a care home and (2) All the money in my property being eaten up paying for unwanted care.

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RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 23/08/2020 21:26

@Taswama

Thanks for the new thread. I too am dreading the idea of masks being compulsory at secondary. Our kids lockdown bad habit (or at least DS1's) is bad table manners. I was mostly home edding during the day, then working until 7pm so DP did the kids' tea and the housework (and sometimes work too) in the evening. So they mostly had food put in front of them and were left to fet on with it. DS1 thinks eating fish and chips with your fingers is fine. He's 13. Hmm
@Taswama

Fingers is the only way to eat fish and chips.

Anything with gravy or spag bol no BUT fish and chips definitely

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yoikes · 23/08/2020 21:32

Hello again.
Ds2 (11) starts secondary this week....I think the school has done all they can tbh. It doesn't sound like much fun though.
Ds1 (17) goes back into year 13 the week after but only for 50% of the time and masks must be worn. He also has to travel by bus.
It's all a bit grim really.

Taswama · 23/08/2020 21:32

Fish and chips (at the seaside) out of paper - fingers are fine.
Fish and chips in a pub - Knife and fork should be used.

cocopops · 23/08/2020 21:32

[quote RealityExistsInTheHumanMind]@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair

I have had a suicide plan in place for the last 35 years, since I was 30. Daft as it seems, it is my safety net when things are crap, which isn't all the time but often enough.

Knowing what I can do and how I can do it makes it easier to put it off for one more day. This isn't the answer for everyone - many are shocked when I tell them (and I don't tell most people) but it has helped me.

Whilst I am in no rush, I do need to update my plans as I have no intention of becoming incapable for physical or dementia reasons and (1) having to exist in a care home and (2) All the money in my property being eaten up paying for unwanted care.[/quote]
That’s sad- but sensible x

Littlebelina · 23/08/2020 21:38

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair Flowers and thank you for trying to start a positive schools thread. Unfortunately I think there is no point trying with some on here

profpoopsnagle · 23/08/2020 21:41

If they do decide on masks for secondary school, then I think children need to change them every hour. Teaching and learning relies a lot on communication, talking with peers and discussing ideas and asking questions from everyone involved. Wearing a mask for school would be completely different to wearing a mask for 20 minutes to pop around Tescos. What research has been done into damp masks stopping the spread? Or damp masks causing more health problems for the wearer? I teach primary and wearing a mask would hinder so much teaching and learning. It'd be like asking a surgeon to perform surgery wearing winter woolly gloves.

Ghostlyglow · 23/08/2020 21:50

@HelenaDove empty offices too.

TheOrchidKiller · 23/08/2020 21:52

Same thoughts as @profpoopsnagle re masks in schools.

It would all be a performance. Everyday life is not like being in an operating theatre. Or carefully controlled conditions where studies into the efficacy of masks are carried out.

But what do I know?

WouldBeGood · 23/08/2020 22:20

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair you Tory bot, you 😂

justasking111 · 23/08/2020 22:34

Well if you are in need of a laugh pop around to my house. OH finally had delivery of an electric bike this week. He goes for rides every day, will pop down for a bottle of milk for me if I ask so that is a win.

What was funny is when I have had a couple of goes on it after a 40 year gap. He had to hold the back of it when I set off wobbling, turning a corner is a sight to behold, a u turn has me grabbing the handlebars as my feet hit the ground. Turns out the bloody thing weighs 25kgs. That is 4 stone. So hanging onto it as I fall off is a killer. All I can do is cycle to top of the road, hit the kerb, get off turn it around get back on using kerb push off and cycle back.

So next door drags his bike out for OH to repair something gear related. Turned out neighbour could not even get on it any more, so I feel slightly better now. Grin

amicissimma · 23/08/2020 22:42

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair, your head must be very sore after banging it against a brick wall on that thread. It was good of you to try, though.

MagdaS · 23/08/2020 22:55

Checking in AD comrades!

DrearyWallAntler · 23/08/2020 22:56

Checking in here, it makes me happy that these threads are slowing down.... It means that not only can we do other things, we are doing them.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/08/2020 23:24

I like the surgeon-woolly glove analogy, although I was crap at piercing ears with standard latex gloves... my client was not expecting to be pierced to my glove which was awkward as I couldn't move.
MN is right about a certain trinkets store... they have form for employing muppets like me Grin

One advantage of my ferral, nocturnal offspring is that they've become very enthused about star gazing this year. We tried sending them to bed... DS1 bounced out shouting that the stars are amazing and different to home, so we've just spent 20 minutes down by the coastline admirimg the stars. It's not my speciality, but hey there's apps with GPS to take care of that.

My semi feral parenting style has also been validated by picking up a checklist of the NT's 50 things to do before you're 11 3/4. They've covered about 46/ 47 already at 7 and 9.

Shame that we're still losing the battle of the cutlery...

99victoria · 24/08/2020 00:26

This weekend I realised that tomorrow my son and his fiancee will be on a plane back to Switzerland (it's been amazing to have them here for a week and to hug him for the first time since christmas!), my eldest daughter will be driving to Cornwall for a week's holiday with her OH and the 2 grand-daughters and my youngest daughter will be enjoying the last full day of her holiday in Corfu, while OH and I are still stuck at home. So I decided to book us a holiday.

Was tempted by Greece or Portugal but decided I'm just not up for wearing a mask for the 6 hours at the airport and on the plane so have booked 5 days in Jersey. We can fly from our local airport which means a shorter time in a quieter airport and only 45 minutes on the plane - result. Booked a spa hotel too. We're off in 2 weeks - yay!

Willow2017 · 24/08/2020 00:37

99Victoria
Fab have a great time lucky you.

Had a look on the 'what's the plan?' thread, wrote a post then didn't! They are falling over themselves with 60k have died in UK (say what now???), 2nd wave, flu season, masks have saved us, schools will erupt in a cesspool of Covid because you know Florida has 'young people with it' (???) vaccine comming a week on Tuesday for everyone and we need to keep this up till Feb at least etc etc so what's the point?

Worldgonecrazy · 24/08/2020 07:25

I can’t wait for DD to go back to school and am not worried in the slightest. She has just as much chance of bringing normal flu back as Covid, and she lives with two elderly people, both in the vulnerable Carey. They both know her school time is more important than minuscule risks. Her school is a stickler for risk assessments so hopefully the mask risk assessment includes risks of prolonged mask wearing in children.

The dementors are like a pack of gleeful hyaenas over every death, encouraging anxiety in the mentally fragile whilst ignoring any good news. They sicken me.