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Petty Pandemic Whinges. Bring your trivial traumas here and I promise I won’t judge.

212 replies

LunaNorth · 27/07/2020 15:57

Before I start, I know that some fucking awful things are happening to people around the world as a result of Covid19. I’ve had to endure some real trauma myself, so I don’t take it lightly.

But sometimes I think a space to rant and stamp our feet about the petty inconveniences would be very cathartic. So here it is.

I’ll start.

Today my fucking face mask ripped my favourite earring out of my ear when I removed it, and it broke.

My much-loved yoga class, which was the best hour of my week, is permanently closed.

Angry Sad

If anyone else has petty whinges that they don’t feel happy to say out loud in the real world, please feel free...

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bibbitybobbitycats · 29/07/2020 11:44

Thanks for making this thread, OP.

I am just so pissed off. I feel trapped and hopless. I know things will get better, I know I have so much to be grateful for, but right now it's all so dull and joyless. I feel like going to bed with a selection of booxsets to binge on, a couple of hundred bottles of wine and a few thousand bags of crisps and not getting up until next Spring..

bibbitybobbitycats · 29/07/2020 11:45

Boxsets!

bibbitybobbitycats · 29/07/2020 11:46

@GleamingHeels

So many things people are struggling with, I am sorry for all the big ones and all the little things that make every day harder.

I'd just like a hug, I haven't touched another human being since the beginning of March

Oh, Gleaming Flowers
IrmaFayLear · 29/07/2020 11:49

Me too. My ds has just graduated. His internship was cancelled. There are zero jobs locally (or anywhere it seems apart from care work). Out of his 10 friends only one has a job. Even the one who was joining the police has been told sorry, it’s off.

On a more trivial note, dh, wfh, is just there all the time. I wish I lived on a country estate!

CMOTDibbler · 29/07/2020 12:01

It's petty, but for me, its everyone going on about getting back to normal and seeing their family. My parents both died during lockdown. No big funeral for them, no one remembering their lives, and as everyone was thinking about themselves, not a single card, phone call (apart from my cleaner) or even a letter with some words.
So now I have no family to meet up with again, and my big out of lockdown event was going to scatter their ashes.

labyrinthloafer · 29/07/2020 12:05

@CMOTDibbler

It's petty, but for me, its everyone going on about getting back to normal and seeing their family. My parents both died during lockdown. No big funeral for them, no one remembering their lives, and as everyone was thinking about themselves, not a single card, phone call (apart from my cleaner) or even a letter with some words. So now I have no family to meet up with again, and my big out of lockdown event was going to scatter their ashes.
Flowers Flowers Flowers

I am so very sorry you've been through this

TheGoldenApplesOfTheSun · 29/07/2020 12:07

It's shit, isn't it. I'm pregnant for the first time and lucky because all seems to be well and my DH is taking good care of me and is more around as he's WFH. But it feels like the pandemic has taken the shine out of this time for me, I keep thinking of little things we'd be doing or looking forward to and it's gone or isn't the way I'd thought. NCT classes will be over Zoom (I am so fucking tired of Zoom) and my DH still isn't allowed to come to any appointments or scans with me. And all the things I thought we'd have time for - a last holiday abroad just the two of us, seeing his parents visit, going out for the theatre or dancing - aren't going to happen probably. Even the things I could do like get a coffee or eat out feel distant because it's a risk I don't really want to take yet (I was told to shield until recently). At least my mum's in the same town and I can physically see her in the garden...

TheGoldenApplesOfTheSun · 29/07/2020 12:08

I'm so sorry to hear about your parents @CMOTDibbler. Mourning is awful and lonely at the moment. Flowers

GleamingHeels · 29/07/2020 12:21

@guineapigbridge you don't sound anything like a spoiled obnoxious brat... I'd like to be able to travel too, it does feel like such a loss of freedom

Dowser · 29/07/2020 12:29

@CMOTDibbler

Oh I am so very sorry
That’s just dreadful
Please accept this unmumsnetty of covid free hugs..that’s just abominable
I can’t think of anything worse

GleamingHeels · 29/07/2020 12:30

@bibbitybobbitycats
Thank you, I am OK really

GleamingHeels · 29/07/2020 12:31

@CMOTDibbler that's so sad, I am so sorry for your losses and for not being able to celebrate their lives

Dowser · 29/07/2020 12:36

I don’t like how lockdown has made an old woman of me..as I’m already doddering towards that territory
The less I have to do, the more I focus on my aches, pains and tiredness
I haven’t slept well, have tummy problems, but I’m taking my grandsons paddle boarding and have had to organise all kinds of stuff and I’ve bloody just got on with it.
Instead of moving around all day..like I did yesterday
I wonder how many retired people are behaving like me

I do get dressed every day, do hair, put make up on, Wear something nice..I like to look my best when mopping obviously 😂
Still shit though

Dowser · 29/07/2020 12:36

Moping be buggered 😡

Mrsjayy · 29/07/2020 12:41

My parents are struggling my mum especially she seems to have aged since march they were active out and about probably would have been on their 2nd holiday by now I'm genuinely concerned she is like a caged lion but frightened to go anywhere .

