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Anti-dementors are driving round the Arc de Triomphe

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SockYarn · 18/06/2020 11:11

new thread :-)

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Drivingdownthe101 · 18/06/2020 21:49

@justasking111

I had grandkids yesterday and today. By the time they were collected today I was truly on my last nerve. OH cooked dinner when he realised I was ready to snap. I do not know how all the mums have managed for the last 87 days.
I am constantly on my last nerve. Like a tightly coiled spring.
BakewellTarts · 18/06/2020 21:50

@HesterShaw1

I know I'm probably being an awful dullard, but what's the connection with mear packing factories?
I think they tend to be loud and so there is a need to shout?

There have been a lot of clusters around them Sad

BarkandCheese · 18/06/2020 21:52

@SomewhereEast

Also I bet the posters who are being horrible to anyone struggling with homeschooling are the exact same ones who were always horrible to anyone struggling with breastfeeding or babies who woke fifteen times a night or whatever. There's always been a minority on here like that.
Yep. It’s a complete lack of empathy coupled with a desire to kick people while they’re down. It’s a very long time ago now but if I’d encountered one of these when I was failing at breast feeding it would have pushed me over the edge.
Spudlet · 18/06/2020 21:54

God, yes. There’s a small subset on here that really hates mothers, weirdly.

justasking111 · 18/06/2020 21:56

The welsh outbreaks in meat processing plants echo what happened in the USA. OH and I are wondering what the common denominator is with this ourselves @HesterShaw1

Drivingdownthe101 · 18/06/2020 21:56

@Spudlet

God, yes. There’s a small subset on here that really hates mothers, weirdly.
Mothers, and children. There’s a thread running about being treated rudely by shop assistants and the language used to describe children is awful. It goes back to the ‘filthy disease vector’ thing. Talking about children ‘mauling’ things in shops (not touching, mauling) and various other crimes against humanity.
Teateaandmoretea · 18/06/2020 21:56

@spudlet I think they are just horrible people generally tbh.

NannyPhlegm · 18/06/2020 21:57

I couldn't breastfeed my eldest, and people like these contributed to my post natal depression. I felt like I had failed at being a mother. Once I climbed out of that hole, I had enough experience to not take SAHM/WOHM wars seriously.

This has shaken my resolve though. The dementors managed to crawl under my skin, and it was this thread that saved me from sinking.

I love you all!

CarrotPuff · 18/06/2020 21:57

@Drivingdownthe101 I used to live in London. The food markets... how I miss them! Now we live in a small commuter town, although we do have Mexican and Japanese in addition to the usual Chinese/Indian, so I can't complain too much.

I used to make a really delicious lemony aubergine risotto. DP doesn't like risotto though, so I haven't made it for ages. I might have to LTB.

Don't even start me with home schooling. We did "the right thing" and kept them home even though we're both keyworkers, but could work from home. By mid May I was a sobbing mess so we've sent them in and my biggest regret is that we haven't done it earlier. Fuck this shit.

justasking111 · 18/06/2020 21:58

@Drivingdownthe101. Tightly coiled spring is right. My stomach was in knots, took me an hour of just sitting on the sofa with a good book to relax.

Spudlet · 18/06/2020 21:58

Yes, definitely children too! You wonder what these people are like in real life (actually I used to work with someone who I think had similar views, it was grim).

PickAChew · 18/06/2020 22:00

DS1 really struggled with school in juniors, @Dowser. Lots of massive meltdowns and he got to the point where he just hid in a cupboard all day, if he was in school. He did so much better once we got him into his specialst school, but something just clicked, after christmas, and after a few incidents where he lost control alongside his sleep pattern getting messed up so he could no longer manage the early starts for his long journey there, he barely made it in. Most of the boys at his school had similarly disastrous starts to their school life and many of them end up doing apprenticeships, A levels or university. I'm sad for him because he really is bloody bright but is so anxious and demand avoidant that he's just ducked out entirely, now.

Now restrictions are lifting a little, Ineed to crack on and apply for his bus pass so I have a chance of getting him out of the house again. Buses are his thing and the last Sunday before the pre-lockdown social distancing came in we took the bus to the metrocentre, then after lunch, into Newcastle, then the long, pretty way home via Consett. It was a glorious day and there was a pokemon go event on and we felt really lost, our first few weekends, not being able to do that. (The day before that, we did a loop of home - boro - darlo - home again and the less said about some of the arseholes on the bus from darlo, the better!)

Anyhow, I hope your grandson finds his groove again once everything has calmed down. In some ways, having the pressure to "do school" taken off him may have been a good thing, even if re-integration is still going to be difficult.

Ibake · 18/06/2020 22:03

I try and tell myself that there's no way some of these people would be as vile in real life. Anonymity turns some people into absolute witches, but then again, I'd rather know they were a witch as I cannot abide two facedness.

MN has many, many bad points but I do also like the varied viewpoints, it's taught me so much. I especially find it useful to temper my own responses to situations sometimes eg I'll read an article in the news, maybe think 'don't be so bloody ridiculous' and then come on here and find a whole thread agreeing with the article. If it was only 1 or 2 people fair enough, but when it's loads it makes me stop and challenge myself about my views and whether I've managed to put myself in their shoes.*

My friendship group is mostly women very similar to me so I like the alternative views - look at all of us, over the past few weeks we've probably learnt enough about each other to realise that we all have very different backgrounds but it's that collective knowledge that makes these posts so very interesting.

