Patronii in person, anti Dementors visit the zoo

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Never started a long running thread before but I figure even lurkers should take a turn. Hope the title ok.

Same with me, @Wales. I was quite sceptical but it was a lifesaver for me.

About 6000 I think, so probably not very. Although I'm the only person who does my job...

@PickAChew oh I hope he gets to school soon. He shouldn't have to miss out. Equally I hope your respite comes through.

Its not fair that kids are missing out in this way.

@BogRollBOGOF honestly I think nursery is invaluable to most kids. I was so worried he'd be off for 6 months and thrown into school but I'm confident they'll give them a good build up to it now.

@NothingIsWrong
for you. You are a valued person, you add value to everyone in your life. This can't and won't last for ever. I'm wishing you strength to continue with this shitshow 💐

Those school threads are why these anti dementor threads are uo to number 14!

I have 2 kids with asd and complex needs. Home schooling never even got attempted. Home with family is safe space. After many Boris walks, Ds2 knows his molehills from his rabbit holes, mind! He also knows a few bird calls. If I chuff chaff chiff chaff, he will tee-cher tee-cher because there's part of our local nature reserve that is home to both chiffchaff and great tits. He's is also aware that crows (that say crawk) think raw rabbit is right tasty.

It’s be worth a quick ring to reassure you. They should be able to tell you what they report but I bet it’s not job titles. They didn’t ask for any details from me like my job title or band. They had my name and company but promised work wouldn’t know I’d called.

I'll have a look at the info on our intranet.

But how do I speak to them privately? EVERYONE IS HOME ALL THE TIME.

@nothingiswrong - would the car be an option? Maybe drive to a nice spot to call? Ours were open 24/7 and they might be quieter in the evening

@BogRollBOGOF
Your son sounds lovely, I enjoyed reading about your outing with him
I've been feeling shite lately and DS is the one who can make me smile just by being his beautiful self. Parenting in lockdown is really hard but conversely, there are moments with DS that make it bearable.

@NothingIsWrong
I hope you can find a private space and the motivation to call. Hang on in there

Oh and YY to the value of nursery and respect to nursery workers. Can't wait until we can take DS again, he gets so much out of it.

If I didn't wake up tomorrow I don't think it would be such a bad thing. I'm ineffective as a parent, wife, employee. I thought maybe I'd be good in a crisis. Turns out I'm just weak and feeble.

It would be such a bad thing.

I'm good in a crisis. This is not a crisis.

It turns out that we're both members of the gang that find a non-crisis with enforced nothing to do intolerable.

This is not a crisis. It threatened to be one months ago, but we averted it by staying in.

Now we are trapped and the crisis never happened, so feeling weird and purposeless is exactly right.

I bet you're a lovely wife and a fab mother.

You're also one of us and we love having you be part of this thread of people (women mostly?) from different walks of life and different age groups who support each other through this.

See you in the morning. ❤

It's lightheated and fun, but also important.

Tomorrow Sunday times. Suggests lockdown easing could be accelerating.

A voice of reason.
www.dailymail.co.uk/debate/article-8395517/DAN-HODGES-lazing-sunshine-cowering-dark-stop.html

Hear! Hear!

Thinking of all you lovely parents doing a brilliant job.
Nothing is wrong ..hang on in there ..it’s really tough right now, so many of us have been there. I think I’ve fought mental health problems all my life. And my coping strategies are out the window but the green shoots are there . It’s going to get better and quickly.
Despite all my tears and tantrums during my early years of parenting, we managed to raise lovely children that are a joy with good decent values who are now raising beautiful children that are also a joy
It does come right in the end.
I just think we are sensitive souls that feel it more. Maybe.

Pickachew..I was talking to dh about the metro centre yesterday. I think he was horrified that I was going to suggest a visit . I bet only m and s are open as they have a door leading outside.
I used to drive up there with my daughter about once a month. Had some great times.
I’m lucky if I get there once a year now.

I feel a bit more positive today. So many of us were affected yesterday. We’ve just had a full moon. Maybe some of us react to that I don’t know.
I need some more sleep..

