ADs predict wine and rioting before 6.30pm (but only if the sun's out)

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Over here peeps.

Not much sun today..so plenty of wine it is

Wow. I love the idea that 20% contraction is no big deal! What ignorant people. Sorry you had such a shit time. I think the weather being rubbish makes everything much harder too in terms of feeling remotely buoyant.

I have been tempted by alcohol in the mornings. I've not gone there but some days it's been a bit, how early can I start? Blotting everything out was tempting. I barely drink but I have noticed having more than normal nonetheless. And avoiding food has been almost impossible. I have kept my weight steady though after a mammoth effort to be vigilant (food addiction issues, it's crucial for me to keep on top of that) and am very relieved that's the case as I know a lot will be battling a gain and feeling miserable with it. And it takes months to get off, doesn't it? It's wretched piling it on through stress.

nihiloxia the woman two doors down has been sober nearly 2 years. Got her daughter back and turned her life around. I saw her a fortnight ago staggering back from the food bank (church) at 5pm. Such a shame.

My youngest has struggled with friends. He’s always the life and soul , very popular at school and kids are drawn to him. But he’s NEVER been invited for a sleepover and when I contact other mums I’m ignored. He’s very hurt. I don’t understand why. Strangely enough my asd child has few, but FIRM friends.

I’ve dismantled the old beds and will need to arrange a bulk uplift. Last time I moved them I had a shogun, not quite sure why I didn’t think of this until about half an hour ago.

Morning all.

Well today I have the delight of yet another "individual consultation meeting (phone call) regarding company redundancies". What's the point of ringing me, telling me what I've already been told by the employee reps at the group meetings last week? Going by their selection process I know I'm going. A phone call asking me how I feel about it all and how the company can "best support" me is a waste of time. Oh and the manager calling me has the most boring voice and can out waffle Boris. On top of all that Dad wants me to go and sort out Mums stuff and it's raining.

I'm a grumpy Trapped today.

The most recent suggestion was that I take them wild swimming in the Thames - a disabled 13yo, 11yo & 9yo - by myself.*

🙄🤬

Between work and DC I can't really keep up right now. But thinking of everyone who is having a tough time. @dingit @trappedsincesundaymorn and others

THE final, final straw was that our dishwasher packed up on Friday. We have a tiny kitchen - it's a slimeline & there are six of us (I cook everything from scratch*). It's on at least five times a day & it was cheap & is 5 years old. It'e been on it's last legs for a longtime & dh has been keeping it going. This time it's fucked - he could have taken it apart but costs/benefits and he's WORKING. So we ordered a new one. Fucking hell we've single handedly destroyed the rainforest with our consumerism & profligacy. We made Greta cry. If only we weren't so lazy with all the WORKING & educating & shit.

My family are smunts I've come to realise. It sucks really, not sure if there's any going back from this. I can't be around them.

*Hilarious/sad moment was mum trying to justify getting fish & chips to my brother & SIL (furloughed on 5k between them & adult children at home also furloughed ... no time or money worries, they are living the life) who were horrified:

"it was sister's idea, we'd NEVER usually do it & wouldn't get an actual takeaway ... fish & chips from the village is different"
"we NEVER EVER EVER eat out & nothing comes into the house that hasn't be washed."

I'm actually crying now. Pathetic. 

@trappedsincesundaymorn I'm sorry that utterly sucks ... dd1 is expecting the same call 'sometime this morning' (that's the recession fuckface neighbour)

I don't drink, but I can fully understand the effect the situation will have had on people. Lockdown has all the markings for increased drinking.

I was reading about gambling the other day, there is concern that when sports stopped people turned to online casinos etc, now sports are back so they will start gambling there again, but will struggle to drop the casinos.

Yes my drinking is verging on the ‘too much’ side of things. Every day I say I’ll have a day off. Then I have another soul destroying day trying to entertain the non sleeping toddler when there is absolutely nothing to do, with no other adults to talk to, then DH is holed up in the study working til a ridiculous time so I open a bottle of wine. I’m fat, tired, lethargic and spotty.

shite day here. Lockdown has made me old and done. Went to PT and was crap, no motivation and such an effort, plus dementoring about how being incarcerated with fuck all to do is worth it if IT STOPS PEOPLE DYING!!

And my friend has cancelled drinks tonight as it's wild outside and she won't break the rules. So depressing. DS killing people online but I can't be bothered queuing to do it in real life. Might just go back to bed.

@Drivingdownthe101 me too (well not the non sleeping toddler but a non sleeping 13yo!). I'm so lonely.

I am in the dressing gown of doom because my clothes are too tight.

Looks like most of us have got a gob on then this morning!

I write historical fiction Nihil - not quite so gracious as Dickens, I write about the English Civil War, and it's very sweary. If I did not get to go to 1645 and beat the crap out of blokes with ringlets, I think I should go mad(der)....

It really grieves me to hear so many of us looking at alcohol as a coping strategy. Not being judgy or puritanical just.... it should be a pleasure, not a tool, souldn't it? And then it'll be another thing that we don't get any joy from and the fun sponges will get eggy about. Humph.

Wild swimming?? Wtf?

