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XylophoneSymphony · 2020-04-21T15:54:45+00:00

Delivery driver today visibly uncomfortable in some way asked to use our toilet - I felt bad but had to say no as apart from the CV risk currently i wasn’t sure if he may have had a bad stomach? I have young dc who aren’t well so can’t risk it. I felt bad after but I think anyone at this time would have said no wouldn’t they

BestOption · 22/04/2020 17:33

@XylophoneSymphony I think given your DC's health issues, saying no was understandable. DONT feel bad 🌷

I would have said yes, but I have industrial strength bleach & rubber gloves (& don't have a cling on toddler!!)

I can't believe how many wont let a man in the house if their DH isn't home 🙄.

peppermintcapsules · 22/04/2020 17:40

Yep, absolutely happy to not allow them to shit in my loo if it were upstairs and I was on my own in the house with my kids during a pandemic that can be transmitted by bodily fluids and during a lockdown in which you are told not to allow anyone into your home who doesn't live there. Not interested in cleaning it up after and inhaling a virus that's known to kill people.

Unbelievable! Not supposed to even visit your parents if they don't live with you but are 'mean' for not letting in some random to do a shit in your toilet who may be carrying the virus.

That's MN for you.

peppermintcapsules · 22/04/2020 17:42

I can't believe how many wont let a man in the house if their DH isn't home 🙄.

And the bathroom is upstairs. With your kids in the house. During a lockdown due to a pandemic virus that's potentially lethal and can be transmitted via bodily fluids. But on MN, your home is a public toilet.

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 22/04/2020 17:51

A driver who works for us at work has a bucket of cat litter and a plastic bin bag in the back of his van. Cheerfully referred to as the shit sack and piss bucket. If he cant find anywhere to go or gets stuck in traffic for hours he uses them.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/04/2020 17:54

I can't believe how many wont let a man in the house if their DH isn't home

It’s quite common on here I’ve seen. Along with not answering the door after a certain time, not letting meter readers read meters etc.

Ulver · 22/04/2020 18:06

As I said before Men’s Literal Shit 👀 is not my problem. They are adults not children ffs.
If they have virus symptoms I definitely am not letting them in the house!

peppermintcapsules · 22/04/2020 18:10

I can't believe how many wont let a man in the house if their DH isn't home

I won't let anyone in my house who isn't a member of the household unless it's emergency personnel. And certainly wouldn't let some random in to shit in my toilet if it's upstairs. They can go shit somewhere else. My day's of cleaning up men's shit are long over.

ColourMyDreams · 22/04/2020 19:14

I would have said yes and thought no more about it.

crosspelican · 22/04/2020 20:28

On reflection I think I would say yes. We only have one loo and it's upstairs. I might have quickly run up ahead of him and left some cleaning stuff out and asked him to tidy up after for hygiene reasons. Normally would be too embarrassed to say that, but these days it probably sounds less precious.

There's probably nowhere to go any more for drivers, and they're on the road for hours at a time. Thank goodness they're still working at all.

Womenwotlunch · 22/04/2020 20:33

I definitely would have said yes and just cleaned the toilet after he had left.

Harakeke · 22/04/2020 20:36

I’d say yes too. Many of us have the luxury of staying at home right now. These guys don’t, and we are only too happy to take advantage of the fact they are still out delivering. Poor man.

peppermintcapsules · 22/04/2020 20:44

What's the point of lockdown and social distancing if so many are nonchalant about letting in a person who potentially has the virus and then clean up after it? Can't believe the reams of threads on here baying for the blood of so many who might be putting a toe across the line with regards to lockdown but when it comes to a random who needs a shit people are completely nonchalant about it.

DavidSplatt · 22/04/2020 22:31

Honestly. I wouldn't have done either.

As snotty as that may sound

LimitIsUp · 22/04/2020 22:37

"What's the point of lockdown and social distancing if so many are nonchalant about letting in a person who potentially has the virus"

Simple, I wouldn't stand there watching him evacuate his bowels. I'd go in to the loo after a short interval and fling open the window, then I'd go back a bit later and thoroughly clean.

