Petty Pandemic Whinges. Bring your trivial traumas here and I promise I won’t judge.

[LunaNorth]

Before I start, I know that some fucking awful things are happening to people around the world as a result of Covid19. I’ve had to endure some real trauma myself, so I don’t take it lightly.

But sometimes I think a space to rant and stamp our feet about the petty inconveniences would be very cathartic. So here it is.

I’ll start.

Today my fucking face mask ripped my favourite earring out of my ear when I removed it, and it broke.

My much-loved yoga class, which was the best hour of my week, is permanently closed.

If anyone else has petty whinges that they don’t feel happy to say out loud in the real world, please feel free...

-No swimming since March.

• Neighbour who spent 2 years not doing much to his garden took May and June finishing it off with every noisy tool known to man.
• No library. I've survived by buying second had books from eBay but it's not the same.
• Work has gone dress down. I like being smart.
• I'm concerned that my yearly post-cancer mammogram will be delayed. (Definitely petty as I'm fine but it's making me anxious).

@LunaNorth

I’m shocked at how children with SEN are being treated in the midst of all this.

Don’t know why you are shocked. They way all children but particularly raise with SEN have been treated through out all of this has been abhorrent.

My petty whinge is One way systems everywhere. Including outdoors all over the nearest Uni campus. I am yet to be convinced that passing within 1m of someone for < 3 seconds, especially when neither coughing nor talking nor any physical contact, ever gave the virus to anyone.

Drinking fountains taped off & people not supposed to use any of the drinking water taps at work.

On the plus side: hot temps end of this week mean I will river swim again. Only giardia, Weil's disease & E.Coli to brave there. Can't wait. :)

My daughter’s A levels were cancelled and she is worried about whether the results will be good enough to get her into university. She was just starting to work really hard towards the exams when school closed.
Our family holiday has been cancelled.
My son’s very hard worked for university year out placement in aviation has been cancelled.
I miss playing in my music groups.
I really miss seeing family and friends.

My daughter has to put in her Uni applications without being able to visit the Uni's she's considering - that's shit!

I miss the cinema, theatre and gigs. I don't drink so pubs are no use to me. I want a solo seat and some fucking ME time away from my 3 teens.

Lockdown has seen off my year-long relationship with a man I adore. We're both scarce on time to meet at the best of times and we tried but it's just too hard now.

I could bloody cry.

We are due to go on holiday in Europe shortly, it hasn't been cancelled, we are getting there without flying etc.

Still feel guilty, stressed and worried that the government will suddenly decide we have to quarantine when we get back.

We haven't been on holiday for 3 years and can't get a refund even though we booked pre-covid. We've been working throughout, me as a keyworker. I'm stressed and exhausted.

I wish the government would just sodding tell us what they want us to do. Instead of making random doom laden statements and then expecting you to guess which countries they will close the borders to with a few hours notice.

@LunaNorth

Something else I hate is how gauche I feel.

I hate having to hover outside shops craning my neck to see if it’s ok to go in.

I hate how stroppily the checkout assistant in Waterstones asked me to turn my books upside down so she could scan the barcodes without touching them.

I hate getting things a bit wrong. I used to feel like a competent adult and now I’m all awkward and nervous.

This- thank you LunaNorth. I couldn't put my finger on it. I miss feeling like a competent adult.

To be fair @Iljkk lake swimming starts with us on Thursday. And it looks glorious for it

I’m going for a lake swim this morning. It is indeed glorious.

Nobody’s wearing a fucking mask for a start.

@RosieLemonade I’m shocked because it’s shocking.

Not surprised - I’m a teacher. Shocked.

I drove on the M25 last week. It's ridiculous that negotiating an overcrowded, environmentally disastrous road to nowhere full of fuckwits was the first thing that had made me feel like a competent adult for months.

I hate the shit weather in Scotland. It’s been raining so much and I’ve just been told I have low vitamin D, which is probably contributing to my awful moods, fatigue and aches. Of course being stuck at home with a two year old who wants to breastfeed constantly or all hell breaks loose is probably contributing too.

I hate that I feel invisible. I’m furloughed which is of course much better than not having a job but back in March I had somewhere to be 3 days a week, I had a commute which meant I could read on the bus, I could go to the gym at lunchtime, I had hot cups of tea with other adults. And now my solo toilet breaks are determined by DH’s Zoom calls.

I hate that I can’t take DS for a swim or to the library or any of our free local museums but the pubs are open and busy.

