Dementors can dement but we'll keep it positive here

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Pink, sounds good!!
So many holidays down the pan :(
I hate this virus.

Re the Diamond Princess, I saw soooo many people at the time (when it was still the most reliable source of data because hardly anyone outside China was being tested) saying we couldn't assume anything from the low death rate on board because only healthy people go on cruises Completely ignoring the fact that the median passenger age on the average cruise ship is about 103.

There's a Pathologically Cheerful Dementor somewhere near my neighbourhood... there's a very pleasant off road trail, and they've littered it with cutesy, vomity, "inspirational" sayings that have been printed and laminated.

It's been really bugging me, and I'm generally a cheery, irreverent type who's just riding this out and counting my blessings, but I resent having it thrust at me as a reminder in my happy outdoor space and I don't need the reminder when I'm out escaping. I don't want to be told to do what I'm doing anyway and have the subliminal reminder of what's wrong in the world.

DS would love a donkey. Lots of donkey stuff in our house

BogRollBOGOF you should adopt him one from the Donkey Sanctuary in Devon. I’ve adopted Eeyore for me and Pooh for DH. They do amazing work looking after the donkeys.

On the subject of ‘inspirational’ sayings, I’ve spent a lot of time on Rightmove recently and I’m amazed how many people have them stencilled on their walls!

DrivingDownThe101 Ha ha me too! I stepped away from the thread becaus I was one dementor away from covering the house with red, white & blue bunting & pictures of Her Madge.

🤣 at the donkeyvirus!

I have given up being depressed by the dementors. I just can't be arsed anymore and try to remember this thread and either laugh or roll my eyes at them.

One of the insidious things about Dementors is that they only reveal themselves in response to someone else being non-dementorial or asking for reassurance. In that respect they are like diarrhoea or heartburn. I wonder if there is a way of working out in advance if someone has dementorish tendencies then trying to cure them before they start dementing?

Went for a long walk today (of three hours!! Burn the witch!) and passed this billboard which reminded me of this thread.

Do you know I have been on mumsnet since 2001 (under different name - had a break for a few years ) and am really shocked by how different the vibe is now ! I mean with such vitriol and dementor - types swooping down on people asking for support / advice. Is it to make themselves feel better in some messed up way ?? Really really horrible (

Spare a thought for the Aussie dementors who only have 95 deaths to dement over. They are very unhappy. First they predicted that the entire Australian population plus an extra 10% for good measure would die horrible deaths if we didn’t lockdown now. Then Australia did a light lockdown but that wasn’t good enough. The curve would go straight up! Death! Deaths! Deaths! But the curve has flattened and is almost negligible. Some states haven’t recorded new cases for days. Restrictions were eased this weekend and will be further eased after the National Cabinet meeting on 8 May. This is their last hope for more deaths. They need a big spike in deaths. They are salivating for it. Corona-hysteria is their identity, their life’s work. This is what they were born to do. The economy opening and everything going back to normal is not the Great Narrative.

Haha at the billboard. yes people on cruise ships are so sprightly, and youthful, (but lets not start on them again!)

Yes see the kindness and empathy I got from them here upon finding we had missed the grant thing for the self employed. Made me feel so much better! (not)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3890924-Covid-self-employed-grant-we-missed-it

You're right think they go for people a bit vulnerable / looking for support and reassurance. Don't bother us do they

Won't make much difference to us anyway, but that isn't the point. Those are the RULES, and should have stuck to THEM! (lots of capitals) and need a rocket up our ARSE!

I see now there is a thread asking if we’ll find abandoned care homes full of dead bodies in a few months time. Lots of dementors rubbing their hands with glee - “oh yes! That’s a distinct possibility, there could be thousands of dead bodies we don’t know about - that will put the death rate higher!!!”
Urgh

Esprohuy that reminds me of a technique called grey rock used for dealing with dramatic and toxic types of people. main things are not to engage in their drama, and not to give any information about you for example be very boring and 'fine' so they can't 'get at' you

Which would relate to this, as you say, they seem to go for people asking for reassurance or querying something. So a bit like not going near a nest of wasps I suppose.

Here it talks about 'manipulative' people, which is similar to those imposing their views and opinions on others as fact...

www.healthline.com/health/grey-rock

Oh I see that one Russell, they even managed to get their favourite phrase in 'turning blue from lack of oxygen'.

We had one yesterday on the local fb group. Absolutely berating (anonymously of course) a family who had an NHS rainbow outside but we're having visitors for a day party.

Family in question then replied - they are burying their mum tomorrow as a result of covid and someone had popped into the garden to contactlessly collect a funeral shirt as clothes shops are closed.

No apology from the dementor who I assume went back to frothing over Costa drive thrus reopening 20 miles away on the local paper feed instead.

Shows what a horrid horrid world we have become.

Yes - their favourite phrase. Some people really think it will DOUBLE the figures. We will find 28000 dead people? Geez, can you imagine the smell? They must love the thought of that

"a quick Google search revealed numerous instances of people visiting homes and "failing to notice" that someone was dead"

Yes right I'm sure that happens all the time!

I'm sorry but that actually made me laugh in a dark humour sort of way. "Oh don't worry about old George, he's fine just watching the telly" (George has been dead since 2018)

@DominaShantotto

That’s utterly despicable. They should be ashamed of themselves. They’re always anonymous aren’t they? Funny that. If you are indeed so sure you are right why not put your name to it then? Own your dementoring. Cowards.

"quick Google search revealed numerous instances of people visiting homes and "failing to notice" that someone was dead

I saw that too! I can imagine this could happen once but I think staff would notice them all being dead! “They’re all very quiet this morning aren’t they, not a single taker for breakfast!”

I'm sorry but that actually made me laugh in a dark humour sort of way. "Oh don't worry about old George, he's fine just watching the telly" (George has been dead since 2018)

Actually happened to a friend of mine, who was a rather dysfunctional soul with a history of drinking till she passed out. Fella came home, saw her slumped in the corner and assumed she had got wrecked again so watched telly and went to bed. She had overdosed and no one realised till she was still slumped in the corner the following morning.

I'm not at all distressed relating that by the way - long time ago and a very very troubled young lady.

Yes everyone knows if you google stuff you'll come up with all sorts of rubbish. Talk about stirring up drama.

Example here of someone seeking reassurance and asking something reasonable "have we overreacted?" and getting abuse. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3898945-AIBU-to-think-in-the-future-we-will-look-back-on-this-and-think-this-was-such-a-big-overreaction

It reminds me of that fawlty towers episode “the kipper and the corpse” 🤭

Yes Domina sounds like a peaceful death in some ways. Demenotors don't like peaceful deaths do they it has to be a 'terrible way to go'.