Petty Pandemic Whinges. Bring your trivial traumas here and I promise I won’t judge.

[LunaNorth]

Before I start, I know that some fucking awful things are happening to people around the world as a result of Covid19. I’ve had to endure some real trauma myself, so I don’t take it lightly.

But sometimes I think a space to rant and stamp our feet about the petty inconveniences would be very cathartic. So here it is.

I’ll start.

Today my fucking face mask ripped my favourite earring out of my ear when I removed it, and it broke.

My much-loved yoga class, which was the best hour of my week, is permanently closed.

If anyone else has petty whinges that they don’t feel happy to say out loud in the real world, please feel free...

I’m disabled. It’s normally fine, no big deal, just part of my life. But all of this has just amplified it.
I don’t drive because of my disability, i go everywhere by train. I’m getting to the point where I’m feel trapped in my town (my electric wheelchair doesn’t fold and is too heavy to put in a car).
One of the care workers who comes keeps refusing to wear a mask.
My only local friend and I have had a friendship ending falling out.

I want to go to church.
Not a quiet service for communion
But a big cheerful service full of happy singing and clapping.

I miss it, and pubs can go back, but we can't

I tutor kids fo rthe 11+
I have put so much time and effort into making it all work in lockdown, made them summer holiday revision stuff, and have been working them towards exam on 12th sept.

They have just announced exam is moved to 17th October.
This is shit for them, shit for me and shit for parents as they won't get the results back before they have to fill in their secondary school application form.
Even worse, the schools are over the county border (we live very close to the border) and in that county they can put 5 schools on their CAF form, but in ours only 3, which makes it really hard for parents who don't know if their kids have passed or not.
I have a batch of new students starting in sept, and I can't teach both lots!

I remember that used to be the case @steppemum and then they changed the date of the exam, I'm not sure how they got round the date issue previously, did they have to waste a choice if they didn't pass?
Maybe they will put the date back in case schools are able to offer an extra few tours in September? Some may have missed their tours I imagine too.

(I just searched for the closing date and it's 31st October. Will they really not turn round the results in time? If they are all multiple choice surely they can?)

I’ve realised just how terribly alone I am.
I have/had 3 friends. 1 lives miles away, we communicate by occasional text. 1 we text most days and the other I considered my best friend, Actually isn’t . I only hear from her if it’s for something to help or of benefit her. I’m in the middle of a MH crisis, and she’s nowhere to be seen.
I can’t spend time with DP for coronavirus reasons. We’ve not spent time together since mid-March.
I’m forcing myself to wear a mask because I can’t face people’s judgements, even though I have to use my inhaler every time I wear it.

On the plus side, I was always fat so no worries about lockdown weight.

for everyone

Probably the same as quite a few people on this forum but we conceived in February after years of planning and I feel like I. Missing out on so many things having a COVID pregnancy. I've still not hugged my own mum which is upsetting, my partner hasn't been able to attend any scans and I've been unable to make real life mummy friends at groups and classes. Don't misunderstand me, I'm over the moon to be pregnant and eagerly await the arrival of my little boy, it this isn't what I pictured for all those years.

@CMOTDibbler

It's petty, but for me, its everyone going on about getting back to normal and seeing their family. My parents both died during lockdown. No big funeral for them, no one remembering their lives, and as everyone was thinking about themselves, not a single card, phone call (apart from my cleaner) or even a letter with some words. So now I have no family to meet up with again, and my big out of lockdown event was going to scatter their ashes.

That's not petty, it's utterly awful!I really feel for you and am sending hugs and prayers.

to some many on here who are not facing things that are trivial at all.

@ParisOnWheels

I’m disabled. It’s normally fine, no big deal, just part of my life. But all of this has just amplified it. I don’t drive because of my disability, i go everywhere by train. I’m getting to the point where I’m feel trapped in my town (my electric wheelchair doesn’t fold and is too heavy to put in a car). One of the care workers who comes keeps refusing to wear a mask. My only local friend and I have had a friendship ending falling out.

This is how I feel - can’t drive again disability. Usually live near public transport. Back with family but no public transport nearby and trapped. Family don’t understand that there is a difference between being able to drive and choosing not to, and have no choice (even if in the end you might have stayed home).

Add really trivial I want to go to the cinema and a meal after, just normal- not new normal social distancing book in advance normal.

Panto has been cancelled for this Christmas. It's my easy go-to gift for my side of the family as they enjoy going for a family evening out (we never have them otherwise) and now I need to buy Christmas presents for them all this year.

Fed up of shopping being stressful.

And missing out on all the lovely theatre trips and concerts I had booked - next year is going to be a bargain however, as we've just transfered everything over to it and I have lots planned that's all been paid for already. I've actually saved money during lockdown.

No holiday this year. One work saying I can’t have my statutory holiday. The other work just being a right royal pain in the ass.

to everyone who has lost someone or is lonely during this horrible time.

My gripes are pretty petty in comparison. I hate wearing a mask in shops with my toddler because if he’s standing right beside me/in front of me I can’t see him. The mask completely cuts of that area of my vision. It’s a shame because he’s doing exactly what he should and staying close but I panic when I can’t see him. So buggy it is, which is shit for him. The mask makes me feel a bit lightheaded (I’m really run down and low on a few vitamins) and I get mixed up with the one way systems and turning points. I kept looking down at the floor of the shopping centre today and thinking how the fuck am I going in the wrong direction again? Then when my mum, who we were out with, was asking me questions I just felt so overwhelmed, like I’m dizzy, trying to keep this mask on, trying to keep DS in my eyeline, not sure if toilets are open, not sure if we’re allowed to remove masks to eat a sandwich in here etc. All pretty daft but it was wearing.