@NothingIsWrong, I bet you are a great wife and mother precisely because you care if you are. That said, I know how you feel because I have felt exactly that way and it sucks. Thing is, your reactions are not abnormal. We've all been put under a bizarre sort of house arrest without trial, all presumed guilty of germ spreading with no concrete evidence to suggest we are. No social animal like homo sapiens can handle that for any length of time without chafing against the restrictions.

And the thing is, women have often been socialised that to feel angry is to be a bad person. So we turn our anger inward and blame ourselves for not coping with a bullshit situation. It is ok to be angry, it is ok to hate the situation, it's ok to be furious at the people who have imposed it on us.

These threads have been an absolute lifeline for me. I feel so much less alone due to all of you amazing women. The supportiveness that MN keeps getting accused of losing, it's right here! Thank you

Great news last night. DS1 is back at work on Monday.
DH work is starting to get a few bookings - he had work everyday last week even if it was only a couple of hours a day June is always the quietest month so we normally have our holiday then so fingers crossed things will be back to normal soon.

@countrygirl99 great to hear some good news. I hope the government try to stimulate confidence and spending. Maybe a quick shot to our economy timed with release when we’re all keen to do nice things might help lessen the recession? I hope so

Gosh. When did everyone out there start thinking in binary? Have actual adults stopped being able to weigh up risk in terms of severity and probability?

No mask = death for us all.
Beaches = death for us all.
Protest = death for us all.

If it goes on at that rate then we'll be wiped out as a country by October.

Morning just wanted to say thank you for these threads. I’ve lurked on and off the last few weeks. I’m another one on my knees with wfh full time with 2 DC who are really not ok now. The schools thread last night nearly finished me off but then I came and read these posts and feel a bit better. So thank you everyone posting, you’re helping keep me going

Are any of my fellow Scottish anti dementors interested in having our own education thread?

I'm really concerned about disparities between classroom time and rotations, and the fact that the education recovery group has such vague minutes. I think a thread to swap information woukd be a good thing.

I've been thinking abiut the education thing a lot and, having muddled through for weeks, I'm now really angry about what a fuckup it is. Glow is a pile of shite, teachers and HTs seem to be having to work everything out individually so there's disparities even between primaries in our town, and the Scottish Government are nowhere to be fucking seen in any of this. It's really noticeable on the days when the English schools are off and there's no Bitesize, as far as I'm aware they haven't produced any Scottish video learning.

Morning @Lianarose , stick around. We have gin and sarcasm

The schools threads are bad for your MH. Stay away!

Also:

School = death.

I didn't really sleep. But I'm still here. I just don't want to be.

Got to get up and give the kids a cwtch, that always helps!

Exactly @RubberDinghyRapids These people have eff all perspective, sense or intelligence. I can only hope that there aren't as many of them as we fear and it's just a case of empty vessels making the most noise.
@NothingIsWrong sending you lots of anti-dementor support and

@Willitneverend - I’m in wales and did wonder about a separate thread so I didn’t bore the majority with a side Issue. I think the problem might be keeping the dementors away and getting the numbers to make it work. It is such a worry and because you’re going back first it sets a precedence so has wider relevance. Sorry, just musing! I’m hoping getting all years back in wales even for a few days sets the expectation that all children will have access in September

@NothingIsWrong glad you're still here lovely.
Every day you hang in there is a big stuff-you to the dementors.

Not going to send you virtual wine but I read an article in that well-known quality publication that @HesterShaw1 and I know so well, and have a virtual Jelbert's ice cream instead: vanilla ice cream, dollop of clotted cream, and a 99 flake.

The protest dementors in particular can fuck right off. "Well, everybody dies when they get the virus, but BAME individuals DIE EXTRA HARD, so it's for their own good that they or anyone who objects to racism should be prevented from peaceful protest. And Covid is definitely a bigger threat to BAME people than hundreds of years of institutional racism. Lucky them that I'm there to tell them that."

We're off to see the PIL today and I fully expect DS2 to run at them full tilt for cuddles.