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Dirty little secret

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:13

Hi

Hope everyone's doing ok

I've read on here before about weird feet fetishes and weirdos buying worn manky shoes on eBay for good money.

Well I had a nosey on eBay to see how rank they really were and how much they were going for

Don't know what come over me as it is just not me as a person to do so thing like that.

But I've only gone and fucking listed a pair of my old sandals on eBay

Didn't think nothing more of it checked this morning and I've got 11 messages from different people asking all sorts. How old they are. How much I've worn them etc. Telling me I've got pretty feet.

Half of me feels repulsed with myself. The other half feels like it's quite funny cheeky and harmless way to make a few extra ££

I darent tell DH hed hit the roof

He earns really bloody well but I have barely any money of my own once bills are done. Can't even put petrol in the car unless he's filled it up whilst he's used it. I'm so excited that I might actually have a few quid of my own to save up in secret

If you were me would you carry on and not mention it? Or stop being a stupid idiot and delete my eBay account?

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BrooHaHa · 20/04/2020 13:15

What, selling old shoes? I fail to see the problem.

Blueuggboots · 20/04/2020 13:15

Do you want them? If not, sell them! It's not your decision what they do with them once they've bought them!!

Sparklfairy · 20/04/2020 13:16

Whilst I'm amused on your behalf re the shoes, why the fuck haven't you got any money!?

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:17

I know
It sounds as silly as selling old shoes. But DH isn't daft. He would ask me how I could even have the cheek to put them online as they should just go in the bin.

And even tho I'm only taking pics of the shoes. Or my feet in the shoes (no toes showing if that makes any difference!) I feel like he'd go ballistic and I'm quite worried about his reaction

I'm just desperate to start saving money of my own. I have a toddler who I care for solely and want a back up secret fund just for invade

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Therollockingrogue · 20/04/2020 13:18

Messages don’t often translate to sales...

AnyFucker · 20/04/2020 13:19

If your H earns well why have you no money ?

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:19

@Sparklfairy it's a DH problem. I'm aware of it. But can't go anywhere because I have no money. Not a £ to my name after bills. We don't have a shared account. No friends since Toddler was born.

Don't work due to childcare.

It wasn't how we planned.

I was a high earner and we planned our child. I had friends. Close family

You know how it goes.

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Ohohohwhereyougoing · 20/04/2020 13:20

Your relationship sounds extremely concerning OP. Selling old shoes to ebay perves is the most normal thing about your post.

AnyFucker · 20/04/2020 13:20

You are being abused financially then ? Sad

carriebreadshaw · 20/04/2020 13:23

Yeah the shoes aren't the worry here. Surely if you leave you'll be better off financially than if you stay...? Maintenance, half the house, half the savings, possibly pension and you'll also get universal credit...

Just leave the financially abusive man and go sell shoes to pervs to your hearts content!

BrooHaHa · 20/04/2020 13:25

He would ask me how I could even have the cheek to put them online as they should just go in the bin.

Oh. Oh, I see. You need to be working on an exit strategy then, OP. Not only do you not have any money of your own, but he would be angry if you tried to earn some yourself? And you're worried about his reaction? Yes, you need to get out of dodge. Could you get back in touch with your family? Stay with them?

Sparklfairy · 20/04/2020 13:27

This is awful. Exploiting old pervs for a bit of a laugh and fun money is one thing.

Feeling like enabling pervs to get their kicks is your only option to your freedom is quite something else.

Your DH is a cunt.

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:29

Sorry my first post was misleading. Still getting used to the DH and other shorthand things

We're engaged to be married with no date set. Im not getting married. He doesn't know that.

Everything he has is in cash. No pension at all.

My family cut me off when they found I was pregnant out of wedlock.

Moved house miles and fuckin miles away from everything I knew and loved for a "fresh start"
Somewhere he chose

Shitty house is rented. Immaculately clean because I look after it. But needs so much work done it's unreal

So the plan was to sell these poxy fucking shoes to make a few quid and hide in my toddlers account. Which is under my bank account. I don't get a bank statement in the post for toddlers account. Just mine. Which he opens

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MuchTooTired · 20/04/2020 13:31

In your circumstances I would definitely carry on, and brush off dh’s reaction of saying you’ve a cheek of putting them online as you’ve heard people will buy any old shit on ebay! Cover your tracks though, delete the messages both on eBay and from your email completely, and list some of your toddlers outgrown clothes as well (they sell brilliantly) and write it off as a decluttering task.

I’m not being financially abused, but I get rid of the kids clothes on eBay. Dh thinks I do it for fun but I’ve actually made a good few hundred easily just getting rid of clothes they don’t need and he has no real idea - he’s shocked when I tell him the balance!

Will he look at your PayPal balance/does he know your log in?

BrooHaHa · 20/04/2020 13:31

Crikey. What country are you in?

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:32

@Sparklfairy please tell me what you suggest then? Honestly asking for your advice?

The only other thing I can think of doing is online sex work. I can't leave the house without a good enough reason. And within a good enough time limit. Eg. Can't go get a food shop and be gone for 4 hours.

Even then the online sex work he has access to the computer and I could easily be caught.

Exploiting old pervs as you put it didn't quite cross my mind. Now I see your point

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:32

@BrooHaHa UK

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:33

@MuchTooTired no i don't think so. He usually just opens my post I don't get letters from PayPal.

Well I haven't so far

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:34

All my toddlers out grown clothes are given to the charity at my local high st. I haven't got a clue why I didn't think of selling them.

I will have a dig through their wardrobe and find a few bits

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AnneKipanki · 20/04/2020 13:34

Leave .

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omgggggggggggg · 20/04/2020 13:37

@AnneKipanki thanks for that. Really helpful. Don't know why I didn't think to just up and leave 👍

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marchez · 20/04/2020 13:38

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Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 20/04/2020 13:38

I would run for the hills op and he sounds controlling and financially abusive,

Are you able to go back to your parents of you explained the situation to them as I'm sure that they wouldn't want you to be with your Dp given how he treats you.

lilyboleyn · 20/04/2020 13:41

I’ve tread the same path as you OP. Listed some trainers, ignored the filthy messages and waited for someone to bid. Someone did, but eBay spotted the listing, removed it and told me if i did another I’d be banned. Not worth it - I make a few bob a month from selling on eBay and it did make me feel a bit gross.

Anthilda · 20/04/2020 13:42

He should not be opening your mail, you should be able to go wherever you like, for however long. He should not be withholding money then judge if you try to earn your own. Your fresh start, location chosen by him, was a way of isolating you. I think you know all this. Lots to think about

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