Never planned my wedding as a girl

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I just watched the episode of Friends where Monica says girls all plan their ideal wedding throughout their lives. I know it's only TV, but I just never did this, or don't remember if I did.

I'm sure I'm not alone. Anyone else?

Nope. I've never had any interest in weddings and ours was teeny tiny and just a quick ceremony and then a lovely meal out! And my dress was gold and sparkly and something I can wear again

No but I did enjoy wacthing Charles and Diana wedding and drawing fancy dresses but didn't do any wedding planning.

I think I partially picked up that family and friends thought no-one would want me and career staying close to family was more likely option for me. I left home for university promptly met someone and been with them for over 20 years.

When I did get married I thought planning stuff would be fun. However so many diffcult people with agendas and we paid for things ourselves so in end went for practical rather than overspend on a day that was looking more difficult than fun and celebrationionary. We even got talked out of a honeymoon.

There's actually a lot of events - my exam results, graduation, wedding, pg, becoming new mum,buying first house, first with kids when family have frankly piss all over my/ our chips.

No, but I was expecting this thread to say that you had recently changed sex and are having to rethink your wedding outfit as a result

I hate that kind of stuff too JuniLoola and it does seem to be the norm nowadays. Everyone sees to think they are being clever or original but actually it is self absorbed and tedious. I have been to a few weddings recently where a huge part of the budget has clearly gone on cringeworthy decorations charting the happy couple's "journey" but the food and drinks have been underwhelming to put it mildly. Call me old fashioned (I am now at the stage when I am being invited to friend's children's weddings) but when I was planning my wedding the idea that I had in my head was that the reception was meant to be enjoyable for the guests. I would never have dreamed of letting people who had travelled hundreds of miles go away hungry. Recently we stopped off at a McDonalds on the way home after a wedding because we were still starving and bumped into half the other guests! But hey, we had a personalised keyring with a picture of the bride and groom on one side and Milton Keynes Travelodge where they first shagged or something on the other......
I'm either getting old and bitter or people are getting more self obsessed. Or possibly both. Sorry. Rant over.

No, I don't recall ever even thinking about weddings, until we got engaged and found ourselves having to arrange one. Beforehand (and honestly, during and after) I found weddings really quite tedious.

DM on the other hand had apparently had my wedding planned from the moment she found out I was a girl!

Nope me neither. No interest whatsoever.

Got married quickly just us in Vegas.

Never planned it.
I guess looking back I had fleeting moments of what a wedding would be like (I never went to a wedding as a child)

But the planning part of the wedding is the most boring part and the part I hated the most so can’t imagine many children make believe planning their own wedding for fun

Same here, I find the whole thing quite hard to understand.

I didn't plan as such, but I had very definite thoughts in mind because I'd attended so many (was in the church choir, in the days when the choice was church or register office).

I knew I was going to wear my mother's dress, I knew I was going to have the reception in the church hall, and I knew I was Not Going To Be Late.

(To be fair, there wasn't much else to think about after that... bridesmaids all got their own dresses, buffet was obviously going to be done by a friend at the church, and we'd all had so much fun doing Barn Dances that it was a no-brainer to ask the barn-dancing people at church to run the entertainment )

Absolutely not and it was never mentioned by any of my family or friends, maybe it more common in the US so we see it in their films and sitcoms.

I never wanted to get married, even on the day I had thoughts of wtf am I doing here, I had tried to end the relationship 4 months before the wedding but got gaslighted in to going through with it. Stuck with it for nearly 8 years until I had a lightbulb moment & left him.

Nope, never really thought about it until I had to plan one. That was enough of a pain in the ass. A lot of making decisions about things that everyone seemed to think was important, but I didn't really care that much about.

I regularly tell dh that we can never split up because I never want to be single and faced with even the possibility of ever contemplating planning another wedding. Once was bad enough.

Never planned it as kid and never imagined myself having my princess day in my white dress.

I've been to some really good weddings and they're great for bringing people who don't see that much of each other together but I think the amount people spend on them is madness!

Not only did I not plan my wedding, I never had any interest in getting married.

Had a fair few relationships, but never even came close to marrying one of them and now I'm steadfastly single with no intention of ever being part of a 'couple' again. Very happy as I am. I have a couple of grown up kids who I love to bits. But I always know I would never marry and I never did - not even close.

I never did either! My mum was a feminist, which probably helped.

I still don’t get the poofy white dress thing, or most of the traditions really. Even if we do get married.

Nope
My MIL planned my wedding and that was fine by me. Divorced now and never going to get married again. Phew!

Nope after being made to be a bridesmaid when l was 7 and a Tom boy l was never getting married. I had to wear this yellow puff ball dress and silly floral hat. My older sister loved it and l can still remember the pain of getting the rags pulled from my hair so it was like ringlets.

My aunt who l was bridesmaid for didn’t come to my wedding as she still hadn’t forgiven me 23 years later because the dresses were only on loan and l ripped it playing football after tucking it on my knickers.

Both me and dh were both amazed how good our wedding turned out to be seeing as there was such a lack of planning. I found my dress by accident and we never went to a bridal fayer at all.

Nope, I never did.

In fact I have been engaged for nearly seven years, still not married as I bloody hate weddings and every time I start to even consider planning it, I think "nope". I swear, I hoped lockdown and the fact weddings can't go ahead might have meant you could somehow fill in an online form and get married that way

The only benefit of lockdown is that I now know we just need to get it done with sooner rather than later, so once we can - registry office here we come

No. Not here.

No! And I organised it with minimum fuss and expense.

Not me. I married in my late 30s but never gave it any thought . I romantised about who I would marry but never the details of the wedding/dress etc

Nope. Didn't cross my mind, I was a tomboy growing up.

However, when my now DH proposed and we got married, the day itself really was the best day of my life, it was just perfect. I loved wearing a big dress as well and feeling very 'bridal' (despite never thinking about wedding dresses growing up).

I enjoyed planning it and wasn't in the least bit stressed. People who get stressed out by planning what is really a big party must be hard work to be around

No, never planned or imagined anything involving marriage.At complete odds to this , I love Say Yes to the Dress type programmes. Lost count of the number of times they trip out the "every girl dreams of this /has planned this .."" yawn ..have they feck