  • obvs the caveat to all of that is any dementor posts - they're just batshit! Grin
NannyPhlegm · 18/06/2020 22:03

The welsh outbreaks in meat processing plants echo what happened in the USA. OH and I are wondering what the common denominator is with this ourselves

I might be misremembering, but weren't meat processing plants a hotspot during the swine flu pandemic as well? I haven't checked, so might well be wrong

BogRollBOGOF · 18/06/2020 22:06

@Orangeblossom78

Why are they so harsh on mothers struggling with home schooling? Just seen another post, and one of them is telling them there should be fines and it is our duty to do all the work etc Hmm a little boy think he is about 9. FFS.
When I was talking to DS1's former teacher (last year's) in the shop yesterday, she was perfectly fine about us being hit and miss, and scraping by on Bitesize. Our school is happy for any learning.

She knows me well. I'd like to think I'm a good egg. Sensibly on the ball and making sure that things happen that need to (bearing in mind SENs are involved and at a masking level that can be overlooked) but not micromanaging. I help out a lot. We might be in the nick of time and stressy most mornings, but at least not the ones that drop off as far away as can be got away with leaving the child to saunter to the main reception safe in the assumption they are late. I bet I could guess who has been doing far less than us.

There always has been a cohort on here that like to stick the boot in and unfortunately now more than ever they are overlapping with the genuinely paranoid and over zealous and it's harder to distinguish what's what.

Littlebelina · 18/06/2020 22:06

Same @CarrotPuff, really wish we'd sent ours in earlier. They are different children.

Agree with all, for a parenting website there are a lot of users who really hate mothers and children. Including one or two prominent posters on the schools threads who claim to be teachers and clearly hate children. The number who can't grasp the gender pay gap as well astound me.

Littlebelina · 18/06/2020 22:09

I've seen the environment cited for meat packing plants, cold and moist Envy (not envy). Plus the noise means people not only have to shout but are often close together to hear each other (so social distancing goes kaput).

PickAChew · 18/06/2020 22:11

I dice them, roast them in the oven and turn them into a curry. Lots of cumin coriander and tumeric.

I use fennel seed in my aubergine curries @BakewellTarts
It's quite a magical combination.

Then again I get through a lot of fennel seed as I find an excuse to add it to loads of different dishes. It's amazing in a spag bol made with pork mince.

Something I've not been able to get hold of that I'm running out of is green cardamom pods. I'm normally fussy and get the Bart spices ones as they're so much better quality but I've not been able to get to anywhere selling bart spices, during lockdown. That means that I've also ended up having to buy tesco own garam masala, which is nowhere near as nice and works out a lot more expensive because ti comes in tiny jars.

I can't even go to the Indian grocer that we're lucky enough to have nearby because his shop is about the size of my living room so he had to close. I must spin by and see if he's been able to re-open again. I will gladly wear a mask if it enables me to buy massive bunches of coriander. I don't know if he sells fresh curry leaves. I never checked. I always got mine from Waitrose, which I've not been able to get to.

RubberDinghyRapids · 18/06/2020 22:13

My sister had a job in a meat factory. Pricking the holes in pork pies by hand.

She left after half a day and got a job in a sweet factory instead.

Willow2017 · 18/06/2020 22:15

My holiday experience is very much the borders and I can see it wouldn't work there. (Though maybe the Borders is a bit forgotten as she has the least fans there.)
And we sneak across the border and go on murderous rampages in shops like the Border Reivers😉

InsaneInTheViralMembrane · 18/06/2020 22:25

I think there might be aerosol procedures in meat processing plants - lots of saws, drills and “mechanically recovered meat”. Lots of biological fluid, shouting, spray.

I always assume those who are utterly horrid on MN are deeply unhappy with their own lives and lashing out. If you were to behave like that in real life, nobody would go near you more than the once.

Good day here. Youngest fell out a tree into nettles.

Dowser · 18/06/2020 22:27

Pickachew
I think he picks up a lot of his ocd-Ness from his mum.

RubberDinghyRapids · 18/06/2020 22:30

Insane Picked up DD from nursery. Greeted with two accident forms and a handover of "she keeps taking off her shoes and chewing them". All I could say was "yeah... she does that" BlushGrin

HesterShaw1 · 18/06/2020 22:30

@InsaneInTheViralMembrane

I think there might be aerosol procedures in meat processing plants - lots of saws, drills and “mechanically recovered meat”. Lots of biological fluid, shouting, spray.

I always assume those who are utterly horrid on MN are deeply unhappy with their own lives and lashing out. If you were to behave like that in real life, nobody would go near you more than the once.

Good day here. Youngest fell out a tree into nettles.

Oh God, NETTLES! I fell into some on a walk not long ago and was whimpering for about 24 hours. Poor little bugger :(
rookiemere · 18/06/2020 22:31

Arf at the horlicks pickachew Grin

Yeah I foolishly wandered onto a school thread.

Apparently implying that anything is less than perfect makes you a woefully inadequate DM. It doesn't matter that I don't understand DSs school work and therefore can't explain it as well as, I dunno at a wild guess an actual teacher might do. It's my role to facilitate learning and provide DS with the tools to help himself, so I told him to google or shout on his DF when he asked me what a serd was. Apparently it's a Maths thing - who knew.

I've finally got the school to set us up as google admin so we get notified of what work is due. If they'd done this for every parent it would have saved weeks of struggling to get him to do stuff, especially for my friend with dyspraxic DD in same year. Mind you she won the Willy Wonka gold card and managed to get her DD in school 3 days a week.

Anyhoo lesson learnt I shan't be offering my opinions there any more.

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