Petty Pandemic Whinges. Bring your trivial traumas here and I promise I won’t judge.

[LunaNorth]

Before I start, I know that some fucking awful things are happening to people around the world as a result of Covid19. I’ve had to endure some real trauma myself, so I don’t take it lightly.

But sometimes I think a space to rant and stamp our feet about the petty inconveniences would be very cathartic. So here it is.

I’ll start.

Today my fucking face mask ripped my favourite earring out of my ear when I removed it, and it broke.

My much-loved yoga class, which was the best hour of my week, is permanently closed.

If anyone else has petty whinges that they don’t feel happy to say out loud in the real world, please feel free...

It's really silly and petty but you did say that this was the space for petty grievances: my 2 youngest children are 14 months apart and were in the same nursery class from January. I was really looking forward to having the class photo with them in the same class but obviously group photos didn't happen. They will never be in the same class again so it's a shame. Congratulations to your son on getting a 1st Luna!
I am sorry to all of us, we've all lost out on so much.

So many things people are struggling with, I am sorry for all the big ones and all the little things that make every day harder.

I'd just like a hug, I haven't touched another human being since the beginning of March

You will all prob hate this but,,,

Hate that traffic is back to normal. It was great in the beginning. You could hear the birds and the sky was a beautiful blue (runs and hides).

I have come back to say I hate the fact that in certain shops you are herded like sheep. I no longer enjoy shopping.

I do hate wearing masks. Luckily in reception there is glass all around us so do not need it, but of course do so in buses, tubes and shops.

I realise these are very minor whinges. Some people near masks and stuff all day. That would drive me mad. I get so hot behind the mask, if they took my temperature, they would think I have CV!

So many sadnesses - large or small, they all hurt.

My mum died a few weeks ago, and yes, the socially distanced funeral was very hard.

I think the little things, like the broken earring, are straws that break the camel’s back. And it’s easier to rail at a lost earring than begin to countenance a messed-up passing for your one and only mum/stepmum.

I agree about the traffic, @Deathraystare.

It’s like, all the little positives about lockdown are ebbing away, leaving us with the shit.

Oh GleamingHeels that is so sad, I hope that you can get a hug ASAP

THE FUCKING WASHING UP!!!!!

And the fact that my, otherwise great, children do NOT SEE MESS! They (especially dd2) dump things randomly, or walk past things to go away/in the bin or wherever, and it's like these things are invisible to them. It's proper giving me the rage today! 😡😡

& we can't really go anywhere - I don't drive & dd2 gets travel sick on a bus so we end up on and off a few times sometimes. It wouldn't go well with a face covering, I don't think, so we're just staying close to home. But by God we're all bored af.

& my washing line fell down (screw fell out of wall) but I'm not seeing the point of putting it back for it to happen again so drying stuff on the airer that's wonky. & even the wonkyness is irritating the fuck out of me today when normally I don't care.

I'm fed up. & not feeling at all productive.

I'm off for milk so may buy wine too!

Thanks @smallandimperfectlyformed , I am trying not to feel too sorry for myself and also not to say anything, as everyone I know complains about the people they live with.

I know it's just the other side of the coin and it's not easy whatever your situation

I'm a University lecturer and I've been asked today to decide whether I can teach in person in about March.
I would, actually, love to see some students face to face (well, face mask to face mask) but how can I know what will be happening in March?

Ah yes, the bloody pubs but no playgrounds.

Our council says they're not open yet. Until they fence off the benches just outside the playgrounds, I'm ignoring that.

One friend and I have been hugging for months (we did our own risk assessment) but it's horrid seeing people and not being able to hug them.

One bonus- soft play is shut.

That's shitty for your dad @JeffVaderneedsatray. Cancer investigations are scary enough at the best of times.

Scottish playgrounds /parks are opened. I think it is awful that a park an outside space is still closed children have been through enough let them have ago on a bloody slide !

• Neighbour who spent 2 years not doing much to his garden took May and June finishing it off with every noisy tool known to man.

😀sorry, I know it's a bummer -just liked your turn of phrase /it's the witticisms on MN that keep me going..

One friend and I have been hugging for months (we did our own risk assessment)
Same here -has really opened my eyes to which friends I want to keep...

@Mrsjayy it’s atrocious. I’m in the southside of Glasgow and thank God our playgrounds are open. It makes a real difference to my walks with DS, who is 2.5 and a massive ball of energy.

Children have really been shafted in all this. It says a lot about a society when you open pubs before playgrounds.

