Despicable Anti Dementors

[Mascotte]

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there are a lot of officious arseholes around

Aren't there just! I'm just anticipating the swathes of mean spirited posts on the 'local' FB coronavirus page tomorrow moaning about pestilent city dwellers infecting their wonderful, pristine area.

Aye - that's the area that pretty much relies on tourism to survive. Don't bite the hand that feeds you people...

On second thoughts, I think I'll just stay away from FB. It's dementor city.

Had a shit day not posted for a while. Booked a Tesco click and collect last week I'm pregnant so won't go the shops with my seven year old who's convinced the virus is all around us and now has anxiety about leaving the house
So I get to the click and collect and yes I got the wrong flipping day it's actually booked for two weeks ffs! How I got it wrong I don't know I've ran out of food , bread , squash literally everything.
My son had his heart set on the ice cream I promised him all day from my shop so I stopped at the little Tesco express to get his ice cream for him to be crying the whole time that were going to get the virus mommy hurry up hurry up whilst crying with everyone staring at us.
I had no mask or hand sanitiser it was a needs must trip as I didn't even have milk left.
So now I'm thinking Sunday dinner is beans on toast and when can we go back to normal when can the kids go back to school and how do people home school it's so hard

I went to B&M today to look for a springform cake tin. I have one, but it's huge and I wanted a smaller one.
They only had teeny heart shaped ones.
So I went to Waitrose. They didn't have any.
So I went to The Range. They didn't have a springform one, but did have a loose bottom cake tin. That'll do.
Then rwalused I forgot to but vodka, so stopped off at the Coop.
I didn't go near, lick or cough on anyone.
Yet people are dead. Because of me. Apparently.
That peak in the West Country. That was me.

'The number of MNers who thrive in miserable winter weather, getting all cosy with box sets and "hot choc" mystifies me.'

I quite like autumn weather and dark cosy evenings. But it's only welcome after a lovely spring and lively summer. It'll be a bit different this year especially with a lot
of people's vitamin D levels dropping with not getting out over the summer months.

I've just caught up and I think that there is a huge amount of good in these threads.

My heart is with the many of you who have been through the hell of dementia care or similar. I do believe that somewhere along the way 'we' ( ie uk, not sure about other countries) seem to have chosen to prolong existence over life. I was thinking of my own family history. I am early 40s. Just on one side of my family, in my grandparents' generation, both individuals were from families of 6. Within those families (not inc partners) the vast majority died before age 75. This was seen as nature, not unusual. My own parents died in late 60s/early 70s. In my dm's case she had suffered from auto immune illness and recurrent chest infection. It was a relief when she passed in her sleep. It might have been 'before her time' in years, but I was really relieved that she was no longer in pain. My dad's death was very sudden, and he was relatively fit and healthy. Everyone said it was 'no age to go'. But I know he would have hated to be 'old'. I still believe they both had 'good deaths'.

Someone a few threads back (!!) made a point that people who have experienced 'death' seem to be more pragmatic about it. I totally agree with this. I am not some heartless arse, uncaring about the old and vulnerable. But care needs to be taken regarding what an individual's wants and feelings are, as well as that of their family. It cannot simply be 'keep them existing' surely.

I think I may have murdered my whole town. My best friend came my house today. Inside. And I let them drink tea, and hug my dcs (and me). Because both of us were fucking desperate to, not just speak to each other, but to do so in the physical presence of the other. Because it can make a world of difference. We have both been feeling really low and this improved our mood hugely. And my dcs really enjoyed it. We both feel like we can carry on a bit more now. Which in turn probably improves my parenting as well as my sanity. I am considering renaming myself "fartingoftheapocalypse".

Ahh, maria I'm so sorry. Your poor wee boy. What a bloody shame. for you and 🍦 for your boy.

@ilovecardigans thanks so much he's got suspected ASD and ADHD diagnosed and he listens to everything and fixates on things and becomes obsessed.
He gets so upset even walking the dog now because he thinks he's going to get the virus and die it's such a shame. I keep reassuring him but nothing works at the moment.
So I'm wondering what I'm going to actually do to get food tomorrow now as I can't take him.
I'm sick of social media and people repeating the same stuff 'I'm not sending my kids''they won't be an experiment' 'they can fine me for all I care..
Non of us care I'm literally just fighting to get through the days and home schooling a child with extra needs is terrible he has meltdowns cries and everyday is shit.
I have cut it right down we're both to stressed for it. I just want this over

I love these threads (although struggle to keep up). Today I met a friend and we went for a 1.5 hour walk. I thought I knew the area quite well but she showed me some little bits that I’d never seen before. Turns out that the village over from us has an 18th century pound - I never knew.

