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Anti Dementors Party with Patronii

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LilacTree1 · 21/05/2020 21:46

Are you out there, my lovelies?

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Dowser · 23/05/2020 06:08

Lilac, I’m read almost all the last two threads ( once I realised they weren’t about Harry Potter)
I honestly can’t see what you’ve said or done to anyone that would cause a ban.
Sit tight lovely, you’ve got a lot of support on here
Most of us are here because we need to protect out mental health and our mental health is under threat because our freedom has been taken away.

Mnet is a great site that lets us cuss, swear and rant it out and the mnhq are usually fair.

I’ve had people on here had a good go at me and I’ve just let it whistle past me. I’ve used the same user name for the how many years I’ve been here, 5 maybe?
I have no intention of changing it, so mnhq know it goes on.

You need us as much as we all need support in one another.

Let’s see what happens shall we.
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Big hugs every one.

AgentCooper · 23/05/2020 07:13

@LilacTree1 I’m really sorry about that arsehole. I’m not as active on these threads as others but whenever I see your name I know you’ll be talking sense and being kind. They need to get themself right round to the far side of fuck and not return.

Tonii1985 · 23/05/2020 07:13

I didn't read the thread lilac linked to as it had been deleted by the time I got here but I agree I there's never been anything outside of talk guidelines on here. Also I'm a teacher and havent seen anything 'anti-teacher'. Hope you're OK Lilac!

NewYorkIvy · 23/05/2020 07:20

@Jourdain11 thinking of you, hope you enjoyed your pizza and wine.

@lilactree1 don't let the dickheads get to you. Your posts are refreshing to read and you would be missed.

I've been trolling our class whatsapp, which is full of dementors. Posted this (hope it attaches) then muted. Can't be doing with the doom and gloom

Anti Dementors Party with Patronii
sar302 · 23/05/2020 07:28

I'm glad I found this thread yesterday, as by coincidence I spent the evening on a call to some dear friends, who as it turns out are dementors. The worst thing is I honestly did not see it coming. We've been friends for decades.

They're loving how lockdown is going and how it's given them an excuse to basically extricate themselves from society. Absolutely convinced that life will never be the same and that we need to accept the "new normal", which seems to be basically never dong anything outside the house again. Which is apparently great.

I don't understand how people can give up on their entire lives in the space of two months! They weren't unhappy before. Or hell, maybe they were. I can't imagine anyone who was having a good time before is thrilled by this current arrangement. But where is the fight to get back to proper normal?? Why have people just rolled over? Who loves a world full of fear and dismay and empty of contact with loved ones?

countrygirl99 · 23/05/2020 07:45

Village Facebook page is very dementoish this morning. I'm wondering if DS1s chinese girlfriend was spotted arriving. I've just had a rant and told DH about the people who disinfect and quarantine their shopping. His jaw hit the floor.

DominaShantotto · 23/05/2020 07:47

@Jourdain11 I'm just catching up - thinking of you xx

People mentioned the situation in the north east - I've got a lot of family up there - both me and DH are from up there originally (he's Northumberland and a filthy Geordie, I'm from Sunderland). I think it's just a combination of quite an older population in the case of Sunderland, shitty health and deprivation anyway, the legacy of heavy industry meaning there are still a lot of people around with wrecked lungs from the pits and shipyards etc, and the fact that the whole area's been underfunded to fuck for decades. The fact that in some of the more traditional working class areas everyone's bloody related and in and out of each other's houses like mad as well is also probably something to consider with spreading it around - I know in the village I'm from everybugger knows everyone else - I've not lived there for over 20 years and still get clocked as "x's bairn" the second I drive over the boundary into the area.

I'm probably one of the people who's been most outspokenly "anti-teacher" and it's been "anti-teachers unions behaving like arses" and "anti some of the rhetoric from heads desperately painting schools like some kind of hell hole for children so parents don't send them back" and not anti-teacher in general. I've said before the teaching unions had the perfect chance to get the public right on their side - parents have had a taste of the hell of trying to impart knowledge into their own kids' heads for a couple of months now and realised that lots of their offspring are not the obliging knowledge sponges they once thought they are, but they'd really rather be on Roblox or sticking bunny ears on their heads on messaging filters sending emojiis to their mates than mastering the intricacies of the 8 times table... and they've blown that goodwill and respect getting into a pissing contest with the government over this! The line about spraying our kids with disinfectant was the point where I just thought "fuck you" to the NEU and co.

I don't understand how people can give up on their entire lives in the space of two months! They weren't unhappy before.
For those furloughed and still getting an income without having to work - I think there's still a bit of a Bank Holiday vibe about the whole lockdown thing (especially now they can sunbathe in the park etc). No massive money worries, no work to do, weather's been generally lovely... I can understand that (especially if you've got obliging kids and a supportive school - sit them in front of their ZoomyTeams lessons for the morning, cuppa in the nice big garden - damn this parenting and educating shit is easy) if you're in that kind of situation. I hate Bank Holidays anyway so it's hell for me! If you have younger kids, more challenging kids, kids with SN who really need the support and structure in place school provides - or you just go stir crazy very easily... it's a lot less fun. I think once the work demands ramp up, the furlough fun train starts to derail and the weather turns, people's enthusiasm for this slower pace of life will wane quite fast.

heroku · 23/05/2020 08:00

The lockdown mentality is so strange. I have a friend who lives alone in a flat who hasn't seen any friends or family since March. I've told her about 20 times that she is allowed to see someone in person now but for some reason she's just...not. She keeps saying things like "well I guess this is my life now".

