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Despicable Anti Dementors

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Mascotte · 15/05/2020 20:41

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Drivingdownthe101 · 16/05/2020 10:53

I’ve got a gardener round today sorting our garden. Am I killing him, or me, I wonder? He seems fairly happy to be working anyway. Even made him a coffee. 3 sugars. That’s probably more likely to kill him than covid!

Orangeblossom78 · 16/05/2020 10:56

Finding the reporting on the Dutch quite entertaining. (have family there)
Vic there saying they could have 'sex buddies' but to check they don't have a cough first.

Also how they are doing restaurants in pod things...and meetings in care homes..

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-52685773

www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/world-europe-52589041/coronavirus-dutch-care-home-reunites-families-in-a-glass-pod

Drivingdownthe101 · 16/05/2020 10:57

Haha yes I saw the ‘sex buddy’ thing.

Orangeblossom78 · 16/05/2020 10:58

and Trump I find a bit of a worry...to say the least..

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-52685487

Orangeblossom78 · 16/05/2020 11:01

I thought the care home glass panel idea was quite good, better than seeing elderly relatives outside in a public place where they might be scared for example if they had dementia.

DominaShantotto · 16/05/2020 11:09

Dh wants us to lock back down again. Considering divorce

Shodan · 16/05/2020 11:10

I want to see my sex buddy (aka DP) It's been so long now I think I've forgotten what to do...

You gotta love the Dutch Grin

heroku · 16/05/2020 11:11

Anyone who says otherwise clearly hasn't seen what dementia does to a person.

This is so true. GFIL died last year of pneumonia In his late 80s. He was unwell for a couple of days and then passed away peacefully with family around him. GMIL has now been locked in a room in a care home on her own for 5 weeks with advanced dementia.

Sometimes I feel like I'm going mad. None of this makes any sense and everyone I speak to just says things like "well better to be safe than sorry". Like they're too afraid to actually engage their brains and think about this.

Thank you all for helping me maintain an (albeit loose) grip on my sanity.

DominaShantotto · 16/05/2020 11:15

I have a Costa. They have a kind of drop bucket they put the drink into and then lower down to your car window and wipe the bucket between customers. Masks and gloves for all staff.

I’ve probably killed a small village

Orangeblossom78 · 16/05/2020 11:17

My Granny died in her 80s with dementia in a care home after catching viral pneumonia. (years ago) yes it was a relief in a way for her at the time. I was just a little girl but heard from family

Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy · 16/05/2020 11:17

FFS. Just been told my daughter isn't really sad about not seeing her friends, it's probably something else. I don't know what to say to that. As she was fine before lockdown and I ask her how she's doing I'm pretty sure she's upset because she's missing her friends

Mascotte · 16/05/2020 11:19

Fellow Scots! There's another inspiring video, no poem this time, but heart warming montage to show they understand how hard it is yo be a parent just now..

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Orangeblossom78 · 16/05/2020 11:19

Heroic that is a awful about your mum. Is this the decision of the care home I wonder. I suppose it is also about lack of capacity / decision making. The shielding guidance says if someone has terminal illness they have the choice to follow it or not. I think it is wrong, but sounds very hard to change.

Orangeblossom78 · 16/05/2020 11:20

Oh please share

RunningNinja79 · 16/05/2020 11:20

You lot can talk can't you.

Was half way through reading the thread before posting so I didn't repeat anything. Then I clicked onto the next page and there are more than before. So I'm posting anyway. Apologies if I miss or repeat anything. I will post again once I am caught up.

While I was getting ready this morning to go on my murder spree virtual parkrun there was an interview on the BBC with someone from the teachers union and someone else (I was only half watching due to getting ready to go out and also trying not to pay too much attention so I could remain calm), Anyway the interviewer said that a head from a disadvantaged school said that 65% of the parents were happy to send their children back in June. I would assume that within the other 35% there would be some that will have underlying health concerns, but would still not be worried about others sending them back. I thought that was positive.

This whole debate about if children should go back or not has taken over from the whole BF Vs FF debate.

I also have a theory. When we were all voting in the EU referendum all I saw was we must stay in the EU, we are all doomed if we vote to leave. However leave won. Then last November for the last election I just saw everywhere how we will ruin our country if we vote conservative. However, we Tories got into power. Therefore, I have come to the conclusion that as all I'm seeing is that we're all doomed if we lift lockdown too much so most people are wanting to lift more restrictions. We are just being quiet about it as we're fed up of being shouted down.

I'm feeling a little bit more positive today, but I think that's due to the sun shining, I've been for my run and we have a takeaway and beer planned for tonight. I still can't see an end to all this, its going to last a lot longer than I want it to and I dont feel mentally prepared enough to go back onto facebook. I do feel a bit happier though. Thinking of going for a walk this afternoon to enjoy the great outdoors again.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 16/05/2020 11:21

People on my FB are almost strumming one out in delight that the R number has risen to 0.7-1.0

But what they don't understand is that the R number is related to prevalence of infection so if there's a low prevalence then a high R number doesn't matter because the chances of meeting someone with the infection is low.

I think Chris Whitty said something like that as well.....

