Two wedding gowns

[kierawhogives]

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

Here are the pics

Can't you still have a church wedding?

Wear the first dress.

And as they're both lovely it doesn't really matter as you can't go wrong.

First dress for your wedding.

The second dress could be repurposed and part turned into a christening gown for your child and passed through the family as an heirloom in memory of your dad (although I hope your dad pulls through)

I'm still trying to get my head round wearing a wedding dress to the beach.
But then I'm someone who tends to dress down for any occasion.

First dress

Hi OP, your sadness is really obvious from your post. I’m sorry about your dad. I got married years ago but we had to completely change our wedding plans and bring it forward 2 months because my Dad was terminally ill and wouldn’t have been there otherwise. Even 2 weeks before we didn’t know if he would make it. It was very sad and stressful, and that was without a bloody pandemic in the mix.

Wear the first dress. You will look fabulous. It’s beautiful, you seem to love it, and it sounds like your parents love it too.

I love the first dress

I prefer the first one.

First one more flexible for simpler wedding.

The second one is a real modernist statement and although they are both gorgeous I think you'll be able to make a fantastic non- wedding dress out of the second more easily.

I'm going to stick my neck out and say 2, as the organza sleeves may complicate choosing a shawl/throw/shrug/jacket thing for a winter wedding.
But I think they are both beautiful, and you will have a special day, even though it will be different from what you thought, as everything in the world now is.

I’ll have a better look at the dresses later (want to have given my decision the thought it deserves), but I wanted to say that I think you should choose one to wear now and save the other one to wear for the fantastic marriage celebration you can throw at a later stage.

Okay so you won’t have the wedding you imagined but it can still be beautiful and just as meaningful.

💐

I think you probably don’t actually hate the dresses. You hate the situation you’ve been put in and the lack of control. Which is understandable, of course!

100% the first one! It's elegant and breezy. The second one is nice but way too plain if it's the only one you'll be wearing.

Ok I’ve had a good look (and also realise that you’re under time constraints so I can’t spend ages deciding).

I agree with a lot of others - the first one is absolutely beautiful, very bridal and perfect for a smaller, simple wedding. Wear that one.

A beautiful faux fur coat, cape or stole over your dress would be absolutely wonderful for a winter wedding.

The second is a very striking dress, also very beautiful, and lends itself well to becoming an occasion dress at a later stage. I wouldn’t do anything to it yet (dyeing) though. I would save it to wear for a proper big party once you’re free to celebrate with everyone. Don’t make big decisions whilst upset or under pressure.

The first one is so beautiful.

First.

This is totally off the wall....maybe you need a change. I have two wedding dresses - you can have one. Do you live in the south of england? They will both fit you

OP, get married and wear the dress and have kids for you not your bloody parents!
Pick the dress you want not what they think is appropriate. Yes people bring forward weddings to have sick relatives there if they were getting married anyway, but don’t ha e kids on a timescale to your parents!

I love the first dress. It’s beautiful and timeless. I would wear that and then get the second professionally dyed and altered into a cocktail gown.

It’s clear it’s more than just the wedding which is causing you distress, so I hope everything gets better.

Going against the grain here- the second is more of an informal look so would be perfect for a more relaxed intimate wedding with the gorgeous skirt to make you feel like a bride. I’d pick that, you’ll look effortless, elegant and still bridal.

Number one OP. Perfect for a lovely winter wedding.

How is the second one ugly?

Here's a real bride who was featured it the dress.

I cannot seem to choose. What is also so difficult seeing that dress on a beach ceremony? It would've been lovely at a garden wedding or beach. It's simple, yet so exquisite and elegant.

I'm not into tight fitting cleavage-y gowns for w wedding- I save those for date nights.

Second. It's utterly beautiful.

Strange, I thought the second one looked completely different from your first set of pictures! Don’t know what happened but I truly thought it was a different dress.

It is a very lovely dress.

Ok, so I’m getting a little bit confused, I think...what is your revised plan for the wedding now? A winter wedding? Is that right? If so I would go for the second one, having looked at them again. Reason being I feel the first one is quite summery because of the appliqué and the general styling, and the second one would look striking under a coat or cape.

Can we agree the English country garden wedding and the bride looks just beautiful? The gown is airy, and ethereal.