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ThatLibraryMiss · 23/05/2020 22:46

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TheGreatWave · 25/05/2020 21:17

Lilac It is lovely to see you back and I am so sorry that you had such a horrible experience, we were worried when you disappeared.

Stick around, have a name change if necessary, but don't let the bullies win.

Dowser · 25/05/2020 21:20

Gawd , I’m exhausted
Self inflicted, so don’t give me any sympathy.😁
Sent off around 12-30 for Pooley Bridge. . Had a good couple of hours there.spoke to a lovely couple from Manchester. He’d been paddle boarding in lake ullswater but was a bit too windy.
Anyway , I said there’s a school of thought that we’d just had the second wave and then he opened up that he’d lost his mum in December and was convinced it was Covid. She’d been ok one minute,struggling the next and then literally collapsed and passed away.
Was told it was pneumonia, but he wonders.
I asked how old his mum was..just 3 years older than me 😱
They’d both had it and only lost their sense of smell and taste .

As the bridge was being rebuilt, I couldn’t drive up to glenridding, so drove the long way to keswick and castlerigg stone circle
Cor it was bitter up there, but so peaceful. I did a little prayer for us all, especially our welsh and Scottish sisterhood.

Then down to derwentwater at the side of the theatre at keswick. Beautiful down ther and got some more photos.
Then hot footed the 100 miles home in record time as the roads were so empty.

Dh has Cooked me a huge sirloin.
It’s almost too much effort to chew but will do my best.
If you haven’t ha d a good day for whatever reason, I hope tomorrow will be better and the end is insight.

Lilac, good to have you back lass 👍

RunningNinja79 · 25/05/2020 21:21

Sorry to read about the hard experiences people have had. Hope we all feel better soon.

It's not even been a full day and I'm starting to regret going back on facebook. I actually thought that views were changing a bit. Now I'm not so sure. It's my own fault for posting something a bit more positive. Of course I now have friends trying to get into a debate about whether lockdown should be lifted or not. I don't do debates. Should just get back to keeping my feelings to myself.

Oh well. Shops open in 3 weeks. That has to be a good sign. Things are getting moving again. One day we will look back at all this and it will just be a memory.

BogRollBOGOF · 25/05/2020 21:22

I'm concerned that my naturally introvert DS1 is too easily pleased by so much time at home and a quiet life. The longer society is shut down and there is virtually nothing for children to do, the harder it will be to adjust to a normal pace of life. He finds school wearing anyway let alone after 2.. 3.. 5 1/2 (?) months off.

It doesn't seem worth trying to get him in as vulnerable for his SNs while the provision is childcare not education as that kind of aspect of school is the side that he finds harder. He needs the stability of a learning environment.

countrygirl99 · 25/05/2020 21:26

I don't see a difference between my right wing and left wing friends re dementoring. What I have noticed is that the non dementors keep quiet on SM and I only see what they are thinking in phone calls and texts.

AnotherEmma · 25/05/2020 21:27

I don't have any right wing friends Grin

Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy · 25/05/2020 21:35

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair I’m sorry you’re so low. I think the lockdown Is showing the cracks in all our lives we usually can cope with as we have nice things to balance things out. I’m usually positive and think the best of people, but I feel so dark and bleak and helpless. I’ve got friends but none who in close enough to to really speak my mind. I’m missing doing nice things and am so bored. I’ve tried to make this time nice but I hate it now. I hope you feel better soon.

CupCupGoose · 25/05/2020 21:45

Sadie, I know exactly what you mean so many normal things our babies aren't experiencing. It can't be good for their social development. I just hope it doesn't affect them long term. I am just so pleased I had him before it all kicked off. No way would I ahve handled DH being kicked out of the hospital an hour after ds was born.

I'm pleased the plan for schools to go back 1st June has stayed so far. We are in a 3 tier school system and I was hoping dds class, year 4, would be able to go back as its her last year before moving to middle school. 3 tier systems have been forgotten though. I don't know anyone with children in year r, 2 or 6 who actually are going to let their kids go back. Every single one I know are keeping them off because it's 'not safe'. I feel like I'm living in a parallel universe to everyone else.

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 25/05/2020 22:00

Thank you Wales I think so many people don't have close friends and it must be hard to face that head on right now - my closest friends are dementors and the people I've fallen out with. They all live a long way away anyway. I don't want to have fallen out with them and I think I'm easy going about people having different opinions but they've honestly been quite rude and while emotions are running high and people are upset, it's taken me aback.

Of course I now have friends trying to get into a debate about whether lockdown should be lifted or not. I don't do debates

I am sorely missing life before Facebook where you maybe had a debate at school or university but people got things off their chest and the conversation then moved onto other stuff. FB has given everyone the idea their opinion on every tiny matter is incredibly important and must be shared and argued over at length. It's exhausting. If I post something positive, I do not want 5 posts about how I'm wrong and the world is actually doomed. I am feeling better for being away from it! I will pop back on to share nice photos only.

justasking111 · 25/05/2020 22:09

Well the bile that is being dished out has swerved onto Cummings now that we are not all dying their disappointment needs another outlet. I did say that his four year old son is autistic so perhaps needed to be with familiar faces while his parents were ill. Wow got shot down for that told that it was an unverified tweet quickly removed. Well it is not removed but rather a pinned post.

