Extras at a wedding - what do you actually enjoy?

[Bridecilla]

Guests will be fed and watered. Not wanting to go mad with £££ that won't make a jot of difference.

We've booked a really good wedding DJ. Beer on tap.

Glitter bar? Photo booth??

Nothing. I like weddings that are simple. I've been to ones with pick n mix things and photo booths and just thought they were a bit tacky and pointless.

A good wedding DJ and beer on tap sounds fine to me. I just really don't like the gimmicky stuff.

Somewhere to sit and something to eat/drink between ceremony and reception is always good. I went to one where we were basically all shoved into a room at the reception venue (football stadium) with no food or drinks and no seats whilst the bride and groom got photos after the ceremony. As they had spent an absolute fortune they wanted their Monies worth. After three hours my feet were killing me and I was ready to pass out. A few drinks and canapés And some chairs would have been lovely. It spoilt and otherwise lovely wedding as I ended up tired and headachey with sore feet and a sore back.

Nothing extra.
Just no waiting around without food, drinks and somewhere to sit (like at almost every bloody wedding I go to). I got heatstroke last year as we were all expected to stand up for forty minutes outside the venue with a glass of very strong pimms- no soft drinks, seats or shade

Likethebattle

That sounds awful! Tbh, if just assumed that was standard - I've never been to a wedding that didn't provide complementary drinks and canapes during the really boring time between the wedding and the reception!

Nothing - just make sure the basics are right - enough seating, plenty to eat and drink.

Absolutely somewhere to sit and as many canapés as possible if you are intending on having a long photo shoot.

I do love a photobooth. We had one at ours and there was a queue all the time it was there. I also quite like a good band as well as a DJ.

The things that I remember from really enjoyable weddings are lots of places to sit, a bar that isn’t hugely expensive and an ice cream van.

For the love of God - nothing extra! Definitely not a Glitter Bar - wtf is that even doing at a wedding?! I don't want a sweetie cart, a plate to write on, wildflower seeds to plant, a video message booth or anything else. Mostly those things also seem to come at the expense of the quality and quantity of food and drink and the guests comfort.

I love a photobooth too, and a table with sweets, scoops and little paper bags.

I like good live music. So a pianist or harpist - the sort that is back ground but good.

I like food - canapes if the meal is going to be ages.

I like a relaxed feel. The rest is just window dressing.

Somewhere to sit, decent nibbles if there will be a long wait before the meal.

The ones I remember for the wrong reasons are the ones where guests had to literally stand around for 2 hours on arrival at the reception with no food.

Wedding favours, photobooths, games etc. are really not as important as comfort for me.

Will there be children at the wedding op? It’s not my cup of tea, but photo booths do tend to be popular at weddings

Wedding at 2pm in an open barn

Canapes and drinks straight away. We're not doing off for photos! Maybe a handful of group ones

Sharing platter sit down food at 4

Hog roast at 8.30

Beer pong next to hand pour pump. Wedding is at a brewery

Still debating a marquee or whether to brave it all under the barn.

Maaaaaybeeee a glitter bar 🤣

Plenty of filling food, drink and background music during meal.
Nothing else needed... ask people to upload photos of the day somewhere.

A drink asap after the ceremony, not too much waiting around, somewhere to sit while waiting, good food, plenty to drink and good music. A photographer who isn't overly aggressive. Other than that, you don't really need anything. Maybe a guest book or something like that. Other than that, no need for anything else. Favours often get left behind

I fogot to say shelter from rain and shade from sun. It can be grim otherwise

What is a glitter bar?

Will there be enough seating in the barn?

Wedding at a brewery. I am not a wedding fan but that sounds fab.
I don't like Pimms with the stuff floating in it so don't have that.

I used to work in the industry and have to basically agree with pps

Fripperies like favours, photo booths etc aren't what guests are interested in.

Comfy and plentiful seating

Never long gaps between food & drink being served/available (I'd say never more than 2 hours 3 tops between catering phases). As well as "beer on tap" you want good offerings of soft drinks (nothing worse if you aren't drinking alcohol and the only options are half flat tap cola and water!) - as a veggie please make sure there's plenty for dietary variances, eg bear in mind that omnivores can be buggers for scoffing the veggie food leaving little choice or even quantity for veggies! Even more important to ensure your guests with intolerances/allergies are properly catered for. We had several with dangerous allergies at our wedding and the caterers were extremely careful of this. Certain foods weren't used at all (it had to be nut free due to 2 guests with severe nut allergies) and dishes with other allergens in were known to the servers and with the buffet were clearly labelled with the caterers monitoring and advising.

Good quality but inoffensive entertainment - a dj who is too "cool" to play cheesy favourites won't go down well - you want a good mix of modern and classics and a dj who can read the room, gets the party going but also can slow/relax the room if it's getting lairy/tense

Places for people to escape the revelry even briefly if needed.

Venue well temperature controlled - a venue that's too hot or too cold is not comfortable

I actually hate music at events like weddings because you can't hear to talk with people. The only thing that would interest me at a wedding is having nothing formal and just a casual BBQ with enough tables and chairs for everyone. Weddings are soooooo boring and uncomfortably cringy I actually avoid them if invited. I didn't even like my own. Don't waste your money. It's all crap.

What is a glitter bar? I like food, drink, chatting and dancing. As long as added extras are voluntary, I have no objections to them, but I'd probably stick to the basics as a guest.

As others have said somewhere to sit, drink and nibble during the photos. Not Bath Bombs mascarading as hand made mints...I can still taste it! The food and drink matter the rest is usually that and goes straight in the bin .

Food, drink, music, shelter, photos

You don’t need anything else.

Somewhere quiet to sit and chat in the evening, not just tables wedged round the edge of a dance floor. No photo booths, sweet carts etc.

Barn is open so weather dependent we'll need to shell out for a marquee. The brewery doubles as a tea room so there's an inside area too.

We can have a dessert buffet / ice cream bar too.