I've been struggling a lot the last few days. Keep thinking about school potentially taking ages to get back to normal and worried that I'll eventually lose my job as a result of all this shit - not an immediate concern but I don't know what the longer term effects will be. I LOVE my job, I'd be devastated if I was made redundant. I'm so anxious about the future

And I really wanted to meet some of my friends this week now that we can - I haven't seen anyone I know in 8 weeks, except for about two minutes when I took stuff round to one of my friends who was self-isolating - but one of the people I've asked is too busy with work (fair enough) and about half don't want to because they think it's too early for the restrictions to be loosened. Their choice and I'm not going to pressure them into it, but it's frustrating because we're all under 35 with no health concerns, and most of us are pretty sure we've already had it. My friends who would happily meet up (and maybe even give me an illegal hug) live too far away and none of us drive, and my parents live on the other side of the country. Between this and the schools maybe not re-opening I'm starting to feel like I'm completely alone with no end in sight.

However, yesterday my next door neighbours (who I don't know at all, not even their names!) knocked on my door to ask if I wanted to play with their new puppy And a little toddler in the park earlier ran over to where I was sitting and gave me a leaf as a 'present' - her dad was very embarrassed but I assured him it was fine It wasn't enough to lift the darkness really, but still nice to know there are nice people around.

maria have you got anyone who could do some shopping for you and drop it at your door? If not, maybe someone on here might be able to help. I absolutely would if I could. I'm 60 miles north of Newcastle upon Tyne if that helps.

I'm so sad your son is struggling at the moment. I wish I had some meaningful advice to offer, but I'm a clueless old fart in that respect. Sending you strength and wishing you peace.

Ah Maria that is hard. There are quite a lot of resources for kids with visuals that explain coronavirus and help not make to so scary for kids maybe something like that might help him?

My youngest has ASD and was crying for school today. Thankfully his older siblings saw he was struggling and made an effort to play with him more today.

He also said he cannot touch dirt as he might get coronavirus, he knows about germs and dirt, so I guess this is how he relates to what he overhears us talking about as we don't really expose the kids to the news.

Big thread about Guardian article on mental health in Corona topic tonight getting lots of counter dementing. At work today everyone was very much in favour of schools going back.

Omg I just got fb demented. I just happened to mention that I found the report on piers corbyn a bit disturbing. (Refused to give official I'd when asked, got taken away)....
I was saying that this happened to my son in london the other day ...standing doing nothing, got asked for official I'd. .told the cop we didn't live in Germany or France and was therefore not obliged to carry I'd. .cop went off because this was correct....

Next thing we are being called 'CUNTS. .ARSEHOLES.....that I should beat my son...that he probably 'abused supermarket workers ' and that he was 'the evil spawn of my crotch' and that the NHS should deny him treatment. .

Jesus I know it was fb...but I have never heard anything like it...

Obviously I wouldn't support him if he had been up to no good btw

It was like bingo honestly. In just a a few comments we had 'nhs' 'rules' 'key workers' .my husband is in the met'.....blah blah. ..I was just chatting fgs

@Destroyedpeople I don’t understand how people think it’s ok to abuse you like that. It’s why it’s so hard to speak out, but then people think that this level of panic is normal. Until I found this thread I thought I was alone thinking that this whole thing has gone too far. The police and cps have overreached in school many cases and every case under the coronavirus act has been wrongly charged but it’s all fine because of a virus. I’m m sorry but we need the rule of law as much in a crisis as any other time www.google.co.uk/amp/s/news.sky.com/story/amp/coronavirus-dozens-wrongly-charged-under-lockdown-laws-cps-says-11988865

Thanks for that Wales x..it was the way they piled in shouting 'cunt' and 'rules'...and 'teach your son some respect by knocking him round the head with a plank'......

There us no 'rule' saying that you have to carry I'd and produce it on demand....I have stayed in countries where this is the case..but it wasn't the UK. ..

Wales has gone crazy hasn't it? Waves.
..