It's as though over the last 9 weeks of isolation she's turned into a full on hermit. And she used to be so sociable.

Orangeblossom78 · 23/05/2020 08:12

Morning.

Times is in good form today

We’re all going on a summer holiday and the government can’t stop us
When it comes to standing between Brits and their fortnight abroad, ministers have started a fight they cannot win

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/were-all-going-on-a-summer-holiday-and-the-government-cant-stop-us-n2225q9xr

Orangeblossom78 · 23/05/2020 08:13

That is a victim mentality heroku. Some people can be like that. It's a shame but they need to change themselves.

Orangeblossom78 · 23/05/2020 08:16

Yes if you loo at the worst hit areas in Scotland you see areas like inner city Glasgow and Inverclyde which has the lowest life expectancy, high drug rates etc

My dad is from one of these areas someone said to me on hearing of the area 'oh and he made it out alive'

See this for more..

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glasgow_effect

MaxNormal · 23/05/2020 08:20

heroku is your friend shielding or anything?

I actually felt panicky last night, like my life is slipping away. This is not how 2020 was meant to look. It started with a full diary for my DH and a move to a different country in July.
His industry has disappeared and we're now going nowhere.

Drivingdownthe101 · 23/05/2020 08:28

Just clicked on that thread @LilacTree1 and it’s been removed as being started by a troll. So don’t go anywhere!!!
No you haven’t been anti teacher at all.

heroku · 23/05/2020 08:32

MaxNormal no not shielding but she is very anxious about catching the virus. I think maybe it is victim mentality like Orangeblossom said. She also made a comment about how seeing someone in person might make her feel worse because then she'd miss it more so she'll just stay as she is. I do worry she might be losing it a little bit.

NewYorkIvy · 23/05/2020 08:40

If anyone saw Have I got news for you last night they talked about how the government did such a good job of making people scared of the virus they are now having trouble getting people to be not scared any more.

There's been some very rational stuff in Private Eye. I might have to subscribe to it again

LivinLaVidaLoki · 23/05/2020 08:40

I know it's a petty thing to be sad about but I should be on my way to the airport now to go visit my friends and family in Greece.
We moved to August and desperately hoping we can go by then.

Orangeblossom78 · 23/05/2020 08:41

More on children's mental health today..and some ideas to support them

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-to-talk-to-children-about-coronavirus-vbbqsn3sn

The crisis is harming youngsters. Be honest with them — but turn off the news

"It’s not surprising parents are reporting an increase among children of nightmares, sleep and behavioural problems, anxiety and eating disorders. Even seeing a parent leave the house wearing gloves and a mask can create long-lasting damage for youngsters...

We should not be surprised to see the next generation struggling to cope with problems such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression, post-traumatic stress and even survivor guilt, thanks to the repeated mantra of “stay home or people will lose their lives”.

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter · 23/05/2020 08:45

Morning, whats going on?

@lilactree1 you arent going anywhere madam! Youre going to stay right here with us!

@Jourdain11 how are you feeling this morning?

I'm disgusted by the way our children have been thrown under the bus during this pandemic. We really have sacrificed our young generation for the old.

LivinLaVidaLoki · 23/05/2020 08:45

@NewYorkIvy and they are still at it.
I caught Patrick Valance on tv last night constantly referring to it as "this deadly virus" ffs.
Its only deadly for a small amount of people!!!!

littlbrowndog · 23/05/2020 08:46

Lilac. Just ignore the troll. Mumsnet were really clear it was a troll

You are a 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy · 23/05/2020 08:53

@Jourdain11 I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all this. It must be awful at any time but without the support and hugs that make the worse things tolerable it must be horrendous. Is there any way your Dh could be tested, isolate until results then at least you could get some proper hugs without worrying?

Nighttimefreedom · 23/05/2020 08:57

Wrt those who are loving the slower pace of life of lockdown, they are free to carry on after its lifted.
I for one was already quite capable of deciding how I wanted my life to be and living accordingly.
I never felt the need to join in out of fomo, and didn't overstretch myself with kids clubs, accepting every party invite going, every work night out.
So those social things I did have going on, were those I really wanted or valued. And I'd like them back please.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 23/05/2020 09:04

Morning all. Just caught up on the thread.

Flowers to you Jourdain and a great big Somerset bear hug.

As for you Lilac Get your arse back here, the troll has been sent back under the bridge you've done nothing wrong. Hold your head up high, your middle finger higher and come out fighting...we've got your back.

TheGreatWave · 23/05/2020 09:05

lilac please stay, you are getting a lot of support on here and I worry that you won't have that elsewhere.

The fact that in some of the more traditional working class areas everyone's bloody related and in and out of each other's houses like mad

Where I used to live is a little like this, when my eldest started school it was amazing how many were all related to each other.

Orangeblossom78 · 23/05/2020 09:08

www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/news/two-in-three-of-us-have-put-on-weight-in-lockdown-5snj7pspf

Two in three of us have put on weight under lockdown and one in ten more than a stone

Meaning lockdown making more people more vulnerable to the virus Hmm