Anti Dementors picnic at the Loch.

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Starting a new one.

@TrustTheGeneGenie I think you are me. I am very stressed and I know why its the lack of control over my own life!

@BakewellTarts

am ready to rebel. I can't be alone.

Definitely not alone. I'm prepared to give it til a week Sunday, then I'm having DP round.

I'm a natural rebel. So I've rebelled. On the DP thing.

I'm obeying everything else though.

Yep @BakewellTarts exactly that!!

I've weighed up the risks. I'm not a wanker.

I'm feeling it this week. As much as I love DH and the DCs, I need some real conversation that revolves around more than Covid 19, the refrigeration industry, minecraft, pokemon, and WW2/ the Cold War/ nuclear attack. I just feel empty this week. I'm missing my own space at home after 10 weeks (DH started WFM about 10 days early) and I miss varied company.

My long run this morning helped for much of the day, but the quiet, empty mood is back this evening.

I'm not sure if a change of scenery would help, and I CBA with crowd dodging anywhere popular. Local is good to just get on with being genuinely alone.

I’m naturally law abiding and very risk averse but I’ve got to the “fuck this shit - it's just total bullshit”.

This is my 10th week wfh too. I completely get where you are coming from @BogRollBOGOF my life is one day being exactly the same as the next, its so monotonous.

@BogRollBOGOF you said something earlier on a different thread about how your child is struggling with “school” space and “home” space becoming one and the same, and I wanted to thank you because it perfectly explains one of the reasons why my DS is finding it so hard, and I haven’t been able to put it into words myself. Also, I promise I’m not stalking you. It just stuck in my head

A lovely friend stopped by on her walk today, and we stood (apart) on the front path and chatted while our children drew on the pavement with chalk. She is not keen to send her children back to school anytime soon, while I am. Yet we managed to remain respectful and understanding of each other’s opinions (looks like none of them will be going back anyway...). Hooray!

I went out with my 11 year old this evening and met my friend for a walk. We tried to SD but it didnt always go to plan as we walked on narrow paths where we had people coming the other way, but it was glorious.

Downside, I'm now dying a slow and painful death by hayfever but was totally worth it.

I dont mind SD, but to a point. I'll SD in shops and with strangers, but my friends and family who I know are clean, hygienic people i want to hug.

Bark and cheese
Yes durophat is made by Colgate.
Is it 500 or 5000 ppm
I’ll need to check

Max “ Germany, whose approach the Dementors all love, never stopped people sitting in the sun.”

I found that MN Dementors had no idea Germany allowed this.

Seaham front is beautiful, pickachew, I love the wide sweep of the bay and the cliffs
Perfect for watching orcas lol
I’ve only ever seen them in sea world in Florida
Once I saw the film blackfish, I never went back to sea world.
Today has been a gladden your heart kind of day.
Lovely to see my only granddaughter
Only 10 but has all her buttons sewn on.
It just shows how important interactions with family members is. I wasn’t bothered about going out but sat in the sunshine with Dh, daughter and two grandchildren made my day
It felt like normal.
We did go out..for food shopping and orca hunting..So that was just a bit extra.

I was such a good girl at school I seem to have made up for it in later years.

But obviously we are so much worse at sitting in the sun than the Germans, as we are British! Our sun sitting is obviously far less safe than theirs!

Yes the working from home is hard going, we have at least another 6 weeks and I am guessing then a possibility of part office part home. The office has air conditioning and that is a pretty bad germ distributor at the best of times.

I've just had DS(7) downstairs feeling sad because he misses his friends and we've just had a sad hug together. I told him I'm missing mine too.

I need to text our classmate neighbour and sort out some football in the park. They were fine with the principle when we suggested it during last week's clap.

Funnily, I was DS2's age when we moved house halfway across the country just before the end of the school year. I failed to settle in to the last few weeks of y2 (not helped by a total bitch of a teacher*) then it was the 6 week holiday, so I had no friends for a couple of months.

*the teacher really was a total bitch. Many years later I got to read through my school records and she had to write reports the day after I started, and she started mine with "Although Bogroll had only been in the class for a day" followed by a string of really negative comments. She made no effort to give me a buddy, sit me on an appropriate table with any natural companions, I was set on by bullies within days resulting in being pinned down amd my pants pulled down (fortunately DM caught them at it and threatened to set the dog on them) and then I faced total humiliation in the skipping race on sports day because I couldn't skip and got sent back in front of the entire school to collect the rope that I ditched after being left miles behind and stomping off to the finish line after everyone else skipped to the end.

We don't seem to do well with the summer of y2... for DS1, it was the SATs pressure and 4 hour meltdown, and general months of meltdowns that resulted in referral and diagnosis of ASD.

My husband has taken the day off tomorrow so we can go to the beach. But having read the beach thread I'm wondering if we shouldnt?

The beach is 30 minutes from our home, the toilets and car parks are open according to their Facebook page. The council havent put anything up asking people to "stay away" and it's not a touristy beach - nobody will be travelling hours to get there. I thought maybe if we went early morning we could get a bit of time before it gets heaving. Do you think that's OK?

Can I join? I have read all the threads but very rarely post. I have fucking had it. I'm in Scotland 🙈 week 9 of absolutely nothing here!!

Took my 6 year old to her friends garden today. She said to me when going to bed, thanks mum for breaking the rules, I really needed that. What the fuck she's 6 I cannot comprehend why she should even say things like that! She's been such a good sport and done better than me in lockdown but my heart broke. I have a one year old as well and quite frankly miss my childminder more than my family members 😂

These threads have given me hope. I am not a nutcase who is thinking what are we doing!

I just had a really sad message from a work colleague in Dubai. His youngest daughter is in her final year of a PhD in the UK and is stranded here. All the people she knows have gone home, no facty contact, even the library is closed.
He asked if I could just give her a phone call as she's so lonely.

Faculty

Dolly Welcome

Rhyming I would go early on, if it stays quiet you have all day and if not you have still seen the beach.

Bloody hell weeds that is just so sad, I hope you manage to make contact with her.

@rhymingrabbit3 I'd go. We had a massive outbreak of dementoring here when the beach kiosk opened. I've been twice and theres been a steady stream of people turning up to buy chips or ice cream then wandering off to eat it at a distance. No public toilets but no shiting on the beaches (or landing grounds, fields or streets for that matter).

Top tip: if you can, sit somewhere that isn't overlooked by houses. It feels less like you'll be tutted at, somehow.

@Weedsnseeds1 that's awful. Whereabouts is she? There must be local groups she can join to make friends and feel less lonely, loads of places here are doing online activities. Although I guess she'll just want to go home more than anything.

@Weedsnseeds1 that’s dreadful. Her supervisors should at least still be in touch, that’s terrible dereliction of duty if not.

I work at a university (in admin) and still check emails though I’m furloughed for childcare. Stupid dementory email saying many staff will continue to work from home into the 2020-21 term to ensure there’s room on campus for essential workers and students. I can’t wfh for the foreseeable, my mental health will be fucked. I only work 3 days but those days are a lifeline, getting me out of the house. I hope they can be sensible and give us some say in this.