Men driving their female partners car when both travel in it

[HelenUrth]

On my road there are two couples where both the man and woman have their own car, but if they both go out in the woman's car, the man always drives it, also the woman never drives the man's car. One couple is 50s, the other 60s. Does anyone here do the same and would you mind sharing why?

Depends what we need them for. DH quite likes driving his flying Willy but not if the drive is arduous.

We do, I'm an anxious driver and it's a bit like wacky races here atm. I avoid driving when possible though as I don't like it.

Other way round here. I'm the better driver so I di all the driving. I am also a dreadful passenger so it's better for everyone.

Sometimes DP drives my car with me as passenger. I do a lot of driving for work and sometimes its nice to just be driven. I dont really like his car so prefer to use mine if we go out as a family.

So what? Why is this an issue for you? Normally if we go out together even in my car DH drives because I can’t be arsed and i don’t like driving but he loves it. I don’t drive his car for the same reasons

We just take it in turns. Normally I drive so I'd drive DP car if we were all going out but it really depends what I feel like.
Why are you bothered by it?

I will let any other willing adult drive so I don't have to. I can drive but hate it. Will only drive on my own or with non driver passengers.

We're completely equal
I drive mine to work, and he drives his
If we're out with the dog then we'll take it in turns to drive mine
His car is a no dog zone so if we're out together without the dog then he'll drive his car.

Women seem to have less confidence in driving and I have no idea why.

I should have said, unless he is dropping me off to go out drinking. Then I let him drive. He doesn't drink so its handy.

This is because ..... he's the head of our family?

What a quaint idea.

I drive my car, he drives his car. Unless we are on a long journey in which case I drive his car cos it’s so fun to drive. sometimes I persuade him to drive his car rather than take mine on shorter journeys but it’s mainly cos I’m lazy and want to look at my phone.

As a child I thought negatively about my father always driving ( unless he had a drink) while my mother was the passenger. As an adult if there's 2 of us, I am in the passenger seat, despite motorway driving for my commute and my job involving driving, I hate it ( funningly enough I don't mind my commute or driving at work)

We tend to be arguing who has to drive not him insisting he does. He usually does as I have an arsehole of a commute when I’m not perma-WFH so try to do as little driving as possible in my free time.

So many happy in their subjugation! Driving will be the last vestige of the patriarchy, after sex. I'm with you, OP, all the way (as long as we share the driving).

I do this with my DH and I'm in my twenties! I just don't like driving. I do it if I have to but don't like to do it. DH doesn't mind it, so picks up the slack. We vary which car we use for a number of reasons (amount of boot space required, off-road driving expected, whether one needs refuelling or not...)

I have a car, he has 2 vans...

I drive his vans if I need a van, and rarely I’m a passenger in them - because the passenger seats are not comfy and tbh I don’t particularly like his driving.

My car I drive, unless I’ve been drinking or I’m unwell. Or very very occasionally he drives it alone because I’ve taken his van.

*If my mum drops my dad at the pub, he drives them both there, then he gets out and she moves into the drivers seat.“

I drive DP places in my car for him to take it back...

I (f) always drive DP (m) when we go out together or as a family. He doesn't like driving much and I do. Works for us.

It’s because I’m a lazy cow. Plus we have 2 communal cars anyway. One that’s small and nice to drive and the other that’s some horrid station wagon.

I usually drive if we go out together because DH drives like Miss Daisy
I'm aware that we are very much in the minority though.

My DH always drives cause he likes driving and I like choosing the music

We only have one car ( SW London ) which is technically mine but is just the family car.

We split driving according to our strengths and preferences.

I do more of the local London driving, which includes the M25 which I understand the rhythms of better than him ( it’s a dark art...l) He tends to drive on long journeys because I am much better at navigating and making route changes where there are problems because my geography outside London is better than him, though we do split driving on very long journeys. He drives abroad because he enjoys it and is good at instantly switching car model, steering wheel side and side of road whereas I take a while to settle.

We go everywhere in my car as it's the family car with the kids seats in.. but usually he'll drive.. he didn't drive for the first 3/4 years of our relationship.. I made him learn to drive and when he passed he wanted to drive everywhere.. it just stuck.. it's never discussed.. I take the kids and get them in the car.. he sorts the dog, locks up and jumps in the drivers seat.. probably habit more than anything!

I spent 13 years with a man who couldn't drive. I drove EVERYWHERE even on holiday, up to scotland, across the country, into major cities and I got fed up in the end

I'm now with someone who loves driving and hes quite happy to drive most of the time and I'm quite happy to sit back and let him!

My husband enjoys driving, for me it's a means to an end. Makes sense for him to enjoy it rather than me tolerate it if we go out together in either car.

DH usually drives when we're together. He enjoys it whereas for me it's just something I do to get from a to b.