I'm sorry to mention mask again but I'm deaf in one ear and mostly lip read im sick of people giving me dirty look because I can't hear them or lip read i also has asthma and wearing them nearly passed out had to rush out of shop could not breath took all day to sort myself out 🥺

We’re human beings. We need faces.

@Autviaminveniamautfaciam @verypeckish - agreed, times like these are when some folk show what they are really are like and it isn't pretty

Not being able to see my Dd on her birthday this year. And all the bloody toilets in the town centre being closed until recently. Personally,I don't think that going out and expecting to be able to use a toilet at some point is unreasonable,but I have been made to feel that way by certain people (not on MN I hasten to add). Their attitude is 'Oh well just don't go out then'.When I've been stuck indoors for 3 months,I didn't think it was unreasonable to want to start going out again once the lockdown restrictions had lifted. Or,'Just go to the toilet before you go out and don't drink anything while you're out'. That really pissed me off. It doesn't matter how many times I go to the toilet before leaving the house,or how little I drink beforehand,after a couple of hours I WILL need the toilet! Thank goodness the toilets have started to be opened again.

I miss meeting friends and going for a coffee. I know you can go in a cafe but they all do track and trace and I don't want to get THAT phone call that I might have walked past someone who might have coughed on me or touched something I might have touched. I know I can see people at home or at theirs but I want to go out- out!
I want to pop to the shops, not have to military plan all trips, and debate whether it'll be a 10 minute trip or an hour.
I want to hug my friends (I do sometimes but it feels illicit).
Most of all I would like customers (mostly old people, surprisingly) to stop bloody moaning about queuing, rationing, social distancing etc. I don't make the rules so piss off moaning at me about it.

Same as pps- had a baby just before lockdown who has barely met anyone. Triggered fairly severe PND and am just getting back to myself. Trying so hard to be positive and see friends and do things that are allowed but feel exhausted by forcing myself to be grateful/mindful/reflective when all i want to do is cry and feel sad for my baby and myself and the mat leave we haven’t had.

I feel you on the toilets longhard. DD is still slightly dodgy with knowing when she needs the loo/getting it all out in one go and it's often a dash to the toilet. We have all the ones in town mapped out!

I’m fed up I haven’t seen my parents since February and they only want to meet up if we are socially distanced. We live 5 hours apart.

They haven’t come out and said it but I suspect it’s because I’m very sociable and I’m therefore at risk of having Covid whilst they’ve been at home the whole time.

I’m so fed up of the general assumption that EVERYONE has covid. It’s nonsense.

I’m fed up of being told what to do by the government, people in shops, the local busybodies. I’m an intelligent adult who is quite happy making my own decisions in life.

Mandatory mask wearing was the nail in the coffin for me, the government could have made a strong case for Mask wearing alongside appropriate public health campaigning. Making it a mandatory law leaves those who have been physically/sexually assaulted, have anxiety, ptsd etc feel like they are breaking the law if they go shopping without one. It’s cruel and unnecessary.

I’m sad that DS2 has just finished year R and didn’t get to do his first sports day

@Supermarketworker06

I miss meeting friends and going for a coffee. I know you can go in a cafe but they all do track and trace and I don't want to get THAT phone call that I might have walked past someone who might have coughed on me or touched something I might have touched. I know I can see people at home or at theirs but I want to go out- out! I want to pop to the shops, not have to military plan all trips, and debate whether it'll be a 10 minute trip or an hour. I want to hug my friends (I do sometimes but it feels illicit). Most of all I would like customers (mostly old people, surprisingly) to stop bloody moaning about queuing, rationing, social distancing etc. I don't make the rules so piss off moaning at me about it.

If it helps, I’ve now been to 4 restaurants/cafes and only 1 asked for a number for track and trace. Costa had a QR code you could scan and leave details (but it didn’t say you had to so I didn’t), another I booked online so I guess they had it anyway, the last one I noticed forms on the bar when I ordered but no one mentioned it 🤷‍♀️

And another thing.

I started a reading group; it would have been going for four years in September.

A lovely group of people. It turned into a friendship group - not heavy, but we got along. We had a Christmas night out every year that I loved.

We weathered losing our venue, a couple left, a couple of new ones started, the usual flux and change.

But this has killed us. We won’t meet up again. The WhatsApp group has gone quiet. Life takes over. It’s just the way it is. People have to prioritise, and those pleasant, soft bonds fall away. They have to.

But it makes me sad.