My partner has turned yellow and I am scared

[bloodywhitecat]

Over the last couple of weeks his skin and eye whites have turned yellow, he also has dark urine which has not improved despite upping his fluid intake by at least an extra 2 litres a day, he is more tired than usual too. I don't want to scare myself witless and Google. He has called the GP and is having blood tests tonight.

I'm glad you've had a bit of goo news re the PET scan.
The waiting must be awful but take comfort in the fact that many experts will be discussing what's best for your DH.

@bloodywhitecat Thank you.
It seems to be a trait of ampullary cancers to grow around things, your other scans seem positive so hopefully that is good news. DH was wrapped around the bowel like a doughnut. (Ampulla of Vater - such a big name for something so small)
We had multiple liver tumours 8 of up to 2cm in size & a suspected lung tumour - it was this that meant he wasn't a candidate for the whipple.

If you have any questions I am happy to answer but I am not sure of the rules about private messages. If it is allowed I am happy to help in any way I can.
My thoughts are with you & your family & enjoying the good days is the best plan - take each day as it comes

More waiting! Monday’s not too long now so hope you get some answers about next steps

I hope you get the answers you need tomorrow, keeping everything crossed for you both

Thinking of you both today OP

I hope you're both doing ok, hugs.

@bloodywhitecat how are you doing?

I always check back on your thread just to see if you're ok? X

Just wondering how you were @bloodywhitecat and if you had been given a formal diagnosis and any treatment options x

How's he doing? Sending you both and the little ones lots of hope and hugs x

Finally we might have an answer. He has an appointment with the surgeon on Wednesday at Addenbrookes and he has to take someone for support. I am trying to arrange some respite care for the boys and I am assuming it is definitely cancer.

@bloodywhitecat so sorry to hear the diagnosis doesn’t look good, but at least you will know what you’re facing now. Massive handhold for tomorrow. Whatever the news is, or how shocked you are, when you get home take the time to have a massive cuddle and time to talk. We were so shocked when my dad was diagnosed we didn’t do that and it’s my one regret in life.

I don’t really know what to write, but I feel compelled to send you something as I’ve thought of you often. I read your original post a few weeks after my wonderful dad turned yellow out of the blue and it just struck such a cord. I felt for you and your family so much and shed many tears for you, and I guess for me, the day I read it.
I’ve followed the post when I’ve seen it again and hoped that it wouldn’t be cancer in your case.
I hope the surgeon can offer hope. I hope this post gives you some comfort that you are in people’s thoughts and prayers.
X

You must be feeling very scared right now. I’m sorry that you are both going through this, and I hope that the news will not be as bad as you fear. Handhold here for you. I’ll be thinking of you

Handhold. Thinking of you and your family.

Wishing you both strength and hope for the Journey which lies ahead

Oh darlin. Just rtft and my heart goes out to you. How are YOU doing?

It is cancer. It is contained in the pancreas. I have just spoken to our local CNS and asked her the question directly "Is it cancer?" and she was honest with me.

At least we know now.

@bloodywhitecat devastated to see your update and wish you and your family all the luck in the world. We are in such a scary time as it is and with this added on it must be indescribable. I have first hand experience of pancreatic cancer with my Dad. Do you know what treatment he will be having?

Best wishes op 🌸

They want to discuss a Whipples but other than that she didn't know as he'll now be under Addenbrookes instead of our local hospital.

@bloodywhitecat whipples is a brilliant procedure if it can go ahead, this sadly wasn’t an option for my Dad but he fought to have the nano knife operation but it wasn’t meant to be. Absolutely research and ask about this option if whipples is not on the table. I’m not an expert by any means but my Dad and stepdad did a lot of research due to limited treatment options, many things improved his quality of life when the doctors were unable too.

I’m sorry that you are having to deal with this. My DH has cancer (a different sort) and we have struggled with his diagnosis. It can be a lonely place and I found it helpful to talk to others: true friends are so understanding. I’m thinking of you and hoping the hospital is able to intervene very positively. Good luck - and keep looking after you too.

Read your update on another thread and am so sad for you. Hang in there xx