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Evening all.

I allowed DD to play with the neighbour’s two children on the communal patio today. I genuinely feel guilty about it but she hasn’t interacted in person with another child for seven weeks and I’m frightened for her mental health. The police can fine me, I don’t care.

Children are just an afterthought in all this and god knows what the fallout will be.

heroku wow. How close?

I’d definitely go NC for less, but that’s me.

I can’t imagine having a full on dementor family member.

Bookworm “ Children are just an afterthought in all this and god knows what the fallout will be”

I think you did the right thing. You know how long kids were locked up in Spain? I have a friend there, her toddler is now scared to go out because “the virus hasn’t gone away”.

I'm feeling down this evening.

A minor sleb did an insta post asking whether people would be happy sending their kids back to school.

Every single response said no.

I chose to respond saying I obviously was not as privileged as the rest of the posters because unfortunately we need 2 incomes in order to live and, if ds' nursery doesn't open soon (ie before furlough ends) then we will likely lose out house.

It's got me feeling like we don't matter. We are just collateral damage. Like it's our own stupid fault for "needing" 2 wages. Like we don't deserve to keep our house.

I actually feel quite... I can't even think of the bloody word. Just not good enough I guess

@TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair a protective arm around you and my patronus ready to protect you. We will (virtually) sit in your garden

I know Lilac - at least my child can go outside. I can’t imagine what it must have been like for kids in Spain.

@trustthegeniegenie

Oh fck them!

Every single person I know in real life is desperate for their kids to go back and not because they dont like spending time with their kids! Its mainly because theyre worried about their kids education, their mental health, and the fact its virtually impossible to home school and work from home at the same time. You arent alone! Mine want to go back to see their friends and I dont blame them one bit.

So this is where all the sensible people have been hiding, sorry I mean MURDERERS

Just read through the last thread and it has really cheered me up. It’s nice to know that there are some likeminded (sane) people online. Twitter on the other hand...

Thank you Alexis and Tappering.

I've just deleted my FB tonight. I've needed to for years and it feels so good!! That will help a lot. Some of my closest friends there who are generally sensible, intelligent sorts are full of 'easing lockdown in any way will lead to people DYING and you can't possibly support that happening.' It's left me feeling pretty alone and it's hard holding a position that other people think only selfish people hold. So, meh. Fuck 'em. I am going to sit here and only talk to people with the same views as me as that's definitely the way forward in life

Could you arrange to meet them in a local park for a walk? you can do that whilst distancing and talk as you walk. Might be worth suggesting it.

She doesn't feel able to, sadly. She has a business (a lovely local bakery) which relies on the local community supporting it and she is worried about its future if people are shaming her. I completely understand her reasoning. Things will be tough enough in the coming months. We will meet up once things ease a bit and the local Stasi have lost a bit of their power. I am so looking forward to giving her a proper hug!

Anyway thank you for your kindness. I think luckily more and more people are coming round to this way of thinking (murdering bastards that we are). That does comfort me.

I saw a Water Aid tv ad today, the figures it quoted really made me think (something like a child dies from drinking dirty water every two minutes). Covid is awful and scary yes but it’s only unpalatable as it’s on our doorstep, this shit is happening every day and it’s really showing some people up for why they are, arseholes basically.

@TrustTheGeneGenie not good enough? Hell yes you are. Feck 'um.

Hello again

Thanks @AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter it's nice to know I'm not the only one.

Ds seriously misses his friends too and they all start different schools in September. I don't want him to miss out on his last week's with them. I also don't want him to lose his home.

Thank you @SummerHouse

I know I sound all woe is me but Its just all got a bit on top of me today :(

Thank you summerhouse. For a bunch of murderers you're all surprisingly lovely! I wish you could come and sit in my garden for real.

It's got me feeling like we don't matter. We are just collateral damage. Like it's our own stupid fault for "needing" 2 wages. Like we don't deserve to keep our house

So sorry. You absolutely do matter. So many people are in your shoes too and will be hit hard by this. It just doesn't seem to have occurred to many of them. It is hard reading about the many children who are struggling with this situation. It's so unnatural. Humans are social creatures.

Every single response said no

Probably what happened is that a couple of dementory people said no and everyone else felt they should follow suit.

The people who think yes don't respond, because they'll be accused of wanting their children and the teachers to die!

Apparently, one of DH's colleagues said schools going back in 3 weeks would "literally be like giving us all a death sentence"

(He just corrected me: "literally like telling us all we've got three weeks to live", apparently.)

Thanks everyone

I hope you're all right.

I don't understand the terror though?

The death rate for young healthy people is tiny. Even tinier for children.

I totally understand not sending back kids with underlying conditions or shielding kids or parents but....

I don't understand why people are so scared and then it makes me wonder whether it's me that's got it all wrong

@TrustTheGeneGenie YANBU - not even slightly. There are lots of people arguing about not wanting to go back to work/school/everyday life until such time as there is a vaccine. I suspect it will only be a few weeks until we get the first wave of threads blaming employers for making them redundant or sacking them for refusing to go back to work, despite the fact that they aren't in the 'shielding' cohort.

The Costa thread should get some kind of award, the Mumsnet against Dementors Most ridiculous thread of 2020, a sort of Oscars for talking absolute shit.

Hello new thread!

Absolutely agree that people said no because they didn’t want to break ranks, especially as the poll was being run by a minor sleb. There’s a ton of social experiments showing how people don’t like to differ from the group. It’ll be a different tune when the schools actually do go back, people won’t like the idea of their children not getting something others are and all but the most extreme dementors will be sending their children in.

TrusttheGeneGenie. Have an unmumnetty hug. I've come to the conclusion that a lot if people who want/need schools to open are keeping quiet to avoid the aggro.