I’m convinced that so many people have all lost all common sense and humanity. I’ve just heard about a friends 15 year old who has been in hospital over the weekend, autistic and very vulnerable but not allowed to have her mum there, not even to advocate for her. When she was discharged she was not allowed to stay in the hospital and wait for her mum, not allowed to even stay in the foyer but sent out to the car park. Thankfully they found her 2 hours later. Where the hell is the common sense, safeguarding etc. All gone as only Covid matters. Heads need to roll for that one as it could so easily have ended differently. I’m in a seriously pissed off mood today. Colleagues are refusing to go back to the office and it looks like we are going to to be all stuck at home until 2021

I'm pretty disgusted with my drinking really. But I have had melon for breakfast so that's very wholesome.

My drinking has been awful. I’m thinking of Dry July.

@torydeathdrug that last made me so sad. I wish there was something I could do to make you less lonely.
The other stuff is a bit bollocks but there's something "all in together" about all of us having rellies and neighbours who are dicks.
Loneliness is horrible.

@LivinLaVidaLoki
I had pneumonia when I was 30 started New Year’s Day when I lost my voice
Eventually ended up in hospital for two weeks, 5 lots of different antibiotics later and it was May / June before I began to say i was my self again.the next year I got bronchitis. I’d never suffered respiratory wise before. I was 31 and the stress of theee young children , the youngest one had special needs brought me to my knees with all his clinics and operations.

I saw a homeopath. It’s what set me on the trail.. never suffered the next winter, or any time after that.
He gave me my remedy and said stay in and rest and when I say stay in, I don’t mean up and working, I mean get on the bed and let your body rest.
Thankfully my mum was a godsend
Yes I’ve had colds etc but short lived and I’ve learned how to treat them myself With various remedies.

So yes, recovery after Covid can take time depending how sick you’ve been and what shape your body was in at the time..mine was obviously at ground zero level

@Drivingdownthe101

Yes my drinking is verging on the ‘too much’ side of things. Every day I say I’ll have a day off. Then I have another soul destroying day trying to entertain the non sleeping toddler when there is absolutely nothing to do, with no other adults to talk to, then DH is holed up in the study working til a ridiculous time so I open a bottle of wine. I’m fat, tired, lethargic and spotty.

Me too Exactly this

Yep, I have a bit of a drink problem and fell off the wagon during lockdown. Partly because of boredom, partly because if stress and partly because people kept going on about wine!! Fuckers.
It's no one's fault I can't moderate though, so I shouldn't be bitter
I'm back on the wagon now, just addicted to cake still. Especially banana cake with custard

I actually think that lockdown has collectively sent a lot of people a bit mad. For some it's anxiety, you see it a lot on here, they now want to hide inside forever. But for others it seems to have triggered a recklessness or tendency to violence or anti-social behaviour. Glasgow alone has had several appallingly violent incidents in the city centre and surrounds in the last few days. People seem to be behaving far more badly and stupidly than usual when they do go out to busy areas - I don't mean in terms of covid, just the general mess and anti-social behaviour, dangerous parking etc.

We should really have started easing so much earlier. Parking areas should be open. Toilets should be open. Because this feels like they've shaken a bottle of champagne and popped the cork.

And I am so, so sick of the judgement, that seems to have ramped up again, if people do perfectly legally go out, go shopping or book a holiday. How selfish of them not to want to cower at home staring at four walls forever more.

Will have to catch up Later
Just ranG dd And my lovely granddaughter is still coming to so some acrylic pouring
I thought it would be about 2 but nope just after 12 so will need to get cracking as I feel like I’ve got a heavy cold.

And I am so, so sick of the judgement, that seems to have ramped up again, if people do perfectly legally go out, go shopping or book a holiday. How selfish of them not to want to cower at home staring at four walls forever more

I’m struggling with this too. These are all perfectly normal things to do, things that most people did pre lockdown. We then had a lockdown to reduce the number of new infections. Now those things are possible again (that was the aim, after all), yet people are disgusted with others for actually doing them. I don’t get it. It’s weird.

I've had 'flu twice in my life. The sort where you have to drag yourself on hands and knees, with lots of rest stops, to get to the loo. Proper 'flu, not the 'just 'flu' that Covid isn't.

After the second time I remember going to the doctor and asking what was wrong with me - I still felt weak and tired and couldn't do anything much after 3 months. I was still coughing. She gave me A Look and said if I'd had 'flu I should expect to feel like that after 3 months but should notice a difference after 6. It was a good year before I could stay up after about 8pm.

I write about the English Civil War, and it's very sweary.

Oooh, do you?

I read a book set aroud that time once. I think it was one I found in a house I was staying in. Maybe you wrote it, even. It was by Philippa Gregory.

The English civil war I know very little about. Oliver Cromwell is utterly reviled in Ireland as a cruel despot, so it's interesting to learn about him in a very different context.

Dry July sounds like a good idea, FizzFan, but the thought of it is too depressing. It's my birthday later this week and I am hoping for some fun in the summer if I can figure out what.

See I thought ‘yes maybe I could do dry July’ and am now thinking about all the reasons it wouldn’t be possible... so maybe I really should do dry July!
We go on holiday on the 2nd August (hopefully!) so if nothing else I’d hopefully lose a few pounds before then.
Urgh... I don’t much fancy it though.

Hands up to an alcohol problem here as well. I need to step on it but I just can't be bothered.

My life is going to have to change radically after all this is over, but I'm too weak and feeble