My mums not speaking to me, come tell me the ridiculous reasons relatives have stopped speaking to you

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My mum is hard work. I love her but we have a complicated relationship – she’s always the victim and always feels left out even if it doesn’t involve her and never has (she gets upset if she's not invited to my DCs school events for example even if it's a 2 ticket event and both me and ExH go).

My DC is at their dads for the weekend and I am having some much needed time. I met up with a friend of mine for a late breakfast and my mum happened to see me came over for a chat and left.

She’s just text me telling me that I clearly don’t want her in my life because if I did I’d have invited her to join me and my friend for breakfast oh and I’d have paid for hers to.

Apparently she’s not speaking to me until I apologise and make it up to her by taking her out like I did my friend (friend was actually treating me I couldn’t very well say “pay for my mum too she hardly knows my mum as we met at work before my DC was born and remained friends).

So tell me the most ridiculous reason a relative or someone has stopped speaking to you for to make me laugh?

Happynow001

Thankyou, that's very kind of you

My dm stopped speaking to me for two days because I was arguing with my db whilst we were staying with her sister (my aunt). I presume I was showing her up...

I was five. I've never forgotten it. DM is gone now, but I think it affected our relationship from then on. I can now comprehend why she did it (DB was the favoured child, childless aunt was being upset, I was showing up DM's parenting skills), but to cut dead a five year old whilst away from home...

We havent spoken to the mil (who admittedly is a right fucking bag) for 8 years now. Our crime was to not send her a 'new address' CARD when we moved into the house we were living in at the time.

Because dc1 was critically ill in hospital at the time and it was very much a question of IF they recovered, not when. I was with dc1. We had just moved into a new house the same weekend dc1 was admitted to hospital, the new kitchen was wired up so every plug socket was live and thus unusable, and DH and the other dc were essentially camping inside the house while also sampling the delights from every takeaway in a 5 mile radius. MIL was given our new address by text, but funnily enough having to go out and buy new address cards was the very last thing on our mind at the time.

I'm very close to a cousin and she stopped talking to me and hitched to the whole family when I announced I was pregnant. Apprently I did it on purpose to steal her thunder.. (she was 8 weeks ahead of me so hadnt even announced her pregnancy when we fell pregnant) shes annoyed her baby wouldnt be the youngest baby at Christmas and parties etc. I mean, how sad wtf lol.

She also came round after the baby was born and kicked off that we had more cards and presents for her than she got... so now we arent speaking again... pretty sure the reason she got less is cos shes a bitch not because my baby is younger haha x

Mum because I couldn't speak to my grandma on her birthday as I was working and mum wanted to call then and there. It was 11am on a weekday and I was busy at work
Sister because I told her it would be nice if she sent a thanks from my niece quick email when I sent a present so I knew gift had arrived

And dad doesn't speak to me because I like low contact and he doesn't. Too bad so sad

My brother is currently try and fix things between my parents and me but I just feel really scared. The trigger for this period of .... no contact was that my mum really hurt me by glossing over something she did to me with a bored wave of her hadn. Then when I expressed clearly to her that I was hurt and why, she stopped all communication with me but my dad came over to berate me for ''hurting mum''. My brother was putting pressure on ME to fix things Ever other time this has happened, I've just had to let it go. They're old, they have health issues. But my God do I have no right to a bit of respect. My brother keeps reminding me of what they've done for me which must mean ''they have bought the right to label you paranoid, silence any conversation, stonewall you and be the victims of your hurt feelings''. So I dread to think what will happen next. My brother told me that my parents said I was close to burning my bridges with them.
Because I was HURT.

And. They. Cannot. See. It.

They honestly think that I perpetrated some aggression against them. (ie, telling them I was hurt). I didn't accuse them of being this or that. I just said ''when you glossed over that as though it was nothing, I was hurt''.

And for that, I have nearly burnt my bridges with them.

So my brother is trying to fix things. But. He doesn't properly get it either. It took me an exasperatingly long length of time to get him to understand that even though they have been generous to me, I have the right to be hurt, they hurt me, that is not an aggression I perpetrated against them!!

They are the victims of hurting me though. It is so controlling isn't it! Such a good way of completely silencing somebody.
My parents are not in great health and my brother just thinks ''make it up make it up'' but i have a life time of not being allowed to feel what I felt.