My daughter missed out on a graduation.
I have a relative whose access to urgent healthcare has been delayed.
We've done a lot of work planning how to safely reopen church and some Male attendees seem intent on criticising and subverting everything. Do they think we enjoy being 2 metres away from everybody either? No but we have to be responsible! Grrrh!

@AgentCooper

I hate the shit weather in Scotland. It’s been raining so much and I’ve just been told I have low vitamin D, which is probably contributing to my awful moods, fatigue and aches. Of course being stuck at home with a two year old who wants to breastfeed constantly or all hell breaks loose is probably contributing too.

I hate that I feel invisible. I’m furloughed which is of course much better than not having a job but back in March I had somewhere to be 3 days a week, I had a commute which meant I could read on the bus, I could go to the gym at lunchtime, I had hot cups of tea with other adults. And now my solo toilet breaks are determined by DH’s Zoom calls.

I hate that I can’t take DS for a swim or to the library or any of our free local museums but the pubs are open and busy.

Amen to that. Why are the government prioritising opening pubs and restaurants, while at the same time telling us we’re a bunch of fatties?

It’s almost as if they’re paying lip service to doing the right thing, while at the same time rinsing us of cash by appealing to our baser instincts.

It's shit for so many people and this thread is much needed. It's refreshing that no-one has done any competitive 'yes but it's much worse for me' on here.

Big hugs everyone.

Two weeks ago I slipped on Lego instruction book like it was a banana skin and landed on my tailbone. It still hurts to sit, bend down, lift my legs and run and I’m wondering if I’ve down some proper damage, but the prospect of accessing any healthcare atm is so off putting I’m learning to live with the pain.

I've met up with friends and family now, at a distance, but I'd really like hugs!

DC are good, but DH doesn't do hugs because of his back. Just some other adult hugs would be nice.

I'm also fed up of my mum backing away like I'm typhoid bloody Mary. Yes I know there's a pandemic on, but I had no intention of going nearer than 2m.

Thanks for the support everyone 😁

My really really petty gripe is the one way system in the supermarket I just want to get what I want im not trying to get my steps in i want to MISS AN AISLE everyone looks at me like im slaughtering my first born should I try this

@Mrsfrumble

Two weeks ago I slipped on Lego instruction book like it was a banana skin and landed on my tailbone. It still hurts to sit, bend down, lift my legs and run and I’m wondering if I’ve down some proper damage, but the prospect of accessing any healthcare atm is so off putting I’m learning to live with the pain.

Aargh Mrsfrumble that sounds miserable hope you feel better soon. Bloody Lego, the source of so much pain.

• Amen to that. Why are the government prioritising opening pubs and restaurants, while at the same time telling us we’re a bunch of fatties?

It’s almost as if they’re paying lip service to doing the right thing, while at the same time rinsing us of cash by appealing to our baser instincts*

@LunaNorth absolutely. I get that being overweight doesn’t help with COVID but you know what really does help? A fucking effective testing system!! It’s all bullshit.

I can’t blame people for being in the pub but it’s a bit galling to see Wetherspoons full at noon on a wet day when all the indoor stuff for small children is shut.

People wearing their masks under their noses 🤪

I need new trousers I'm under 5ft and a bit "bummy" I just want to try some on without faffery

I want to act on stage again, that's all I want in the world. It's been long enough.

My step mum died at the start of lockdown and ew had to have a graveside funeral in the rain then all go our separate ways without hugs and time to remember her life together.
And my dad possibly has cancer and is having to go to all his appointments alone (he's in his 80s)
And masks make my glasses steam up no matter what I do.
And when I go back to work in September my start and finish times have changed (TA so staggered starts) which mean my kids will either have to wait over an hour for me or get a bus home - they both have ASCs so masks are an issue and while they have lanyards etc I am worried they will be bullied or refused entry.
And how the fuck I will be supposed to do my job (support a child so far 'behind' his peers that I plan all his work separately to the rest of the class) when we will be trapped in the bubble where I will spend my life cleaning tables.
And there's nothing on telly.

DH is a twat. we had a heated convo with DS (14) about a game character and didn't include him in the convo. This was yesterday dinnertime. He stormed back to his computer (living room) and hasn't spoken to me since.
He said it's like he is invisible....especially to his son. Well what the f.. did you expect with no effort? He doesn't listen to his music,, don't talk about the games he plays, but expects DS to be chatty about "things" (?) like he is a 5 year old.
My husband needs to grow up!