CMOTDibbler · 29/07/2020 12:42

Thank you for the sympathy - the trouble is that when people are nice about it, I feel even worse about being tetchy about people who are 'so upset their kids haven't had a hug from their grandparents' or 'so happy the grandparents are able to have the kids again'. My ds will only have one grandparent left by the end of the year as MIL is dying, and he is being so damn good about it. But I can't be angry as 'we're all in it together'.
Oh, and if I hear one more good news story on TV with choirs rehearsing on Zoom, or families singing crappy musical knock offs, I really will scream

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LunaNorth · 29/07/2020 12:44

I’m so sorry, @CMOTDibbler. That’s so very, very sad.

Flowers
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LunaNorth · 29/07/2020 12:45

You’ve every right to be angry @CMOTDibbler. You’re allowed to feel whatever you want to feel.

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omg35 · 29/07/2020 12:49

DP can't come to my 12 week scan 😕

Knittedfairies · 29/07/2020 12:59

@Mrsfrumble

Ocado aren’t collecting their plastic bags and the pile I’ve accumulated are taking over the utility room.

I bought DD new school shoes the weekend before schools closed. She wore them once, and has been growing like knotweed over lockdown so the chances of them fitting in September are very slim. Bah!

Are they petty enough for you? Grin

Were they Clarke's shoes @Mrsfrumble?

www.mirror.co.uk/money/clarks-offering-parents-free-new-22423098

2020nymph · 29/07/2020 13:12

@CMOTDibbler

It's petty, but for me, its everyone going on about getting back to normal and seeing their family. My parents both died during lockdown. No big funeral for them, no one remembering their lives, and as everyone was thinking about themselves, not a single card, phone call (apart from my cleaner) or even a letter with some words. So now I have no family to meet up with again, and my big out of lockdown event was going to scatter their ashes.
I'm so sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. Are you able to do something to remember your parents by post lockdown? Thanks
TwentyViginti · 29/07/2020 13:21

Got in touch with last ex, all friendly like just to chat. Last spoke pre lockdown. FUCK ME!!! he's turned into a whining old man - and he's ten years my junior (I'm in my 60s).

I have patterened masks I'm already bored with but don't want to shell out for more.

I want to meet new people. How do I do that now? Hate FB and don't use it.

Topseyt · 29/07/2020 13:23

@CMOTDibbler

It's petty, but for me, its everyone going on about getting back to normal and seeing their family. My parents both died during lockdown. No big funeral for them, no one remembering their lives, and as everyone was thinking about themselves, not a single card, phone call (apart from my cleaner) or even a letter with some words. So now I have no family to meet up with again, and my big out of lockdown event was going to scatter their ashes.
That isn’t petty at all and I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It must feel terrible and I really do hope that you are able to find some real life support.

My frail and elderly parents were both very ill during lockdown and it is just by the skin of my teeth that I did not also end up in your position. I was terrified it was going to happen and know how fortunate I am that it was just about averted.

I guess that is no comfort to you at the moment, but lockdown has been awful for so many different reasons for so many people. You aren’t alone, though I am sure you feel you are.

2020nymph · 29/07/2020 13:29

My petty grips.

Trying to work from home with a seven year old and a toddler. Nursery is opening two days a week in a few weeks time, but that doesn't help the other days.

Never getting a break

Feeling trapped as many of the attractions we normally go to are either closed, without facilities open or gold dust tickets.

Our house and garden need so much work doing.

House is always a mess as DSs are left to occupy themselves. This has an impact on my mental health.many things have been broken by toddler who doesn't know his own strength.

Not seeing friends, we normally meet up with other families but this exceeds six people.

Food bill has gone up massively.

We had two holidays planned this year, first time abroad in three years and during this time we have only had two mini breaks.

All birthday plans for a 'big' birthday have been cancelled.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 29/07/2020 13:38

My petty gripe seems do minor compared to some..
The local leisure centre currently has no plans to open the Swimming Pool. Maybe September. Opened the gym for adults no problem, and the golf course... We moved back to the UK last autumn, and they started 'proper' swimming lessons in January... And now all that progress has been lost. And they can't do Watersports without being able to swim 25m...