But perhaps it's a matter of perspective. People live, they die and life goes on. I am on overweight 52 year old. There is no guarantee that I would fare well if I contracted this virus - but sod it, I'd rather take my chances than life in (hugely exaggerated, disproportionate) fear

LimitIsUp · 22/04/2020 22:37

'Live in'

PurpleSprain · 22/04/2020 23:05

Jesus Christ, people, it's one thing for you to decide you're happy to take this sort of risk with your own life if you're living alone and otherwise totally isolated (no shipping, no daily walks) so you couldn't pass on any infection you may pick up. In those circumstances, have at it if you must - you're only risking taking up another hospital bed unnecessarily .

But it's quite another to be sanctimoniously 'shocked' that this woman wasn't willing to risk the health and lives of her children and herself so some random bloke can have a comfortable shit and act as though she's a terrible person because of it.

What on earth is wrong with you all?

LimitIsUp · 22/04/2020 23:13

If people are concerned about covid they can choose to stay home. To paraphrase you "Jesus Christ" where do they get off demanding that others follow suit.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/04/2020 23:16

But it's quite another to be sanctimoniously 'shocked' that this woman wasn't willing to risk the health and lives of her children and herself so some random bloke can have a comfortable shit and act as though she's a terrible person because of it

What about the manufacturers, warehouse staff, delivery drivers etc all still risking their health working so the people can purchase online and have it delivered? Or does that not count?

PurpleSprain · 22/04/2020 23:22

Limitisup I don't follow. The OP is at home. Someone is asking for access to that home. She quite rightly refused access on the basis of government mandate in a pandemic situation.

She's entitled to refuse access anyway because it's her home and her first responsibility is to her children, not whatever man shows up on her doorstep.

AnotherMurkyDay · 22/04/2020 23:25

I wouldn't, no. Due to risk to our safety safety from violence/abuse (however minimal) I wouldn't let someone I didn't know (especially somebody Male) inside my home. Also risk of them getting information which could be used for fraud. Due to risk from covid 19. Due to risk of contacting Noro virus or another bug if that's what caused his bad bowels. But I wouldn't justify it like that, I would just say sorry but no.

macaroniandpizza · 22/04/2020 23:27

Id have to say no according to the fact ive no bathroom door atm 😂 fine as its just 4yo ds and i but not so fine for visitors...

PurpleSprain · 22/04/2020 23:28

Icecream Cut this however you like, but:

The OP is following the mandates for dealing with the pandemic situation. This is for her safety, her children's safety and, as it happens, the delivery man's safety and that of everyone else he comes into contact with, including his colleagues in the warehouse etc. (it is perfectly possible that their household is infectious particularly if she's been going to the shop for food);

She's entitled to refuse access to her home at any time for any reason, and concern for her safety and the safety of her children, in terms of their health in this situation or general 'stranger danger', is absolutely not a ridiculous reason to do so however much people would like to think "it'll never happen to me, so #bekind".

peppermintcapsules · 22/04/2020 23:28

What about the manufacturers, warehouse staff, delivery drivers etc all still risking their health working so the people can purchase online and have it delivered? Or does that not count?

What about them? It's a total non sequitur that because people are still working on the front lines, one has to open one's home up as a public toilet .

peppermintcapsules · 22/04/2020 23:37

Well, the perspective of the OP is that she was at home with young children who she says are unwell, the only bathroom is upstairs. There's a pandemic on, the guidelines are not to allow people from other households into your home.

Personally, I'm not so cavalier with my personal safety and that of my kids that I'd let a random in to use my loo upstairs - it's entirely possible it was a ruse as well. If you're fine with being so nonchalant about it, that's fine, but it's far from being overly fearful or makes the OP a shit person if she finds that a risk that's unacceptable.

FabulouslyElegantTits · 23/04/2020 21:24

What's the point of lockdown and social distancing if so many are nonchalant about letting in a person who potentially has the virus and then clean up after it? Can't believe the reams of threads on here baying for the blood of so many who might be putting a toe across the line with regards to lockdown but when it comes to a random who needs a shit people are completely nonchalant about it.

This!! Wtf is wrong with people - I wouldn't let my mum come and shut in my house at the moment ... no wonder our country is doing so poorly at this Corona shit .. fml!

And the poster with the sarcastic 'eye roll' at not letting a man into the house unless my DH or a friend were there can absolutely go and fuck themselves. The estate agent sent someone round to view my house when I was on my own and he (the viewer) tried to sexually assault me, he pushed me against a wall and tried to stick his tongue down my throat - while my baby was sat in her bumbo - So fuck off (again) with your cavalier, I'm oh so independent attitude! 😡