MrsWombat · 16/05/2020 11:22

We have an elderly relative who lives by the sea. She has support locally so we were in no rush to go down and see her when there were travel restrictions but now we can travel we would like to go and see her and visit the sea front whilst we are there. I've been nosing around the local facebook pages and there's an idiot who claims to work for the local council saying that everything is closed, no toilets open etc. Thankfully there are other people saying they are open and just be sensible and avoid the crowds and queues. I'm very much looking forward to using my national trust membership on a car park somewhere over the half term holiday too.

Mascotte · 16/05/2020 11:22

@Orangeblossom78 and everyone, I'm sure this will help..
mobile.twitter.com/scotgov/status/1261589751250944001

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Spudlet · 16/05/2020 11:24

It’s the memes on Facebook about ‘Dogs say they think we’re hard to train, humans can’t even sit and stay’ and ‘You’re only being asked to stay at home, it’s not hard’ that anger me. Please, someone come and tell my 4yo DS who received an autism diagnosis just a few days before lockdown how having had his little world upended with neither notice nor explanation ‘isn’t that hard’. Explain to him why we can’t go to the playground, or to preschool ‘to see the boys’, or to the toy shop to look at Lego. I’m not saying that’s the worst thing ever, look at how awful it is - I recognise that things could be a lot worse for us. But the complete refusal to even acknowledge that it’s bloody hard on him and many like him really makes me angry.

BirdieFriendReturns · 16/05/2020 11:26

I’ve had a Starbucks twice in two days! The store I went to yesterday was on a business park. The place was practically deserted and I was the only customer in Starbucks.

PickAChew · 16/05/2020 11:27

I'm very much in the grey area. I have as little time for the OHMYGOD! CIVIL LIBERTIES! MASSIVE CONSPIRACY! hysteria as the OHMYGOD! WE ARE ALL GOING TO DIE OF THIS! hysteria.

I do think an initial lockdown was the right thing to do while we got our collective arses in gear but we can't just hide from it forever and do have to take other issues into account like people's physical and mental health and financial security and black and white thinkers conveniently ignore these issues or pretend that they are frivolous concerns.

Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy · 16/05/2020 11:28

@Spudlet It is so hard and the longer it goes on the harder it is. We have done our bit now and the government needs to step up and start releasing the lockdown and giving some proper thought to children's mental health and safeguarding. Letting children play outside would be a massive help. I'm sorry your little boy is suffering

Mascotte · 16/05/2020 11:30

I find it really difficult to see my child suffering and be powerless to help. And the dismissive attitude to children doesn't help.

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TheAnswerTo · 16/05/2020 11:31

Long-time lurker here building up the courage to post.

I'm a "grey" - but crucially can appreciate others' viewpoints. Most dementors cannot, and this is the problem. If you express a dissenting view, you "don't care if older people/HCPs/kids die".

I think it's very dangerous for people to bandy about this "new normal" stuff. To people at rock bottom, how will "this is life now, it'll never get better" make them feel? What if they think "it's not worth living"? I'd love "new normal" to be consigned to the bin.

Along with "it's not hard". It may not be for some, but if that's really true, then they are making less of a sacrifice than those finding it hellish. Yet they seem to think it makes them more noble or selfless.

Dementors aren't those who have different views on how to get out of lockdown. They're the ones posting judgy stuff, constantly hectoring STAY THE FUCK AT HOME at people who already are doing, making people feel bad for doing stuff within the rules because of their overzealous interpretation (shopping if you're not down to your last bean, buying non-essential chocolate or wine at a weekly shop, getting a takeaway delivered, going for a walk outside because it's not "life or death"), posting every story about rising infection rates with near-glee, suggesting if you don't want to stay in your house in lockdown forever, you want people to die/hate spending time with your own kids/are selfish/only care about money/want to stab nurses in the back/have no resilience. The ones making me feel shit every time I log on to FB.

I don't think it splits along political lines either - I don't like the idea that it will, as it encourages an us v them mentality and black and white thinking. I'm not right-wing or pro-Brexit, but I don't think a huge recession doesn't matter, or that the economic fallout is no big deal. These things all affect people's lives. I do see a correlation between the gobbiest people on both sides of the political debate, and dementors now.

thesuninsagittarius · 16/05/2020 11:32

I think lockdown should be lifted NOW, restrictions should be lifted NOW. People should be told the truth about this virus, and have it explained to them (by someone on the telly they will listen to) that the mental health and economic fall out caused by locking everyone down is far greater than the risk of getting this thing, and actually dying from it if you do. Like a PP I don't want 'new normal' (don't people just love parroting that phrase?) I want normal normal. This normal is shit. Some people will get the virus, some people will die, which is exactly what happens in a flu pandemic?
We need to stop thinking everything can be fixed. Illness happens, death happens, it used to be part of life. The NHS isn't going to be 'overwhelmed'. The govt. only flapped about it being 'overwhelmed' because they've been systematically running it into the ground for years. Which feels a bit like 'let's frighten people to death and lie about how bad things will be so no one notices what a shit govt. we are.'
When did people lose the ability to think critically and assess risk? When did they become so obedient and happy to turn on each other?
Sorry, I'm ranting. But I'm pissed off that hypochondriacs and the 'worried well' think that because they are too scared to step outside, then no one else should either. Really fucking fucked off actually.

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