Btw I watched a dyfed Powys cop fine some poor addict for being out a few weeks ago. Poor girl had the whole street watching. .we were that bored. .
Why give an addict a 60 quid fine. ..that's not going to work is it....

Dammit, I've woken up early again. My brain seems to be on hyper alert so that even if I'm exhausted and go to bed late I snap awake by 6.30 as if a fire alarm is going off.

Sympathies, psychomath, I feel very much like you, and my parents are also on the other side of the country, and shielding. I don't want to tell them how low I'm feeling as it will just burden them when they've got enough on their plates. My anxiety has skyrocketed since the whole schools argument started in earnest. I think my hopes were raised by the possible 1 June announcement and things just look worse now that outcry against it has been so vehement. It seems like so many people would be happyfor them never to go back?! I just don't get that.

I need to find a way to disengage from it all, as I'm getting so so stressed and finding it hard to focus on anything else. It's not healthy. I don't do well with situations I can't control, can you tell

Morning

Bastard dog woke me up at 5am. She’s now snoring her head off on the couch and I’m wide awake scraping the barrel of TV

The “stay the fuck at home” brigade have started up again on my FB. I’m going to have no friends left on there at this rate.

I’m seeing a different side to friends I always thought were pretty sane and sensible. Someone losing their shit because a man was standing next to the baskets in the co-op. Just ask him to move FFS.

I feel the same @KateTheShrew I think Boris' speech actually made me think ooh a light at the end of the tunnel. Schools opening in June and shops in July.. that's not too bad I can cope with that.

And then the outcry came. And I feel like schools might never open. Maybe not even in September. And then wtf do I do? We need two full time wages.

And then I see comments like " things won't be normal until December 2021 " I mean ffs!!

Just jumping back a bit as I want to say to @pickachew that I love dirham. Sitting by the river having a pint, maybe a row. I'm in Gateshead, we're lucky to as our bit is near the park and walking easy access to lots of green and countryside.

A friend lives in Sunderland and told me one part is so deprived it got UN support as it was in the top 10% of poverty globally (worked in social work type arena). I haven't been able to verify it, but experience doesn't lead me to disbelieve.

@Springersrock
Me too! People I always thought were rational and tolerant are now like the neighbourhood stasi, making out I'm a murderer for going out for non essentials or that all our kids are doomed if they go back in June. Its really opened my eyes.

Morning deplorables. I went on a murdershop to Home Bargains yesterday with my little disease vector. (I have taken to calling him that in public now, it makes him laugh a LOT.) Had a delightful chat with the man on the check out, mostly about squirting cats up the bum with a Super Soaker and 1970s Saturday night TV.
I suspect a lot of the Dementors will fade out of existence - like the ones in HP I think? - when they are forced to engage with reality and the fact that the Apocalypse has not materialised. It was very normal in HBs. They had cleaning products and hair dye and painkillers, and there was only one person scuttling round in a mask and gloves and she was a customer...

On the news that Italy are lifting travel restrictions....its a dementors wet dream.
"Cant believe they are putting the economy first, even before human health"
Do they just not get that with no economy there is no health. Economically disadvantaged people generally have longer term poorer health outcomes.

We're going to murder loads of people today. Me , DH, the kids and the dog are going to drive up the coast, find a naughty spot to park, and walk by the sea together. I can't wait.

All the FB mums saying that they will homeschool indefinitely, implying I'm risking my kids dying by saying I'll send them in. What I WANT to say but haven't posted is:

"They're not coping. I'm not coping. I need them in school and they need to be in school and see people other than us. Also, school need to ease back in. They need to do this in stages, You may be happy to miss "just up to summer hols" but that would mean slow stages in sept. Bet you'd be ranting about your kids not getting an education come September if they started the process then. Schools need to knows their new plans work and have the opportunity to tweak them. Yes the kids going in are an experiment, for the schools. It's not a government conspiracy. Kids remain at lowest risk from the disease, vanishingly small.

Speaking of risk, if they go, and if someone has symptoms, and if they happen to get it, they might get ill, and they may end up hospitalised, and they might die, again, minuscule. But every time we get in a car we may be in an accident, every time we walk outside a dog might attack them, every time they get hurt it may get infected and in theory could give them sepsis. Living life with risk is inherently human. Trying to hide from risk totally and long term is inhuman"

So sorry that's long. I so desperately needed to get that off my chest!