I don't think anyone will be able to change my mind on this.. mums love VS dads love

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I honestly don't see how a dad can feel the same about a child as a mum..

You carry that child for 9 months, push them out, breast feed them, spend 24 hrs a day with them..

How can a dad possibly feel the same intensity of love for a child

(I know there are exceptions to the above and not all mums bond/ breastfeeding/ stay at home etc etc, I just mean generally) and also, my kids do have a loving dad.

Does anyone agree with me, or am I alone?

I think adoptive mothers might have something to say about your theory.

I said I know there are exceptions 🙄

I think you are being exceptionally unfair. It’s not a competition.

There are lots of mums that dont do that though. Would you suggest an adoptive mum/mums that formula feed/go back to work earlier wouldnt feel the same level of love?

You’re alone

I don’t think that’s true. My husband loves the kids as much as I do. He may not know the ins and outs of their day as much but I’ve no doubt our love is the same.

Agree with @BullshitVivienne. And my lesbian friends are both adoring, ultra-committed mothers to their DD, even though only one carried and gave birth to her.

No I don’t agree. It’s not a competition.

@MrMeSeeks

You’re alone

Unfortunately I don’t think she is, so many mothers seem to have the “I am the superior parent and I am always right” attitude.

I had a c section and didn't breastfeed. Does that mean i don't love my kids as much as you love yours?

You are alone. Sometimes I see DH look at DS and I’ve lever seen love like it.

You should meet my Mother .... did all those things, yet can't stand me

My Dad on the other hand - amazing!

*never

You can't really 'measure" love anyway. A mother's love may be felt and expressed differently but its not greater or lesser than the fathers.

I think my husband loves our child more than I do. He'll move heaven and earth for her, where as I seem seem to just get the exhausting bits. (might be related to taumatic birth, need to ask Dr about ppd)

Complete nonsense

Ridiculous comment - but yes, there are some 'mummy martyrs' around who love to insist they are the "better/more important" parent but the bond between my DC & his Dad (my DH) is incredible & DH is a far better parent than I am.

No, I don’t agree. Really, how dare you say that fathers don’t love with the same intensity as mothers? Who are you to make such a sweeping judgement?

If you had had a crash section, been unable to breastfeed or had to go back to work soon after birth as a financial necessity, would you love your baby any less? No? Don’t be so silly then.

Appreciate all these views.

(In relation to caesarean, and bottle feeding.. that is included in what I mean, you still had to recover from that, and still had to feed your baby)

Still not changed my mind though

I only really felt it once he was born and then we were both there. I do think I have that stronger connection (partly due to bf) but the older they get, the more equal it can become.

I’ve BF my baby but DH definitely loves her just as much. Dad snd daughter relationship is incredible to watch.

I disagree completely.

I think birth mothers do have an intuition about their babies which comes from having carried them. But it’s not love.

No.

It might be different, but it's not greater or less.

And to be honest, I hated pregnancy and my c-sections so much I might actually like my kids more if I didn't have to go through them...

You sound very silly and none too bright.

So what about the mums who are horrible to their kids? There are quite a lot of those.

Nope, it's different but DH loves our three as much as me.
And I resent the implication that because you breast fed and stayed at home, that your love is different to mine!