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Patronii in person, anti Dementors visit the zoo

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ISaySteadyOn · 05/06/2020 11:30

Never started a long running thread before but I figure even lurkers should take a turn. Hope the title ok.

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Bollss · 06/06/2020 20:40

I feel the same way. September is almost 3 months away and still the idea of part time school is being floated and honestly it's just making me want to bang my head against a brick wall.

I'm sick and fucking tired of hearing oooooh we know kids aren't ill but what about everyone else.

No. Fucking no. What about the poor fucking kids who need an education. And socialisation. What about their parents who need to work. Or are struggling. Or simply need 5 fucking minutes alone.

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ISaySteadyOn · 06/06/2020 20:42

@SpnBaby1967, that's rough. Flowers and Brew if you want them.

@amicissimma, did you download it from GOG? Sometimes things crash due to Windows 10.

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DominaShantotto · 06/06/2020 20:45

Oh won't be back in 2021 according to dementors elsewhere on here tonight. This generation have been abandoned totally - and for all the schools are bravely saying that "we will pick up from where the kids are" - with how intense the school curriculum is these days - that's only going to last a short while and then the pressure for results and targets will be back on and who is going to suffer a barrage of booster groups and interventions and summer schooling? These kids.

I managed to at least get to speak to the school SENCO on Friday afternoon finally - have a few things agreed for September assuming kids are allowed an education at all.

I would have broken completely this week if I hadn't fought so hard to get the kids back into school - they have relaxed so much visibly this week - the youngest is still struggling to find her words and I think needs to go back into speech therapy if we can find the money at all (and I doubt her therapist has space for her anymore now to be fair).

I've sunk that low I'm now finding Michael Mcintyre funny.

NothingIsWrong · 06/06/2020 20:52

I made the mistake of reading the thread about schools not going back until 2021 and probably not even then.

I can't do this. I will lose the career I have fought for for 15 years, through having 3 children in 5 years, a mental breakdown, fought my way back, and am now pretty senior and respected. But I need the kids in school to continue, it can't all be done from home, it's erratic at times. DH is self employed and earns more than me so obviously it will be me that has to quit. I hate being SAHM, I am bad at it and makes me anxious and depressed. I can't go back there.

What am I supposed to do?

Littlebelina · 06/06/2020 20:53

Oh God, Domina is there nothing else on?

Drivingdownthe101 · 06/06/2020 20:54

@NothingIsWrong

I made the mistake of reading the thread about schools not going back until 2021 and probably not even then.

I can't do this. I will lose the career I have fought for for 15 years, through having 3 children in 5 years, a mental breakdown, fought my way back, and am now pretty senior and respected. But I need the kids in school to continue, it can't all be done from home, it's erratic at times. DH is self employed and earns more than me so obviously it will be me that has to quit. I hate being SAHM, I am bad at it and makes me anxious and depressed. I can't go back there.

What am I supposed to do?

Ignore them. They’re talking bollocks. They have no idea when schools will go back. I’m going to put it out there that they will be back full time in September.
Littlebelina · 06/06/2020 20:55

I think that thread is batshit Nothing, trying desperately not to engage.

Flowers things will get better

Nihiloxica · 06/06/2020 20:58

I made the mistake of reading the thread about schools not going back until 2021 and probably not even then.

Me too.

I should have stayed away.

I think even the OP of that is a non-dementor being demented into accepting that education as we know it is over.

I find it quite odd that some teachers want to tear up the social contract but for their own employment contracts to remain unchanged.

My Grandparents expected, and received full time education in the 1920s. But 100 years down the line this is apparently too big an ask.

NothingIsWrong · 06/06/2020 20:59

I have had some good days recently. And now I am back to feeling that I would rather not live than have this half life. I will of course, my kids are too important to me, but it's a half hollow life with very little joy. I'm so lonely.

SpnBaby1967 · 06/06/2020 20:59

@NothingIsWrong

I made the mistake of reading the thread about schools not going back until 2021 and probably not even then.

I can't do this. I will lose the career I have fought for for 15 years, through having 3 children in 5 years, a mental breakdown, fought my way back, and am now pretty senior and respected. But I need the kids in school to continue, it can't all be done from home, it's erratic at times. DH is self employed and earns more than me so obviously it will be me that has to quit. I hate being SAHM, I am bad at it and makes me anxious and depressed. I can't go back there.

What am I supposed to do?

I only got back to work in October after 10 years off after having 3 kids. I was just starting to get a life back that was mine and not just mine as a mum. Although I can wfh just fine, I actually liked going into the office and seeing people other than my kids and DH

I've had enough. I dont know if I can keep doing this much longer. Not whilst the other threads seem to be full of such glee over the world needing to stay locked down and the death rates. They just can't seek to grasp that to many people this current lifestyle is becoming a life not worth living.

Bollss · 06/06/2020 20:59

@NothingIsWrong

I'm on that thread too. There's a lot of hyperbole being thrown around I think.

Try not to worry yet. We have almost 3 months until September and that's what I am currently consoling myself with. Look how much has changed since march. I have hope we could change back by sept!

I will happily queue outside Aldi for the rest of my god damn life if it means Ds gets a proper education!