Don`t let facts get in the way of a good verbal kicking though.

Mascotte · 25/05/2020 22:12

No sympathy for Cummings and his tissue of lies from me.

longestlurkerever · 25/05/2020 22:13

Sorry everyone is feeling so low, i really relate to a lot of this, though am feeling weirdly ok right this second, probably still riding high on my illegal picnic. So many left wing dementors in my life raging at the world for being "selfish" when really i have been struggling to cope. The trouble is, telling me how many other people have it worse doesn't actually help me to cope. And dismissing any and every other risk or problem because it doesn't involve a child in icu. When did the world get like this? I have friends whose children genuinely are in and out of icu but they still manage a bit of sympathy for someone else's lesser problem. And Mumsnet would normally be the place to go for people struggling with parenting or relationships or whatever but now it's just a bear pit of dementoring and shaming people for finding a really shit situation, well, really shit.

Adriatic · 25/05/2020 22:16

Lilac please don’t go. You’ve been a voice of sanity round these parts. So much hysteria and fear on some threads but as others have said, the tide is turning.

longestlurkerever · 25/05/2020 22:18

The thing that worries me about yhye Cummings anger, as much as my opinion of the guy has always been low, is that it is giving renewed vigour to the dementoring - calls for hanging and flogging for any bending of the rules to cater for an extreme situation. Ok not Barnard castle eyesight tests, but the "yes of course you should leave your 4 year old unattended in a house of people too sick to care for him. Didn't we all?" business.

longestlurkerever · 25/05/2020 22:19

It's taking the shine off my schadenfreude

RunningNinja79 · 25/05/2020 22:24

I am feeling better for being away from it! I will pop back on to share nice photos only.

So was I. I'm just going to share my runs now or check in places.

I dont have any real close friends, but I would still rather people didn't start with me just because I have different views. I've just set some people to snooze. Much easier. I know that some people do like a good debate though. It's just not me.

justasking111 · 25/05/2020 22:32

Well all you englanders get to shop next month. Gawd only knows when Wales will. I was trying to think what unnecessary shop I would visit first and do you know I could not think of one.

Drivingdownthe101 · 25/05/2020 22:34

justasking111 of all the things I’d like to do, shopping isn’t one of them!

justasking111 · 25/05/2020 22:36

Funny isn`t it I really have not missed the shops, I am a big online user. I would like to go to Cheshire Oaks on my birthday in September though, mind you it is the company I enjoy with family as much as anything when we go.

SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito · 25/05/2020 22:37

I'd like to go shopping, but I want to do it without seeing people with masks. Without 2 metre spots marked on the floor. Without queuing outside. Or following one-way systems once inside. I want to just get in the car and go for a mooch around somewhere. I want this to just be over.

MagdaS · 25/05/2020 22:37

Yeah the idea of standing in a 1.4km queue for a shopping centre does not fill me with great joy.

Drivingdownthe101 · 25/05/2020 22:39

Yeah I’m a big online shopper. I like the occasional mooch but like the others, shopping with masks and queues and arrows on floors really doesn’t do it for me.

CountessFrog · 25/05/2020 22:41

I want to go to John Lewis.

longestlurkerever · 25/05/2020 22:41

I really can't get my head around wandering around nifty gifty while it's still "too dangerous" to visit extended family or open a playground.

AgentCooper · 25/05/2020 22:43

@Sadie789 and @CupCupGoose this is such a strange time for little ones. The way they are being kept from real life is horrible.

My DS is 2.5 and still really struggles with separation anxiety. When me and DH were both off over Christmas for 3 weeks he got so used to us that going back to his grandparents 3 days was a huge struggle. That’s his grandparents who he adores and who he hasn’t gone a few days without seeing since he was born. We had to drop a couple of our toddler groups because he just wouldn’t go in, he was getting so distressed. I kept one group on and after a number of weeks of him crying and screaming he started to enjoy it again (I was always with him and knew how much he had liked it before, so I persevered). He is so attached to me right now and obviously I love him to pieces but he’ll barely even stay with his dad at the moment. I had my first bath in months this evening (I do have daily showers Grin) and after a while he was just screaming for me. I dread what this is going to do to him.

My friend has a 4 month old who hasn’t been held by her grandparents in 2 months now. That’s been horrible for them.

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair sending you a murdery hug. It’s so hard keeping yourself afloat when so much of what sustained us is gone right now. I have had some very dark days since this all started and wondered what effect my mental health could be having on my son. Some days/weeks, the endlessness of this reminds me of mat leave when I had PND. I hope tomorrow is a better day, and we all have lots of better days soon.

Get the dementors away to fuck.