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He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

530 replies

WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 19:40

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

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SpookyNoise · 27/07/2020 23:41

He’s really trying to engage you in conversation, the tool!

SherbertStrawberry · 27/07/2020 23:51

Omg I love that gif, I use it a lot

Delbelleber · 28/07/2020 00:09

Good for you. I think I'd haven given in and texted to find out exactly what his excuse was.
Actual arse hole though.

JamieLeeCurtains · 28/07/2020 00:28

Wow, he's ... woeful.

If I did reply, which I wouldn't, I'd probably go with something a tad cryptic, like 'Who do you think I am, Bournemouth?'*

*It's a relegation joke.

justilou1 · 28/07/2020 00:42

Just caught up. Don't you know that if he doesn't acknowledge his bad behaviour, it didn't happen? If you don't acknowledge him, you're a bitch. Be prepared to be be called that next, btw.... He's going to get angry now, because he's invested his time into two dates and several grovelly (lying) texts. You owe him another, dontcha know? (Because you put out on the third date, and he was looking forward to that one.)

KatherineJaneway · 28/07/2020 07:17

He's the gift that keeps on giving.

auntieElle · 28/07/2020 07:46

Oh god, @justilou1, you’re so right!!

Mummyoflittledragon · 28/07/2020 08:14

Oh god justilou that’s awful. I haven’t dated since last century!

Bakedtreat · 28/07/2020 09:19

Such a funny thread, well done OP for not responding - what a tool! Very interesting to see he doesn't like rejection - treat em mean, keep em keen didn't work out too well for him.
Hope you meet someone lovely and more deserving very soon.

Hiccupiscal · 28/07/2020 09:36

@WhosThatGirl89

Op, you've been amazing. Well done, you. Have loved reading the updates. Stay strong, its obviously annoying him you're not engaging.
What a complete tool Grin

FlorenceFlounce · 28/07/2020 15:54

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

If it makes you feel any better op, before I found my dp after years of being single i had a fling with a guy who was quite promising really, we shagged one night and, while at it, he whispered "do it now", I was pretty confused, he said it a few more times, then got all huffy because I didn't orgasm on demand Grin. That was the end of that. His words were, apparently, enough for his ex, who I'm expecting to see as a winner at the next Oscars Grin
absolutely screaming with laughter Grin
SlightlyJaded · 28/07/2020 16:57

Well done for keeping silent. Far and away the most dignified (and infuriating) response. Keep posting here if you get the urge to respond. Although I would be totally tempted to write:

"Oh bless you still texting! I move on precisely ten minutes after you didn't turn up for lunch. Run along now'.

SlightlyJaded · 28/07/2020 16:58

*moved

backseatcookers · 28/07/2020 18:17

Oh he so wants the rejection decision to be his 😂

If you replied in any way (which I know you won't) he would say "cool, listen I've been thinking and this just isn't working for me" as if it was his idea to call it off.

God people like him are tiresome!

Well done OP, continue not replying and just being vaguely amused by his attempts in your own head!

WinnieLowCo · 28/07/2020 18:37

Yeh, he liked you well enough but he thought he could probably do better - and now he knows that you know you can do better, and that's really bugging him. He's been rejected by somebody he had filed under ms right for now.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/07/2020 20:55

Ok, I have read enough to be utterly disgusted at the replies here.

Clearly some of you have NO idea how to behave in these circumstances so let me advise you.....

Clearly the poor love was having a bad day when he couldnt make your date, but instead of showing sympathy to him, you say he stood you up! Surely the nice thing to do would be to send him a nice message, saying that you hope he is ok and can you see him the next night instead, or whenever suits him as he clearly has a very busy schedule.

Then, when he replies, which might take some time because as I said, he is obviously very busy, you should be bloody grateful that he shared some of his precious time with you! Ignoring him is just mean when he went to all that effort. Its even more mean when he remembered some of the things you have done recently, I dont know many men who would do that!

You make yourself available whenever suits him and if he cant get there again well surely that is a small price to pay to bag yourself a man....any man?!

Honestly, women today wonder why they are single when they set themselves up to fail by demanding standards from men, who as we all know are simply not wired up to care in the same way we are. When a man treats you badly, you dont love him less, you love him MORE to make up for it.....did your mothers not teach you that?

His mother clearly taught HIM that......

Wink
WhosThatGirl89 · 28/07/2020 21:02

Omg you're absolutely right! What was I thinking?! I must immediately send him a video of me begging to see him again along with some naked pictures. I can't believe I've been so blind. He obviously stood me up because anything in his life is more important than taking 30 seconds to send a message. No wonder I'm single 🤷‍♀️

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WizardOfAus · 28/07/2020 21:09

Any more messages today, OP?

WhosThatGirl89 · 28/07/2020 21:21

No nothing today. Think he's getting the idea that I'm done with him

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TofinoSurf · 28/07/2020 21:45

I would put money on him being back in a few days or a few weeks with just a 'hey how are you' type message.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 28/07/2020 21:49

Or an 'accidental' message 'meant for someone else', followed by a "sorry, not meant for you".

Men are predictable.

Staplemaple · 28/07/2020 21:57

Or an 'accidental' message 'meant for someone else', followed by a "sorry, not meant for you".

Yes this! He will rear his head again I'm sure.

AtLeastThreeDrinks · 28/07/2020 22:07

@Thisismytimetoshine To reverse image search you drop an image on images.google.com. There are a few other sites that do it as well, but think that's what she used!

Thisismytimetoshine · 28/07/2020 23:28

[quote AtLeastThreeDrinks]@Thisismytimetoshine To reverse image search you drop an image on images.google.com. There are a few other sites that do it as well, but think that's what she used![/quote]
Thanks!

Namechangecrazy2020 · 28/07/2020 23:46

Oh hes definitely so annoyed your not replying!
Oopsie daisy... Shame 😂
Keep up the good work!