SpnBaby1967 · 06/06/2020 21:00

Joy feels like its outlawed

BarkandCheese · 06/06/2020 21:00

Bodies in the streets
Ice rinks being used as temporary morgues
VE Day spike

All things the dementors predicted which haven’t happened, and there are probably lots more I’ve forgotten. They can predict schools not going back until 2021 all they like but it doesn’t mean it’s going to actually happen.

thenightsky · 06/06/2020 21:01

Another Scottish FB dementor on my newsfeed... 'Closing the border must now be an option......'

Really want to reply with 'why the fuck would anyone want to travel to a place where everything is closed'

I must not engage, I must not engage.

Bollss · 06/06/2020 21:05

@BarkandCheese excellent point. They have so far been very wrong actually haven't they?

thenightsky · 06/06/2020 21:09

How do I snooze someone on my FB? I cannot figure it out for the life of me.

BarkandCheese · 06/06/2020 21:11

They have. They jump to the worst possible case scenario based on the information available at that time.

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 06/06/2020 21:14

Weekends are tough aren't they? And it's impressive, isn't it, how relentlessly negative some people can be? They've kept this up for weeks now. That's some skill. I am a serious worrier and I fell at a much earlier hurdle with all the fear. I am now ashamed of my lack of staying power Wink

I am just holding onto the fact that cases aren't going to rise as time goes on. They aren't - they are declining everywhere. Honestly 3 months down the line the government won't be able to justify schools being part time. Many of the most dementor-like people will then also be kicking up a fuss as they realise it will give them serious childcare/job issues. It will be ok. If it's not, we can deal with it then together. I think with every passing week more and more people get sick of lockdown and come over to the dark side. I drove to see a friend yesterday and things were the most normal they've been for months. I saw teenage couples walking hand in hand down the street, children in school uniform being dropped off, there were several groups of MAMILs out on bike rides this morning - including one group of about 7 men who'd all stopped to have a chat and and a drink together and were laughing and standing close as if everything was normal. There are more teenagers in groups in our local parks too and the motorway I was on was much busier. There were even more elderly out and about too. And I went to a garden centre a few days ago too and there were more elderly out there and people were so relaxed about walking past each other. One woman even sneezed loudly and no one jumped out their skin or batted an eyelid. We see the worst of the dementors on here because they're sitting at their computers venting and feeling too scared to go out but something has shifted out in the real world. It is changing. The more that continues the more it's irrelevant what dementors want. Shops will open soon, more children will go back to school. My hair is also a state and I can't wait to get that done.

Dowser · 06/06/2020 21:14

My kitchen and bathroom look unbelievably sparkly
What a waste of my life😡

Drivingdownthe101 · 06/06/2020 21:16

@BarkandCheese

Bodies in the streets Ice rinks being used as temporary morgues VE Day spike

All things the dementors predicted which haven’t happened, and there are probably lots more I’ve forgotten. They can predict schools not going back until 2021 all they like but it doesn’t mean it’s going to actually happen.

Exactly this. Some of them would like to not go back to teaching in September... doesn’t mean its going to happen. Boris opening schools up to more pupils now has shown that he is keen to get kids back. It would probably have been a damn sight easier for him to say ‘closed until September’.

I do wonder if I’m deluded about my kids’ school though. The teachers there seemed genuinely thrilled to be back in. DD1’s teacher, who I’ve built a good relationship with this year, messaged me the day she went back saying she’d had the most fabulous day and she was in tears seeing how happy they all were. DD2’s teacher was in with the key worker group this week and she messaged the reception parents saying she’s had a great week and can’t wait to see more of them back from the 15th. Are they just lying and then slagging off the ‘filthy disease vectors’ on Mumsnet in their free time?

Russellbrandshair · 06/06/2020 21:16

Bodies in the streets
Ice rinks being used as temporary morgues
VE Day spike

All things the dementors predicted which haven’t happened, and there are probably lots more I’ve forgotten. They can predict schools not going back until 2021 all they like but it doesn’t mean it’s going to actually happen

Exactly! Stay strong everyone - just because they want schools closed until 2021 doesn’t mean it’s gonna happen guys! They’re been WRONG about soooooo much already. Remember- they never mention all the stuff they’re wrong about, they conveniently “forget” that. Not one dementor has expressed they’re happy a VE Day spike didn’t happen yet you’d think they’d pleased?!

Don’t let them suck the life out of you, don’t let them steal your precious joy and above all DONT listen to them- they’re just opinions, not facts!

NothingIsWrong · 06/06/2020 21:17

I had to take strong medication to get me through a mental breakdown 5 years ago. I had weaned myself off it by last summer.

Back on it now. And I have beta blockers for the panic attacks.

Am doing slow breathing right now and trying not to spiral.

Dowser · 06/06/2020 21:20

Shit . Fuck. Bastard.
Another rainy day forecast tomorrow .
There goes our indian picnic tomorrow night with son and partner and Dd and her dh
Enough now 😡

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 06/06/2020 21:27

The rain is really challenging isn't it? It makes it so much harder. My only solution is to drag the duvet onto the sofa and put on the television. A hot chocolate is a good idea too. I feel about 15 again!

KaronAVyrus · 06/06/2020 21:27

Tbh a lot of my friends are High school teachers (Scotland) and they are all bitterly disappointed that the schools are still closed. They are especially concerned at the 14-17yr olds missing vital lessons.
The “disease vectors” on Mumsnet bare no relation to the kind, dedicated professionals that I know. I’ve come to the conclusion that a lot of them aren’t actually teachers but bog standard job shites.