Anti Dementors Party Planners Meet Here

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Wanted to make the new thread quickly to get the link onto the last page of the previous one!

lilac by a half ban I mean a first warning, they said if I had another they would have to ban me . Felt like a huge overreaction, I've certainly posted harsher responses, never mind the stuff I read daily and misinformation etc. But hey, whatever.

Ha Countess I want to go to JL too! Need to return something I ordered online. And need to go to another shop that doesn't do free returns and I don't want to pay for postage! I do 95% of my shopping online but it can be a real faff and you have to send a lot back when it's not right (eg doesn't fit properly or something else is wrong).

I don't think shopping is top of (m)any people's priority list right now though. I would say seeing family and friends must be the number one (and I think that's the main thing people are breaking the rules for). I also really really want a haircut Seriously though I think the two most important things are seeing loved ones, which is crucial for everyone's mental health, and allowing our children more freedom and fun - whether that's opening the play areas or something else.

I want to see my mum and dad. Properly see them not have a chat in the garden (and possibly take a dump in a Tupperware box)

I’m also missing eating out and going to the cinema. Not especially missing shopping but then I wasn’t massively into it in the first place.

Helping DS in the garden this afternoon, DIL returned with GD from a walk. GD when she saw me was bashful at first. I sat down with a cup of tea and GD came up to me and clung to me. She is not normally a tactile three year old. DIL said she has been very clingy lately, it was hard to see her like this. This is so unfair to small children.

I dunno.

My kids need new shoes.

The geniuses who decided what counted as "essential" shops seemed to make that decision based on 3 weeks.

Kids grow out of shoes and different shoes are needed in May than in March.

Just another way the needs of children have been ignored.

Genuine question - if you all feel this way why are you sticking to the rules? Not trying to be goody but trying to understand, honestly. If I felt Covid wasn’t much of a risk, I would see family and friends. Plenty are.

DH suggested walking to B&M to buy some sweets as a variation on countryside (normally it's a McWalk) I pointed out that it really wasn't worth walking down there and back because of the risl of lengthy queues (although it was a ropey excuse as I'd rather have a country walk than weave my way around B&M anyway)

I hope as things open up that it's not all book in advance. I like to live spontaneously and not have to plan every move ahead of myself. I need a structure to life, but not every detail set in stone.

I’m sticking to the rules as my mum and dad live a 2 hr drive away. It’s pointless driving up and back for a chat in the garden.

Also - I can’t go for a meal out because everything’s shut.

I have stuck to the rules because, despite my personal misgivings, I wanted to play my part in a public health emergency.

I'm no longer prepared to stick to the no family rule and have made plans for this weekend.

A lot of the other limitations I can't change.

Playgrounds are taped up and schools are shut. Those are the things that are damaging my children most and there is fuck all I can do to change them.

Although I am considering just climbing over the railings into the play parks I pay for with my council tax.

DM wasn't keen when I suggested driving down to her last week. It's an hour away, so not exactly a quick pop in. I don't know many easily accessible, safe bets of people I can meet up with. Most of my local friends are struggling with workload and families.

It was good to go down the park with the neighbours though. It had been mooted about a week ago. Seeing people out at VE day helped to test the ground a bit and see who's more pragmatic.

if you all feel this way why are you sticking to the rules?

Because my daughter's just moved into a new house and doesn't want her neighbours' first impressions of her to be that she had her Mum to stay. It's a 200 mile drive so there's no way I'm popping down to meet in a park then drive back.

If she had somewhere I could park the car and not be seen I'd be there now.

I’ve seen people in various play parks today.

I think people will just start using them again. Absolute minimal threat to anyone, it’s a joke they were closed in the first place.

I'm not sticking to all the rules - I went to see a friend last week and spent two hours chatting in her sunny garden. It's totally ridiculous to think that's less safe than meeting in a park.

Why am I sticking to the rules?
My father's dead and my Mother's a drunk, so to be perfectly honest, the longer I can spin this out the better.
However, I am fraternising with the neighbours

My Dh got a sly haircut today. Never seen him so happy

2 people fined by police for non essential travel yesterday in Wales, I had no idea police were searching trains. Bit cold war to me.

Two deaths one our local councillor who had lung cancer, press said covid death. Another a neighbours friend also terminal cancer, death certificate covid. It does seem odd that.

Oooh @Dowser you drove very near my house - we could've met up and had a right good killing spree!!!!

DM is in her 80s and was ill in Feb (last time I saw her was in hospital back then). To follow the rules strictly, I'd have to take her away from home and she struggles with arthritis. Either she'd have to drive for the first time in months or I'd have to take her in the car. I see no issue with the garden and see the benefits of socialising outside. However it's all a moot point if she's not bothered. I know DB hasn't exactly rushed off immediately when he's dropped supplies off, but he's more local.

DM hasn't even got a mobile phone so most of her news is BBC and the Daily Mail. With that and a recent health scare, I can see why she's probably veering towards over cautious.

It will be simpler when small gatherings are allowed, and places like the NT open up.

I can see the sense in cautious, phased reopening, but gosh I'm bored. My life mainly revolves around a few voluntary roles and ferrying the DCs around. Getting DH back into the office would be good too as it would give us more structure and space, but he can function sufficiently from home. It's getting very tedious waiting for everything to get going again plus the backlash from Dementor types every time there's a change of situation.

No new cases in my city today

Kids shoes are so important, it is banged into us to buy the right width etc. with small children. My grand children are wearing Asda sandals so fingers crossed they will be ok for now it is all you can get around here. Thankfully because of the good weather they can go barefoot in the garden.

Funnily I was with my hairdresser today.
She hasn't commented on mine and DS's DIY jobs

I've peak anti-dementored today.

First was a group I'm on for walking in the Lake District. The admin had to close it even before lockdown due to all the dementors, the final straw being a photo of sausages being fried (I shit you not!). They reopened it on Saturday and within 48hrs the fucking dementors were back. I got into a row with one and then I flounced and left the group.

Second was when I had a full on rant at DH (who walks fairly close to the dementor line) about how I can't believe we're throwing away the education of thousands of children and damaging them for years to come all to save a few old people. I didn't quite mean it how it came out but DH looked at me in horror and stepped away.

At least distance can now be mentioned on my running groups. It had to be banned because of dementors getting upset over imaginary time limits.

Our mobile hairdresser is coming over and cutting our hair outside on Friday. Thankfully we live in the type of place where no one cares or curtain twitches (the next door neighbour's a drug dealer, but he's very quiet and a good neighbour with excellent taste in music and a lovely wee dog). The other one's a pish heid. The one across from us, they have other things on their mind, her teen son got lifted AGAIN for choring good from a local supermarket and her daughter had a baby when she was 15 and is pregnant again.

OH gets a bit dementorish on and off. I give him the evil eye which shuts him up. Frangipani that remark to yours would have had me howling.

I've known her ages. I'll be tacking on a £20 tip for her trouble.