Peter and Autumn Phillips have split.

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After 12 years of marriage. Very sad.

Apparently they told the Queen and their families last year and already is divorce proceedings...so definitely nothing to do with Harry & Meghan Indeed, but I wonder if the knowledge that Autumn would effectively stranded in the UK if she wants to stay with her daughters might have influenced Meghan pushing for a move to the US.

I wonder if the knowledge that Autumn would effectively stranded in the UK if she wants to stay with her daughters[...]

Obviously I know nothing about how any of these people feel, but as someone who lives outside her home country (and has children in the new country) I can say that it's absolutely possible to make a life somewhere else and not always be wishing that you were back in the place you came from.

I think it's a bit odd to assume that someone would automatically want to return to their birth country as soon as they divorce. I know that plenty of people do... but if you have children in a different place and bring them up there, make a proper life for yourself, why would you want to uproot your children, try to separate them from their other parent, take them away from everything they know, just to go back to a place you haven't lived in yourself for many years? It's not something you'd do automatically.

I suppose what I mean is, you're not "stranded" in your new country any more than you were when you were married. If you're living somewhere ONLY for your partner (after 12 years of marriage and a few of living together before that), then you're probably not doing this life thing right IMO.

Yes Autumn has been here for years, her children have always lived here and she might not want to uproot them. Presumably they’re settled in school, have friends etc.

Meghan was only here for a couple of years if that, and Archie is only a baby so it’s not really comparable.

I take your point Anouk - just reflecting on the experiences of a couple of friends of mine who have felt stranded (and one who feels very much trapped) thousands of miles from their families and friends while their cheating partners continue to enjoy all the comforts of home. I can imagine this experience might feel very much magnified if marrying into the royal family and I don’t doubt one of the things which has helped Kate settle in so well is having her mum and dad just down the road in Berkshire so she can easily escape to a bit of relative normality if she needs to.

I don’t think there’s been any suggestion that Harry or Peter have cheated, William maybe. And obviously H and M went to Canada together. If you want your dc to continue to have close contact with both their parents, it’s going to be hard to do this if you move to a different continent, even if you do have money.

Who?

Indeed, but I wonder if the knowledge that Autumn would effectively stranded in the UK if she wants to stay with her daughters might have influenced Meghan pushing for a move to the US. Unlikely

Surely anyone having kids with someone from another country is aware of this dilemma if they should break up? I doubt it suddenly occurred to her after the split.

She wears fabulous clothes. I'll miss seeing her at events

Surely anyone having kids with someone from another country is aware of this dilemma if they should break up? Not necessarily - I don't think the prospect of splitting up crosses some people's minds until it actually happens. Meghan, having already had one broken marriage, would be only too well aware of the possibility - hence her haste to move back onto home turf once Archie was born.