My mask takes my makeup off and it’s my whole face for the world. I’m trying to perfect mask proof makeup 😃

To everyone.

I've got two face to face meetings planned, one with my friend on Sunday and another is a mental health appointment on Monday. I'm scared that I've forgotten how to talk to people face to face.

I'm also upset about the rules at the appointment including sanitising your chair after you have sat in it. I know it is for everyone's safety but it makes me feel contaminated.

Well this will be very outing to anyone who knows me IRL ...

We moved to Australia for a year from the end of August to what should have been Sept 2020. It was a whole load of paperwork and expense, but we thought it would be an incredible opportunity for us and the kids, especially as I was going to be on maternity leave for that period anyway. We had to cancel a load of plans at the start of the year due the bushfires. Then the pandemic came and we have been in lockdown since March and have no realistic idea about if/when things will re-open (things opened for about 3 weeks but quickly got shut down again). I just feel so sad that we will not get to experience a fraction of the things we wanted to, but I feel more sad that the kids are stuck inside and can’t do anything like go to the park/do their swimming lessons (my oldest was terrified of water until we came out here & he had been making huge progress ). On top of that, our families had to cancel their trips to visit us, so it will be a year without them seeing their grandkids or getting to know our baby. Then, as the kids had been REALLY struggling we put them back in daycare for 2 days a week as there were no cases remotely close to our area, but now there’s been a breakout at the daycare and my daughter is deemed a ‘close contact’, so now I just feel sick with worry and feel so guilty for sending them.

Oh, and the cherry on the cake is that it looks as though I have lost my job because I can’t get back into the UK by September.

I’m honestly so grateful that, at the moment, we all have our health, but I’m feeling more than a little drained by it all!

@drspouse

(I just searched for the closing date and it's 31st October. Will they really not turn round the results in time? If they are all multiple choice surely they can?)

schools ahve said they won't.

Turn around is usually 4 weeks.

But for the county where the schools are, it is fine. They have 5 choices which they can put 3 grammars and a back up non grammar.

For our county, we only have 3 choices. That isn't enough if you are a borderline pass for grammar.

I would love tem to put the 31st october back by 2 weeks. It really wouldn't make much difference.
Or allow parents to chaneg their choices once they got their results.

@LosingItInLockdown

Well this will be very outing to anyone who knows me IRL ...

We moved to Australia for a year from the end of August to what should have been Sept 2020. It was a whole load of paperwork and expense, but we thought it would be an incredible opportunity for us and the kids, especially as I was going to be on maternity leave for that period anyway. We had to cancel a load of plans at the start of the year due the bushfires. Then the pandemic came and we have been in lockdown since March and have no realistic idea about if/when things will re-open (things opened for about 3 weeks but quickly got shut down again). I just feel so sad that we will not get to experience a fraction of the things we wanted to, but I feel more sad that the kids are stuck inside and can’t do anything like go to the park/do their swimming lessons (my oldest was terrified of water until we came out here & he had been making huge progress ). On top of that, our families had to cancel their trips to visit us, so it will be a year without them seeing their grandkids or getting to know our baby. Then, as the kids had been REALLY struggling we put them back in daycare for 2 days a week as there were no cases remotely close to our area, but now there’s been a breakout at the daycare and my daughter is deemed a ‘close contact’, so now I just feel sick with worry and feel so guilty for sending them.

Oh, and the cherry on the cake is that it looks as though I have lost my job because I can’t get back into the UK by September.

I’m honestly so grateful that, at the moment, we all have our health, but I’m feeling more than a little drained by it all!

That’s a world of shit right there @LosingItInLockdown

I’m so sorry that you’ve been hosed with effluent for what must be approx 9 months now xx

I keep getting notifications that registration is open for baby groups in September. Just when I go back to work.

My local council ignores every single government easing of restrictions. Playgrounds didn't open and now swimming pools aren't either. Bins aren't always emptied and there's a 3 hour queue for the tip. But council tax has gone up. Grr.

Thanks @SoPanny. Although being described as “hosed with effluent” has put the biggest grin on my face

@LosingItInLockdown you deserve a lottery win or something to balance the karma. Good Lord, how unlucky can you get?

Sheesh.

Thanks @LunaNorth. I know . We really are so grateful to all have our health, but seriously...FFS.

to everyone especially CMOTDibbler.
I'm back at work next week, so I have adjust my body clock for 0430 alarms. It'll be containers, so that'll mean spending 3 hours waiting for the wine tank to drain with the nearest toilet half a mile away. If it's not that, it'll be the sawmill and getting black to the knees.

I'm autistic.
The traffic has come back and the noise is awful.
My support worker hasnt been to my house since March because she doesn't drive and they've cut the bus service.
The rules keep changing and my anxiety is through the roof at possibly getting it wrong. I can't pick up quickly what I am supposed to be doing in a situation.
Not Knowing what will happen is terrible if you're autistic and currently no one knows.

But I haven't lost anyone and I have hugged my mum so I am better off than so many

Everyone is complaining about cancelled holidays. Now I get that cancelling something you were looking forwards to is gutting but all the self pity about the dire fate of not going away this year makes me grind my teeth. I haven't been on holiday in 5 years! And now a UK holiday is a 'staycation' (because people not going abroad need to give it a cutesy name to feel better about their apparently inferior holiday), so what does that make my last 5 summers, where we actually, you know, stayed and just did fun stuff at home. Nothing, clearly. Just fed up of my normal being everyone else's shit. It's not that bad! It'll save you loads of money!
Never really bothered me when people just went on their holidays, only been an issue since all the moaning about it.
And I am sorry if your trip got cancelled.
Controversial rant over.